Call For Suggestions!

Hey everyone! So as many of you may know, I had a page dedicated to tips for those who wanted to help those who struggle with anxiety. I’ve decided to rename the page ‘Anxiety Help – A List’. This page will not only include tips on how to help those who struggle with anxiety, but will also include a list of ways to help yourself if you struggle with anxiety.

I would greatly appreciate it if you please comment below with any tips you may have for someone who is either (a) struggling with anxiety themselves or (b) wants to help someone who is struggling with anxiety but doesn’t know how. There are a lot of people who either suffer from anxiety or want to help those who do, but don’t know how. I think this may help both raise awareness on the subject of mental health and may just help those out there who struggle. Please take some time if you can and contribute to the list! I will definitely quote your advice if I find it beneficial and you are more than welcome to stay anonymous if you so choose. Please just let me know!

Thank you so much,

B.G.

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Energizing Songs

I’m in a bit of a musical mood this morning, so I thought I’d suggest some songs to help you feel motivated! You can check out videos to these songs by clicking on the links!

Wind It Up – Gwen Stefani – The Sweet Escape

Now That You Got It – Gwen Stefani – The Sweet Escape

*I know these songs are older, but Gwen Stefani and No Doubt have some great upbeat songs!

American Girl – Train – My Private Nation

Fergalicious – Fergie – The Dutchess

Paint It Black – Vanessa Carlton – Be Not Nobody (I know this isn’t originally her song, but I LOVE this version!)

Yes You Can – Jewel – 0304

Call Me – Blondie – Greatest Hits Redux

*Like any of these songs? Have any songs that make you feel energized? Feel free to mention them in the comment section. Please do not post any videos though. I have nothing against other blogs that do, but I don’t wish for my blog to become really slow due to this. Thank you for understanding!

Instead of Labeling: My Suggestions

A couple of days ago, I wrote the post Labeling: Why It’s Not Always a Good Thing. First of all, I want to thank all of you who read, liked, and/or commented on the post. The topic was really important to me. I received a lot of comments asking me how I thought schools could change their policies and how labeling could change. I thought about this and here are some of my suggestions:

1.) LISTEN to the student! If they say that they have anxiety and need a different room to take an exam in so that they can feel comfortable, for example, accept that. To me, the reason they give you should be enough for you to help them. It’s not as if they’re trying to find a way to cheat on the exam or something. I mean, think about it, what can a student gain by lying about having anxiety? When I was given a different room, I had someone there to make sure I didn’t cheat. For the most part, I really couldn’t have cared less. You know why? Because I wasn’t cheating! Don’t get me wrong, it felt kind of weird having someone being in the room purposely to watch over me, but quite honestly, I wasn’t really that bothered.

2.) If a student has suggestions of how they can help you help them, LISTEN. What do I mean by this? I had a few ideas for how I could take my math exam more comfortably. For example, I have a chair that I use outside that has a higher back. I thought of maybe bringing it in and using it for the exam. I was told that I couldn’t do that and that it wasn’t allowed. Fine. I was then told that maybe they could find me a laptop to use (the problem was that where the computers were in the original room, I would be anxious there taking the test). If I had a laptop, I could move wherever I felt comfortable, and take the exam. However, they ended up telling me that for whatever reason, they couldn’t find a laptop that had the program on it. So, I couldn’t bring in my own chair, they couldn’t find me a laptop (though that was their suggestion at first), and they couldn’t find me a better chair. Wouldn’t those choices have been easier for the both of us rather than make me “claim” that I was disabled?

3.) Just allow the student to do what’s easiest! I don’t understand why I couldn’t just have the room reserved in the first place. Everything in the end worked out and I even did well on the exam. My point? It’s not that hard to reserve a room. A student shouldn’t have to say that they’re “disabled” just so they can feel comfortable. It’s demeaning, especially when the person ISN’T disabled! I just don’t see the point. Whether or not a person is “disabled”, do they really need to be labeled this way to get help? Especially when it’s as simple as taking an exam in a different room?

These are just some suggestions that I have. What are yours? I’d love to hear them!

*Don’t get me wrong. I am more than grateful for the fact that the person that helped me get the room, helped me. However, I think the way that it was gone about was all wrong. It could have been a lot simpler for everyone.

The Unwanted – A Book Review

It’s time again to take a break from writing about anxiety (though I did just get my blood drawn and got a little anxious afterward), and write another book review! I just finished The Unwanted by John Saul and man, was it good!

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Copyright: 1987

Rating: 5/5

My Synopsis:

Cassie Winslow is forced to move back where she was born when a horrible accident occurs. Right from the beginning, Cassie finds it hard being accepted by her classmates. Her father, who she doesn’t often get to see, is happy to now have Cassie living with him. His daughter, Jennifer also looks forward to having a step-sister. Rosemary, Cassie’s stepmother, tries to accept Cassie but doesn’t find it to be the easiest thing to do.

