“You” vs. “I”

Positive self-talk is important. When facing difficult situations, we need to be able to tell ourselves that we can get through our anxiety and other issues. None of us can afford to give in to the things that prevent us from living a life that we can be proud of and because of this, we need to constantly remind ourselves of our strength.

I want to briefly share two different ways one can supply themselves with positive self talk and share which way I think works better for myself. Here are two example of what we can say to ourselves:

1.) We can think to ourselves, “You are strong enough to get through this.”

2.) We can think to ourselves, “I am strong enough to get through this.”

While it is best to use whichever one works best for you, I find that the second example works best for myself. In both examples, we are speaking to ourselves, but in the first example we are almost saying that an outside force is strong enough to get through our anxiety. I feel that by saying, “I am strong enough” we are reinforcing that we each have the strength to get through this.

Let’s put it another way. If I say to myself, “You are strong enough to get through this”, I know that I am talking to myself. However, if I say, “I am strong enough to get through this”, it’s an extra reminder that I am capable of getting through my issues. Even if we know that we are talking about ourselves when we say “you” in this instance, when we usually use the word, “you” we are speaking of someone outside of ourselves. The word, “I” is always associated with ourselves.

I just wanted to take the time to write this because I know sometimes a little change in how we tell ourselves something makes all the difference. Also, I really do believe that it’s important to remind ourselves that we are stronger than our anxiety!

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A Special Reminder

I love this image and quote that I found on theseeds4life.com by A.A. Milne. It may seem hard to believe, but we are strong enough to get through our anxiety and other struggles! Additionally, there are so many times when we sell ourselves short. Remember, that you are strong, you are brave, and that you are intelligent! youarebraver** theseeds4life.com is a great site for motivational quotes, “seeds”, and articles!

Positivity Journal

Okay, so I know I did not invent this idea. I’m not quite sure where I originally heard about it or if it’s exactly the same thing as what I’m doing, but I know other people have done similar things. Anyway, last night I had a difficult night with my anxiety and on top of that, I must have somehow deleted the list of progress I’ve made that I keep in my phone to remind me that I can get through my anxiety. While I don’t need to see it written down to remind me, it was a nice reminder when I was struggling. I was upset that it was gone but I decided to write it down in a notebook, which in hindsight I realize I should have done that in the first place.

After writing down all the progress that I could remember I’ve made (though I didn’t write down every single thing), I realized that the notebook could also serve as a positivity journal in general. I decided that along with steps I was making to prove to myself I can get through my anxiety, I could also add inspirational and motivational quotes, etc. The notebook is small enough that I can fit it in my purse and have it wherever I go as a reminder of the progress I have made. Here are some of the quotes I have written down that I have found on blogs, etc. that I think may be helpful to anyone struggling with anxiety or another issue:

-“Repeat after me: I am stronger than this challenge. And this challenge is making me even stronger.”

(See my “About” page for information on the source of this quote. After going on the blog where I first saw the quote, the picture shows what website the picture/quote was from.)

-“The best way out is through”-Robert Frost

-“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going”-Beverly Sills

-“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” – William Shakespeare

-“No longer lend your strength to that which you wish to be free from.”-Jewel, Life Uncommon

*For more great quotes visit www.theseeds4life.com!

**If anyone has any other motivational/inspirational quotes, please let me know! Thanks! Also thank you to whoever mentioned a positivity journal in their blog!

You ARE In Control Of Your Anxiety

While it may not always seem like it, we are in control of our anxiety. Every time we practice facing our fears and succeed at doing so, we prove to ourselves that we do have the strength to get through this.

The problem sometimes occurs when we are experiencing a panic attack, anxiety, or low self-esteem. We see how we are feeling at the moment and we begin to wonder if we will ever be able to overcome our obstacles. However, with hard work and positive reminders of our progress, we can tell ourselves that while our anxiety may be strong, we are stronger.

Merely practicing is not always enough. While practicing, exercising, and stretching helps us realize that we are stronger than our anxiety, we need to really let our progress and success sink in. We need to do this so that when we are going through the panic attacks, anxious moments, or times of low self-esteem or self doubt, we can counter those negative feelings with positive thoughts.

Next time you are experiencing anxiety, remember all of the progress you have made. If you have made a physical list of your progress, look the list over. Remember all of the times that you have been anxious and still gotten through your anxiety and fears. Instead of negative thoughts, fill your mind with positive reminders, quotes, and affirmations. Just because your anxiety may trick you into feeling as though you aren’t stronger than it, doesn’t mean it’s true! You can control your anxiety and get through it

Helpful Article

I saw this article and thought it was helpful. I’m not quite sure why they make it as though it’s only relevant to women, as I’m sure many men can understand these things as well, but I do think that they are important. Also, I thought the bottom portion of the webpage where it shows things you should never say to someone who struggles with anxiety was essential.

A few notes: I realize that when the article says ‘anxiety can be physical’ that they mean you can feel it throughout your body as if it’s a physical condition, but most of the times it is our minds that make our bodies feel that way. I think this is important to add because many of us confuse there being something physically wrong with us with our mind making us feel that way. However, it is true that others should understand that anxiety can cause how we physically feel. I hope the way I explained this makes sense. In addition, where the one person is holding up a sign saying that it’s not good to say that anxiety is all in our heads, that is true. When someone says this it makes us feel like we’re imagining these feelings or making them up, this simply isn’t true. At the same time, though, our anxiety does stem from our minds.

I think this article really raised some excellent points and if anyone has any other advice on how to help someone with anxiety or what they feel others need to try to understand, please feel free to comment!

12am and her mind wanders

I just wanted to share this post. I thought that the first image, the quote below it, and the anchor that says, “I refuse to sink” is very important and understandable for so many of us who struggle with anxiety. Also, I think that the quote about it being a blessing and a curse to feel so deeply is kind of true as well. While I don’t think it’s necessarily a curse, I do think it causes it to be difficult to sometimes accept when others don’t understand what we are going through. Thank you to THEOTHERSIDEOFP for showing us that we are not alone.

The Power Of A Good Mantra

So, I used to be a person that when people told me to come up with a mantra, I didn’t think they helped much. What I realize now, however, is that what makes a mantra a helpful one is that you believe it and that it makes you stronger. Words are just words, it is your belief in them that makes them so powerful.

Yesterday I was faced with a situation that is anxiety provoking for most people. The moment that the event occurred, I began to worry about how I was going to handle it. Then I started thinking about the quote that was brought to my attention through reading https://mssarahashley.wordpress.com/page/2/ . The quote is true, I was stronger than the challenge and the challenge would make me even stronger. This quote really helped me; I continued to repeat it and I could feel myself getting stronger. I want to thank mssarahashley for bringing the quote to my attention and sharing it on her blog.

I now know that mantras can help us be more confident and can help us realize that we are able to get through difficult situations. The key to picking a mantra is to make it one that we can believe and choose one that helps boost our confidence. We also need to pick one that helps us realize that it is ourselves that we need to look to for support (yes, we can have help, but we are the ones that in the end, make ourselves stronger.) For me, the quote of, “Repeat after me: I am stronger than this challenge. And this challenge is making me even stronger” reminds me that I am stronger than the challenges I face, not the other way around.

I hope that everyone is able to find a mantra that really helps them through their struggles. I thought I would share my experience with using mine and how well it helped. Thanks again to mssarahashley and her blog!

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