Guest Post by B.G. @ Getting Through Anxiety – The Truth About Writing: It’s Not That Simple

Rae from Bookmark Chronicles was kind enough to feature this guest post of mine! Thanks Rae!

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Hi all,

B.G. from Getting Through Anxiety has written another wonderful guest post. If you aren’t familiar with her yet make sure you check out her blog!


THE TRUTH ABOUT WRITING: IT’S NOT THAT SIMPLE

“Everyone can write.”

I hate when people say this. While I understand that many people can yes, literally write, that’s not what people mean when they say this. No. What people usually mean when they say this is that anyone can write a good story. I’m sorry, but I don’t think that’s true.

Writing takes talent and practice. While anyone can string words together and write about their experiences, not everyone can do it well. I remember telling this woman once that I wanted to be a writer and she made some comment about how anyone could do it. Now she wasn’t saying that writing wasn’t important or that true authors didn’t need much skill…

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Please Stop Doubting Yourself!

Today I really realized something: there are way too many highly talented people doubting their abilities.

I think we’ve all been there. We love to do something and although we’ve managed to get a lot of great compliments on how talented we are, we focus instead on the few negative comments that we hear instead. We begin to wonder if we’re truly good at something or if  we’ve just been fooling ourselves.

Let’s take me for example. While this is extremely difficult for me to talk about (it bruised my ego pretty badly), I think it’s necessary that I do. I got all excited when I was asked to write something for money, but then I found out that the individual refused to pay me for what I wrote. Instead of liking my writing like I hoped they would, they said some really horrible things about it, making me feel like I had no talent whatsoever.

This was hard to deal with and admittedly it still hurts. It’s not that the person wasn’t happy with my writing that bothers me (everyone’s entitled to their opinion and as a writer, I need to accept criticism), but rather just how unhappy they were and how they said so many awful things. I admit that it really made me question my abilities and even now, I’m still having a little trouble believing that I’m a good writer.

The thing is though, that I have gotten tons of positive feedback for my writing. I’ve had a lot of positive responses to my posts on here, the articles I write for The Seeds 4 Life, and some of my poems and stories as well!

I was talking to a good friend of mine and they mentioned how they were worried that they weren’t making much of a difference in the blogging community. I have to say that I think this is far from the truth. The posts that they write are full of inspiration and remind me how I’m not alone in my struggle. The fact that they question their talents surprised me to say the least. I wondered how a person who is so talented in so many ways can think that they aren’t making a difference!

As I mentioned, I consider this individual is a really good friend. I may have not met him in person, but I can tell that he cares about my well-being. This person’s friendship means the world to me and I’m happy that we’re both there to help each other when things get tough.

The point that I’m trying to make is that there are going to be times when we all question our talents. There will be moments when our confidence is shaken and when we wonder if the compliments we receive are genuine, or are just said to spare our feelings. However, it’s only fair that if we’re willing to accept the negative comments as true, that we must do the same with the positive ones. Also, sometimes negative comments are said because others are jealous, want to hurt you for some reason, or simply don’t want to be responsible for giving you the praise that you deserve. I’m not saying that criticisms shouldn’t be taken as a way to improve, but I’m saying that negative feedback is not the only kind that counts.

Please, please, please start giving yourselves the credit you deserve! I have read so many helpful posts ever since I started blogging. Please stop selling yourself short. Remember all of the positive comments you’ve received, not just the negative. Have you received nice, positive comments on your blog posts? Have you received blog awards? Have you been published? Have you been given compliments on your personality? Have others said good things about you? All of these things matter!!

Yes, there are times when we might hear things that don’t exactly make us happy. We may write something and get a bad review, we may hear negative words spoken about us, or we may just feel like we fell short of a goal. While we shouldn’t always write off these criticisms (sometimes we need to take them all in and use them to improve ourselves), we need to realize that sometimes criticisms are simply cruel words from people who aren’t worth listening to.

I ask that you all take some time and reflect on your talents, your abilities. Reflect on how kind you are, how talented you are, and how giving you are. If you’ve contributed something positive to the world (and so many of you have), then you have made a difference. Please don’t ever doubt that!

I want to thank all the people who continue to support me. 🙂 ❤

 

May Photo A Day Challenge & Book Challenge – May 5th

May Photo Challenge:

Another talent I have is that I can type pretty fast without looking at the keys. I imagine a lot of people have this talent, but I know that some struggle with it a little. My mom just said yesterday how she wishes she could type as fast as I can. I admit, I do like being able to not look at the keys and type at a good pace!

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May Book Challenge:

I found this image on Google Images. Apparently, I really liked this book when I was younger. While it’s a little embarrassing, I thought I’d post it anyway!

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April Photo A Day Challenge – April 18th

Idol:

So this is kind of a weird one because the word “idol” means some one or thing that you worship (leave it to a former English major to take things literally!) and I don’t really “worship” any of these people. However, I do look up to people for different reasons, so without further ado…

When it comes to people, I look up to my Grandma (who passed away) and my dad. I’m not going to post pictures of them though so let’s post pictures of celebrities that I look up to for different reasons!

Fashion Idol:

Gwen Stefani! I love that she can pretty much pull off anything and look amazing! Plus I love her more casual looks and some of her more funky ones too! Especially the ones from the 90s! Her music is awesome too! She just wears such cool stuff!

UNIVERSAL CITY, CA - JULY 22: Singer Gwen Stefani of "No Doubt" performs onstage during the 2012 Teen Choice Awards at Gibson Amphitheatre on July 22, 2012 in Universal City, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)

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THE VOICE -- "Live Playoffs" Episode 913B -- Pictured: Gwen Stefani -- (Photo by: Trae Patton/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)

 

Music:

Jewel! I know you guys are probably tired of me saying this, but I love Jewel’s music! She has such an amazing voice and for the most part, she writes all of her own music. I really respect a musician that does that. Also, while there are a couple of small things about her that really annoy me, I love that she’s never been one to show up in the news for anything negative. She’s grounded and talented and I think that’s amazing. Her concert was also the first one I ever went to. It was amazing!

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The Untold Story of the Liebster Award

I just read this amazing story written by Sharon over at Curious Queendom. She is so creative, talented, and kind. Please check out her wonderful blog!

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I was nominated for the Liebster Award, so I went on a search to discover just what this award means. This is what I “found.”

Once upon a time, a woman magically appeared at the entrance of a cave. She couldn’t remember what she had been doing before she was summoned nor why she was summoned there in the first place.

She turned toward the cave and was greeted by a stench of death, blood and sweat. She waved at air, trying to dispel the terrible smell to no a avail, hastily backing away from the cave into forest thick with trees – the forest so thick that it formed an impassable wall.

Staring at the entrance to the cave, she contemplated her options: die here in the nook before the cave from eventual starvation, or journey into the unknown while she still had the strength to face the dangers…

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Skeleton with a Heart

Please read this amazing piece of writing by Jade! She captures the thoughts of many of us writers. She has an amazing talent for writing and a big heart.

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The worry bubbled up inside her until she felt that she would burst. Her throat felt tight as though she would throw up all the words that she didn’t know how to say. The blank page before her seemed to align itself with her emptiness, and there was no way to fill it.

Even if she could write, her hand would shake so much the words wouldn’t make a strong enough impression on the page, and therefore wouldn’t have any affect on the reader. The Reader? she heard the question asked to herself by the voice in her head, but you don’t have any readers, you only have yourself.

Sat in her bedroom, she looked around. It was true, she was alone. The words she wished to write wouldn’t come because she worried too much about who would read them, and whether they would enjoy it. But she realised…

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