Miranda is a woman that many people in Cape Cod consider to be a witch. No one talks to Miranda and people try to avoid eye contact with the woman at all costs. However, when Cassie arrives in the town, she finds herself oddly drawn to the woman.

Meanwhile, Eric Cavanaugh is the Winslow’s next door neighbor. His home life is difficult to say the least, but he is fairly popular in school. What will happen when Cassie and Eric meet and how does Miranda play into it all?

My Opinion:

This book was great! From beginning to end, John Saul uses clear imagery. There aren’t a lot of books where I feel that I can truly get lost in them, but this was one of them. The characters were described excellently and I really felt as if I got to know them. I loved the character of Cassie and I love how Saul manages to keep his readers guessing until the very end.

This book is advertised as terrifying but I consider it more along the lines of eerie. It has a lot of creepy scenes and it’s definitely gruesome at times, but there was never a moment where I felt like I jumped out of my skin. However, I did think that it had just the right amount of horror to it.

Many of you may know that I have the bad habit of not finishing books. It’s not that I don’t love reading, it’s just that it takes a really good book to hold my attention and to keep me wanting more. I couldn’t put this book down and I probably would have read it a lot faster if the typing wasn’t so small (I know that makes me sound old, but it’s kind of tiny)!

I strongly suggest that you guys read this book, especially if you like horror stories or want to read a book that’s not too scary, but creepy enough. The Unwanted has a great plot, great twists, and great characters. If any of you read this or have read it in the past, please feel free to let me know what you think!

I seriously almost don’t know how to describe how good this book was. It was well written and honestly, really, really interesting!

Excuses

Using excuses to avoid practicing in order to get through our anxiety and other issues can be tempting. However, unlike eating more potato chips than we think we should, usually the temptation to find excuses to not exercise is not something that we want to do because it feels good or makes us happy. For example, we may want to eat more potato chips because they’re delicious and because we find it hard to stop. On the other hand, we may not want to give into our excuses for not practicing and exercising because we know it’s bad for us and because we know that giving into that excuse will, in the end, make us feel horrible. What I’m saying is, that no good feeling really comes out of using excuses when it comes to practicing. We don’t get to taste the delicious taste of potato chips, ice cream, or any other food that we know if we eat too much of will make us sick. So then why do we find excuses when we know that there is really no great benefit?

We find excuses because practicing can be difficult. Sometimes we don’t feel well and even if we don’t want to give into those feelings, we do. Sometimes even though we hate giving into feeling too anxious to practice, sometimes it feels “safer” not to practice because our anxiety makes us feel too weak. Therefore, we use feeling anxious as an excuse for not practice facing our fears.

My point is that while we never really benefit from giving into excuses not to practice overcoming our obstacles, we still allow ourselves to give in at times. Sometimes without even looking for them, they’re there. Some of these reasons not to practice make sense. It makes sense that we wouldn’t want to practice while not feeling well or while being bombarded with anxiety. However, whether or not they are reasonable or make sense isn’t always the point. We need, yes need, to find ways to practice. Even if for some reason we don’t practice in the exact same way or the same amount of intensity as usual, we need to get some practicing done. So the next time you’re not feeling well or feel too anxious to practice, take a break and when you’re feeling a little better, do what you can! Even if it’s not as much as usual, you need to do something healthy and beneficial in order to practice and stay on track! Remember, practicing only begins to help when we do so consistently.

I know I’ve asked before, but if anyone has any suggestions on how to practice when feeling sick or low on motivation, please let me and everyone who reads this blog know! Thank you.

 

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Getting Through (And Over) Anxiety

There are so many difficult things about anxiety. One of them in particular is being able to push through our anxiety and not allow ourselves to obsess about it. What do I mean by this? Sometimes, when we experience a panic attack or stressful situation, it’s hard to let it go. I know that oftentimes people tell me that the situation is over and that I should just move on, but it’s not always that simple.

It would be a lot simpler if we could just snap our fingers and make our anxiety disappear, but unfortunately, I don’t think many of us are able to do this. Anxiety has a way of sticking with us, of reminding us that we felt out of control and anxious. We can get through our anxiety though and we have to find a way to move on.

I don’t completely have the answer on how to do this. I’ve noticed that when I get anxious, the feeling doesn’t go away immediately after the stressful situation is over. For example, if I go somewhere and get anxious, when I leave I might feel better, but once I get home that anxious feeling might still be with me. We have to try to push anxiety out of the way, to remind ourselves that while we may have gotten anxious, we can and will get better as long as we try hard.

So how do we try to get through and over our anxiety quicker? How do we bounce back from feeling anxious and stressed before it takes up any more of our time? We need to remind ourselves that we are strong and that we can get through our anxiety. However, anxiety does not always disappear quickly. If anyone has any suggestions on how to get through our anxious feeling quicker, please let me know!