It’s Not For Nothing

I’ve touched on this subject before, but I think it’s very important. Sometimes when we make a step towards making progress, it doesn’t turn out to be as successful as a step as we might have hoped. While it is good to sometimes be upset with ourselves for not making as much progress as we may have hoped (this keeps us motivated and on track), we also have to learn to be grateful for the progress that we do make. No one is perfect and while this should not be used as a cop-out, it should be understood so that we don’t become too angry with ourselves.

Let’s say that you are giving a speech to overcome your anxiety with speaking in public. Let’s say that you begin your speech, but you cannot finish or you finish but you didn’t do as good of a job as you may have hoped. It is totally understandable that you may be disappointed in yourself, after all you wanted to achieve a level of success and perhaps you didn’t. The important thing to remember though is that you tried and if you gave it your best shot, that means a lot. Any steps that you make towards reaching your goals are not pointless, even if you find yourself wishing you did better.

Wishing we did better when we fall short of what we want is normal. After all, most of us want to succeed and most of us want to reach the goal we had in mind. However, unfortunately, things don’t always go as well as planned and we have to try our hardest to look on the positive side of things. If we try our hardest to get through our anxiety and other issues in good and healthy ways, we really can’t go wrong.

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Getting Back On Track

If you decide to take a break from practicing at the same intensity level as usual (and you should have a good reason before doing so), remember that it is important that after an amount of time, you resume to your normal amount of practice. I say this because I understand that once you start practicing less, it is easy to fall behind. However, we cannot afford to stop exercising and practicing; we need to continue to build strength and confidence in order to get through our anxiety and other issues.

It can be hard to get back on track. For one thing, laziness is often an issue. We can get into a pattern of not stretching enough and before we know it, our progress is lessening because of this. Also, if we have a decent excuse for practicing less (say sickness, etc.), even when we may be feeling better we may tend to continue to not try as hard.

Something that I have noticed is a bit difficult when trying to get back on track, is that once we slow down when it comes to how much effort we put into getting better, our confidence level may go down. Due to our confidence level decreasing slightly, we may feel that we cannot practice as much as before and be as successful. The truth is, however, that if we were doing well before, we can do well again. Here are some steps to help you get back on track.

1.) Even when you are practicing less, still practice somewhat. While I understand no one is perfect, there shouldn’t be a day where you go completely without practicing at all.

2.) Start building up the amount of times (and intensity) of your exercising and practices. For example if you were practicing facing your fears ninety times a day and then you went down to fifty for whatever reason, slowly increase the amount of exercises that you do. This will prove to yourself that you do have the strength to get back on track.

3.) Constantly remind yourself of your overall progress and how you have managed to get through anxiety.

4.) Keep track of your progress and record how much you are exercising. By doing this you will be able to actually see on paper how much you are improving and that you are working harder to get through your anxiety.

 

**These are just ideas and some advice that I have. I am not a doctor and understand that some cases may vary. If anyone has any other suggestions, feel free to let me know!

Increasing Intensity

For about a little over a week now, I haven’t been practicing as much. I found out that I have shingles and have to take a lot of medicine and due to this, I’ve obviously felt less like practicing and found that for whatever reason, I’m not finding it as easy to practice as much. However, I realize that I still need to push myself as much as possible and that even though I have let myself slide a little more than I possibly should, I need to start slowly pushing myself to pick up where I left off before I started letting my practice fall by the wayside.

Is it okay to take small breaks and step back from practicing as much? Sometimes, yes. Sometimes we need to take a break. However, what is not okay is to let ourselves think that it is alright to never return to working as hard as we previously were when we were making more progress. We need to make sure that we remember the progress we made when we were pushing ourselves and we need to try to return to achieving the levels of success that we were making before allowing ourselves to take that break.

I am continuing to remind myself that while I may feel like I cannot do as many stretches as I once did, this simply isn’t true. I’ve just taken a break and most likely due to the break, I don’t feel as confident. What does this tell me? This tells me that I have to resume practicing and stretching more and that exercising really is important. I need to get back to feeling more confident so that I can do more things that I know I can do.

It’s important that even if you don’t do as much exercising, that you still do some each day. We cannot allow ourselves to give up on getting through our anxiety. We can also not give up on exercising and practicing, for it is what helps us prove to ourselves that we can overcome our obstacles. So if you must take a break from practicing as much, you can, but you still need to practice a little each day.

When Others Aren’t Understanding

Struggling with anxiety is difficult, but what may be even harder at times is when the people you love don’t seem to understand or try to help you with what you’re dealing with. It’s hard to be labeled by those who don’t understand as “childish”, “immature”, or “someone who just wants attention”. It’s also not easy when someone who you believe should be there for you, helping you get through your worst moments, seems to not want to help in the kindest way possible.

People have told me that you have to ignore the negative comments from those who don’t know what you are going through. How do you ignore, though, the cruel words of someone that means so much to you? How do you overcome the mean words of the ones you love and respect, the ones who you want to care about you and love you?

This is not an easy question to answer, or at least it’s not easy for me. On one hand, I want to be able to ignore the unkind words, but on the other, I don’t want to be someone who doesn’t care what anyone thinks. I think the important thing in this situation is balance.

