Being Proud

If you struggle with anxiety or another mental health issue, you may find yourself constantly doubting your strength and abilities. Let me just tell you, that you are not alone. Just yesterday I was questioning how anyone could find me inspirational as there were a couple of times during the day where I felt quite, well…pathetic.

However, last night, I really realized something. I am strong and capable of getting through my anxiety. Yes, I may need some help along the way, but that doesn’t make me weak.

I had a pretty good day yesterday. I went to church in the morning (which was a bit difficult, but I managed to get through it), I spent time at home with my family, and then I went out to visit a relative in the hospital.

Going to the hospital was the most nerve-wracking part of the day for me. It’s hard for me to go out as it is sometimes, and going to the hospital is always a little stressful, even if you’re not there for yourself.

While I did ask for help when it came to getting around, I was very proud of myself. For one thing, I went to the hospital to visit my relative in the first place. There was a time where I may not have even tried. As horrible as that might sound, anxiety can make it extremely hard to do things – even if they are things you know you should do. Also, while I did get help when it came to walking into and out of the hospital, I did relatively well while visiting my relative and didn’t struggle as much as I usually might while going out.

I know how difficult it can be to be proud of ourselves. Whenever we struggle, it can seem like a constant reminder of our issues having the ability to take control. What we have to remember, though, is that while we may face many challenges, we also experience many victories – that is what we must focus on.

Yesterday, I did many great things. I went to church and stayed the entire time, I had a great time celebrating Christmas at home with no anxiety, and I went to the hospital to visit my relative; not asking to leave before my family was ready. The fact that I may have struggled a little here and there is not what’s important, but that I did an overall good job and got through my anxiety, is what matters.

Next time you accomplish your goals, remember to be proud of yourself! Don’t spend too much energy focusing on the negative when you could be focusing on the positive!

I hope you all had a great holiday!

-B.

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Starting Early

This post is inspired by Sarah Warsi’s, And Just Like That, It’s December.

I think it’s been since my anxiety really hit hard, that I’ve started making New Year’s resolutions. They usually have to do with making a more consistent effort when it comes to exercising and facing my fears. While I think that it’s important and a good idea to make these resolutions, I do think that setting the date for January 1st can be a bit problematic.

As I believe was Sarah’s point to her blog post (and I really hope I’m understanding this right), the concept of setting dates to begin our goals can be extremely stressful. Sitting there and thinking to ourselves that we have to start on the first of the new year or else can bring about so much pressure that it actually makes us more hesitant to begin or stick to our plans for progress.

This is what I’ve noticed about myself – every year I make these resolutions and while I do start out sticking to them, it doesn’t last very long at all. As my therapist mentioned on more than one occasion, in order for the exercising and facing of fears to have a lasting impact, you have to do it on a consistent basis. This, I’ve noticed, is very hard for me.

So this year, I’ve decided to do things a bit differently, and I’m hoping this plan will work. I’ve decided to begin trying harder to get through my anxiety today. I’ve decided to start exercising more today. I’ve even figured out my own schedule that I will try my hardest to stick to.

So here is my advice to you. Instead of picking a specific date and obsessing about starting to work harder then, try to start as soon as you feel you can. This will help you get used to new, healthier habits that will hopefully – promote progress. Good luck with your goals and have a happy holiday!

-B.

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!!!Guest Blogger!!! B.W. Ginsburg: We Can Get Through This.

Guest Post on Travis and The Brain!

Travis and the Brain

Hello everyone! We have a very special guest today! This is a very good friend of mine that I met through the blogging community. She has been very supportive, and always there to encourage me. She also has similar struggles as me. She writes about her journey with extreme anxiety. I have learned a lot from her. Please give her a follow on her blog. She also has a fun Instagram. You might not meet her in person, but she is a wonderful social media friend to have. She has been a part of my blogging journey since day one. She cares! Well folks, here you go, my first ever Guest Blogger, B.W. Ginsburg!!!

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We can get through this!

So many people say to think positive; to not be so negative. We’d all like to be able to believe in our success, but sometimes, it’s not that simple…

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More About The Seeds 4 Life

About The Seeds 4 Life

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Hey everybody! So while I was updating this site, I added a link in the menu for my articles on the inspirational website, The Seeds 4 Life. This site, and the fact that I was given the opportunity to be a freelancer, means the world to me. Therefore, I would like to go into a little more detail on what The Seeds 4 Life is all about. As cited on their website,

“TheSeeds4Life is a website that provides both inspirational messages and personal development articles.  All are based around a wide range of quotes in the areas of self-development, personal growth, and self-improvement. 
This site was created around the idea that your mind functions like a garden, with your thoughts acting like the Seeds.  The more inspirational or positive thoughts you Seed within your mind, the more flowers you’ll grow.  However, Seed your mind with more thoughts of defeat…

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Choosing Wisely

Today I’m going to have a good day. Before you think, that’s easier said than done sometimes, let me explain.

Last year around this time, I was going somewhere with a relative of mine. To say the least, I was very excited. Now, I was also a bit apprehensive because going anywhere with my anxiety can sometimes be a struggle. However, I knew I’d be in the comfort of someone’s home and with people I trusted, so I felt that everything would be fine. Turns out, that wasn’t exactly the case.

While in terms of my anxiety, I did okay, I was made to feel miserable nonetheless. With the type of anxiety I deal with, I sometimes feel more comfortable eating in a comfortable space such as a living room where there are couches instead of regular tables and chairs. While I understand that some people do not wish their guests to eat in their living rooms, I do not think there is anything wrong with asking if it is okay to do so.

