I’ve touched on this subject before, but I think it’s very important. Sometimes when we make a step towards making progress, it doesn’t turn out to be as successful as a step as we might have hoped. While it is good to sometimes be upset with ourselves for not making as much progress as we may have hoped (this keeps us motivated and on track), we also have to learn to be grateful for the progress that we do make. No one is perfect and while this should not be used as a cop-out, it should be understood so that we don’t become too angry with ourselves.
Let’s say that you are giving a speech to overcome your anxiety with speaking in public. Let’s say that you begin your speech, but you cannot finish or you finish but you didn’t do as good of a job as you may have hoped. It is totally understandable that you may be disappointed in yourself, after all you wanted to achieve a level of success and perhaps you didn’t. The important thing to remember though is that you tried and if you gave it your best shot, that means a lot. Any steps that you make towards reaching your goals are not pointless, even if you find yourself wishing you did better.
Wishing we did better when we fall short of what we want is normal. After all, most of us want to succeed and most of us want to reach the goal we had in mind. However, unfortunately, things don’t always go as well as planned and we have to try our hardest to look on the positive side of things. If we try our hardest to get through our anxiety and other issues in good and healthy ways, we really can’t go wrong.