Let’s say for example, you’re struggling through anxiety and/or having a panic attack and someone calls you childish or immature. You can nicely tell them that while they may think that, you are working hard to overcome your anxiety. Also, you can say nothing and remind yourself that you are working to make progress and you can remind yourself that the people that are rude usually don’t go through what you do, so they don’t really know what you are dealing with.

I know this is hard. It’s hard to remind yourself of the progress you’ve made when all you hear is the voice of someone getting angry at you for something that you dislike or hate about yourself. It’s hard enough to fight the battle of anxiety without others adding to the stress. However, we have to realize that not everyone in this world is understanding. Also, in a way, it’s kind of sad that these individuals cannot extend their understanding enough to try and imagine just how hard anxiety and other struggles can be.

I would like to also add that we should all be thankful for the people in our life that do try their hardest to comprehend what we are going through or at least help in any way possible. Also, even if there are people in your life that are less than kind, be grateful for all the times they have tried to help you.

Trying Your Best

While we all need to work hard to get through our anxiety and while we cannot afford to let excuses stop us from being productive, there are times when it is understandable that it is extra hard to practice. For example, when we are sick or in physical pain, it makes sense that the last thing we feel able to do is exercise. However, getting through anxiety should still be our top priority. So how do we practice facing our fears when we don’t feel up to it due to feeling extra anxious, being or feeling sick, or being in physical pain? Here are some tips.

1.) If you are feeling physical pain (this could be due to getting injured or for women perhaps going through that time when exercising is especially tough), you should still (if okay with doctor) do light exercises to keep your progress going. You do not have to strain yourself or even push yourself as much if you are unable to, but you should still keep up some level of motivation. Remember, getting through anxiety is important.

2.) If you are feeling extra anxious and do not feel you can practice, you can do lighter exercises or, if too anxious, you can take a break until you feel better. However, don’t let feeling extra anxious make you feel like you’ll never be able to practice and get better again. You will be able to!

If anyone has additional thoughts or opinions, I will be happy to hear them!

 

 

Remembering Our Progress

First, I would like to thank Mary from marysaverageadventures.wordpress.com for helping me figure out a way to post this. I tried to write it the normal way, but WordPress wasn’t working right.

 

When we find ourselves struggling and feeling as though we cannot get through our anxiety, it is important that we remind ourselves of the progress that we have made.

It is no coincidence that after practicing and exercising, that we have accomplished some or all of our goals. We have managed to get through our anxiety and find the strength to stand up to our challenges. We have to remember that we have the ability to overcome our obstacles and that the only reason we may feel otherwise, is because anxiety often  creates self-doubt. However, in reality, we have no reason to doubt ourselves.

I know that this might not always seem to be the case. When we struggle, negative thoughts tend to form and make us think that we are unable to get through our anxiety. However, we can prove to ourselves otherwise. The truth is that most of the time, there’s nothing wrong with us physically. We just need to work hard in order to be able to trust ourselves. It’s important to practice facing our fears but it is also important, as I have previously mentioned, to really realize how you have made progress. Progress doesn’t just happen. I know that many of us wish it did, but it doesn’t. We need to work for progress and we need to constantly tell ourselves that we do have the strength to get through this. Sadly, we need to expect that we will have challenges. Expecting challenges is one thing, but giving into those challenges is another. We need to understand that while anxiety may try to fight back, we can still win the battle.

When You Feel Yourself Losing Momentum…

Prove to yourself that it’s only temporary.

Sometimes when we begin to feel ourselves moving backwards, we tend to worry that we will not get back on track. The truth is, however, that we need to expect some bumps along the way. We need to remember, though, that we have made progress and that with consistent practice, we can and will continue to do so.

Our mind can be a very challenging thing and while we want to get better, that doesn’t mean that the negative side of our brain won’t throw us some curve balls. Just as the negative side challenges the positive side of our brain, we need to challenge it back; prove that we can overcome any negative thoughts that come our way. We can control our anxiety and not let it control us, we just have to show ourselves that we are in charge. So don’t give up when you feel yourself struggling, work harder!

I Did It (And You Can Too)!

This morning yet again I did something that I haven’t been able to do in a very long time. Once again I realized just how important practice and exercise is and why we should never give up. We all have the ability to get through our anxiety, we just have to show ourselves that we can. We have to take small but consistent steps in order to prove to ourselves that we have the strength to get through even the most difficult of obstacles.

Once you begin to see success, it is important that you take some time to reflect on your progress and what got you there. You need to continue to take mental (and maybe even physical) notes on how you made progress and how you were able to get through your anxiety or whatever holds you back. Also, when you start seeing progress, keep in mind that to keep that momentum going, you need to continue to practice facing your fears and exercising. You have the strength to get through your anxiety!

Amazing!

Amazing is how you feel when you get through something without having to deal with anxiety! Getting through anxiety is hard work but it’s worth it when you are able to see the difference that comes from consistent practice and exercise. This morning I did something I haven’t been able to do in a long time and I didn’t feel anxious doing it. The feeling was so wonderful that it only motivates me to continue to work hard so that I can further get through and hopefully, one day, conquer my anxiety. I challenge you to look at your progress and your daily routine and try your hardest to push yourself harder so that you, too, can feel the amazing feeling of anxiety not keeping you from what you want to do. You can get through your anxiety! I wish you all the best.