I stated earlier in this post that I felt comfortable around the people whom I was visiting. This is true. At the same time, however, I had only really met them one other time. Therefore, I kindly asked my relative if she could ask if it would be alright if I ate in the living room. She refused to ask. Instead, she said I could, “Eat on the kitchen floor!”

I was very hurt and upset. I could hardly believe my ears! I was not going to be forced to sit and eat on the floor. Not to mention, the fact that my relative would even say this absolutely crushed my heart. Instead of simply asking if I could eat somewhere, she made someone she loved feel like absolute garbage.

So today, instead of going out like I did last year to the same place, I’m staying home. I honestly don’t think that the person would have minded me eating in her living room (at the end of the day, she actually said that I could), but I don’t want to go through the same hassle with my relative, not knowing if I will be treated poorly. The funny thing is that the hosts of the home in which we visited were kinder to me that day than my own family member was. This is hard to accept, but it’s something that I have to realize and learn from.

I’m not saying that I’ll never go to this particular place with my relative again, but I will be smarter about saying yes when asked if I’d like to go. I want to be with people who respect me and who will support and help me in any way possible – not make me feel small and alone. I spent more than half the day last year starving when I didn’t have to, all because the person I loved couldn’t ask a simple question for me.

Today I’m going to make sure I have a good day. I’m going to make sure that I find a way to enjoy the decision I made. Even though it hurts that I couldn’t spend time with people I enjoy being around in a nice place, I’m happier at home where I know I’ll be respected by everyone and not just the majority. The only thing that really upsets me is that I think it’s a shame that because of one person – the person I’d be closest to if I went today – not being able to be helpful and supportive, I can’t go somewhere I enjoy.

Please remember that sometimes it’s okay to say no when you’re invited out. It’s important to do what’s best for you and what will make you feel good. Make the decision that you know you won’t regret.

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Simple Respect

Today I would like to talk about something very close to my heart – simple respect.

First of all, as many of you know, I suffer from severe anxiety. I overthink and sometimes I get so anxious, that my body feels weak. While I’m smart enough to know that nothing is wrong with me physically, that does not stop my body from going through the motions.

I am ashamed to say, that sometimes, feeling weak due to my anxiety causes me to sit down in inconvenient places – on the floors in restaurants, in stairwells when I was going to school (not actually on the steps themselves, but the landing in between), etc. I hate this! It’s embarrassing and I know what an inconvenience it is for others, as well as for myself. With that being said, I am not able to just snap my fingers and make my anxiety vanish without a trace. I wish I could, but I can’t. Also, I think that people around someone struggling should be understanding. If they don’t know how to help, fine, but they shouldn’t go out of their way to make things more difficult.

Let me give you an example. Today I went to a restaurant and became extremely anxious. I had to sit down on the floor. Am I proud of this? No. Am I embarrassed? Yes. People stared. While I didn’t like that, I understood. As human beings, we’re curious and me sitting there looking panicky probably seemed strange. Fine. However, one of the workers at this particular restaurant gave me an extremely dirty look and was very rude.

I understand that what I did was not appropriate or proper. I understand that sitting on the floor at a restaurant is not what is perceived as normal. Like I said, I’m extremely embarrassed. Even so, I do not think I deserve to be treated the way I was. I was not disruptive to any of the customers (I quietly sat down and waited about a minute before I could get back up) and other than people staring, I did not cause a big scene.

If you are reading this and you work at a business where you are around a lot of people, please remember to be kind and considerate. You may not understand what someone is going through, but that does not mean that they do not deserve your respect. Also, if you want to ask someone nicely to please try harder to get through their struggles, do so nicely. Trust me when I say that it is hard enough for someone to go through something difficult without others making them feel even worse than they already do.

If you would like advice on how to be kinder to those around you, please do not hesitate to ask. Also if you see someone struggling and want to help, but don’t know how, please ask them in a polite matter. Sometimes just trying your best to be kind can make all the difference.

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“I’ve Been Here Before”

I’ve been here before.

This is what I thought last night as I struggled with anxiety. I thought about how I was tired of ending up in the same situation – feeling both sad and weak due to my anxiety. I thought about how I wish I could go back to doing simple things without feeling anxious.

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I never feel hopeless and downtrodden, because I do. I hate feeling burdened with anxiety; feeling like its in control. Believe it or not, I used to be someone who loved to go out shopping, hang out with friends, and be able to do things without much stress. I still like doing those things, but I don’t feel like they’re easy anymore. I hate that feeling.

As I sat struggling last night, I wondered how and if I’d ever get through my anxiety. After all, I’ve been going through it for so long, how can I be sure it will ever be a thing of the past? I don’t think this is a totally unreasonable question. It’s hard to have faith sometimes when you constantly see yourself suffering.

The thing that we all have to remember, is that many of us have made progress. Many of us have faced our fears and succeeded – I know I have. Just because we may have bad days or moments, does not mean that we haven’t experienced times of achievement or that we’re not on the road to recovery. All it means is that we have to work harder on a more consistent basis. We will get through our anxiety and over our other obstacles!

So if you’re wondering how you’re supposed to believe in yourself, you’re not alone. I think many people feel this way. It’s okay to sometimes feel less than 100% confident, you’re only human. What’s not okay is to allow these doubts to take control, to give them credence. We are stronger than our obstacles!

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