Advice to Stores and Other Businesses

Hi everybody! I hope you’re all doing well.

Today I went shopping with a relative and did really well. In addition to having a great time, I ran across something that I thought would make a perfect blog post – it’s a topic that I’ve thought about on several different occasions.

The store that I went to today had chairs to sit in. While some of these chairs were for sale, there were also some chairs near the front of the store for customers to sit in, I assume so they can rest while shopping. I know what some of you are thinking – ‘so what?’.

To me, the store having these chairs to sit in was a big deal and an incredibly smart decision on their part. I’ve often thought that every establishment should be required to have some sort of seating – some way for customers and even workers to sit down if they need to. Whether one needs to sit because they have anxiety or struggle with another health issue, are elderly, or just need a break from shopping, etc., I feel that there should be a place where they can do so and not feel uncomfortable or as if they’re being judged for doing so.

I’d like to say that I understand that businesses cannot always accommodate every single person. I know that it can be difficult to do so. However, I don’t think it would be unreasonable for most businesses (if not all) to have chairs for their customers and workers to sit in if need be. Not only is it good for the people shopping, working, or doing whatever it is they may be doing, but it is good for the employers as well. The more people visiting an establishment know that they will be comfortable, the more often they’ll want to visit.

So here is my advice for stores and other businesses: please put some kind of seating in your establishment. Customers, guests, and workers deserve to feel comfortable and have a place where they can rest at times. To those places who already have chairs for people to sit in if they have to, I commend your decision. You are the places that make life enjoyable and make those of us who struggle feel like we’re valued and respected.

What’s Been Going On

Hey guys! I hope you’re all doing well. I thought I would update you as to how things have been going.

For starters, just last weekend, I went to a restaurant I’d never been to and hung out with my mom and her two friends. I had met her friends before, but never spent much time with them. I had a great time and even fell in love with a new food – Crabmeat Rangoons! Anyway, in terms of my anxiety, I did really well!

Yesterday, I went out again. After heading out to my mom’s (where I did well, as usual), I went out to see her best friend. I’ve known this individual for many years and while she can be nice at times, she can be very cruel and can say some very hurtful things.

While this friend of my mom deals with anxiety, she isn’t always the most understanding when it comes to mine. This is frustrating both because I find it simply rude and hypocritical. How someone who suffers with anxiety themselves can treat someone else with anxiety so horribly is beyond me.

I will tell you all something that while I’m not proud of, is important to share for this story. Sometimes due to my anxiety, I hold on to someone I trust’s arm when walking. Upon seeing this, my mom’s friend said “That’s enough of this,” and tore my hand off of my mom’s arm, making me feel unsteady and anxious. Her friend went further to say that I could “hold on to her” and made me do that instead.

I was extremely upset that my mom’s friend made the comment about me holding onto my mom ‘being enough’. It’s already hard enough seeing myself struggle, let alone having someone say cruel things and literally rip me away from feeling comfortable.

After that incident, my mom and I went out to a store. My mom told her friend that we would both be back. Going into the store, I did well, but upon leaving, I began to become anxious. Upon having to sit down (unfortunately on the floor), I noticed a few people staring at me.

I understand why people do this, I do. I know it’s not normal for someone to simply sit on the floor. I hate that I go through this. I understand one’s curiosity in seeing someone sitting down in a strange spot. Still, I wish that people would be more supportive and less judgmental. Also, I think if someone thinks that something might be wrong, or that someone might be going through something, that they should maybe check if the person is alright, instead of blatantly staring at the individual. We’re not stupid, we see you staring, and it only makes things worse for us.

To continue, while I was trying to get my courage back up so that I could head to the car with my mom, I saw a literal sign in the store. My eyes were drawn right to it and I truly believe that I was meant to see it. Maybe that sounds strange to some, but it’s what I believe.

I know some of you may not be religious and that’s fine, but I thought I would share the quote on the sign. I hope it inspires you like it did me.

“Good things happen when you believe in God, who always believes in you.”

Also, here’s something else that is important to remember when you’re struggling. You have made progress before and just because you may be having a difficult time at the moment, does not mean that you’re not stronger than your obstacles or that you’re not improving. We all have days that are better than others and none of us are perfect. It’s okay if we struggle sometimes, it doesn’t make us any less successful.

I wish you all the best. Please remember that you are strong and that it doesn’t matter what others say. As long as you are working hard on a consistent basis to reach a positive goal, that’s all that matters.

The Supporter Award!

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Hey everybody! Just the other day, I received some great news. Laura Beth from Hot Shot Headlines stated that I was one of her biggest supporters! Thank you, Laura! You are awesome! I think by here stating this it means that I’m nominated for the award, so I’m going to participate. Sorry if I didn’t understand this correctly!

The Rules:

Thank the blogger(s) that nominated you and link back to their post.
Answer the 4 “First” questions.
Come up with 4 new “First” questions or just use the same ones from your nomination.
Nominate your first follower who is still active and interacting with you.
Nominate up to 4 other bloggers
Make sure to link back to the original post by The book prescription so I can see all your answers!
Feel free to add the badge to your blog

The 4 First Questions:
1- First memory of a story.
I know I loved a Barney musical book and the Cam Jansen mystery serious when I was younger.
2- First book you bought with your own money.
I’m not sure. Maybe a book from the Harry Potter series?
3- First book that made you cry.
I don’t really cry from reading.
4- First book that you didn’t finish?

There’s way too many!

My First Follower:

I thought it was Mary, but according to WordPress, it was Jen. Thank you both for being so supportive and kind!

Nominations:

Ariel @ Writing Radiation

Carla

Sarah @ Sarah Warsi

Jenny @ Peace from Panic

The Importance of Positivity

With working on a book that will be filled with articles and poetry about positivity and getting through our struggles, I thought I would take the time to express why I feel writing about positivity is so important.

While sources of happiness, joy, and friendship surround us on a daily basis, I think we often pass them by without notice. It’s not necessarily our fault, it’s just hard sometimes when living our busy lives and hearing about such negativity in the world, to focus on all of the good. Though there are self-help books and other literary resources to help us find comfort and peace, I think that the best way to find strength and confidence within the literary world, is to find something that really connects with us; something we can all relate to. I think that reading helpful articles and poetry that build us up instead of making us feel small and belittled are the perfect thing to motivate us!

A few years ago, if you asked me what I thought about reading articles and poetry to help me through my anxiety and other struggles, I’m not sure I’d think it was such a great thing. Then again, a few years ago, I may have scoffed at the idea of blogging about my anxiety to make me feel better – man did I learn that I was wrong! It turns out that reading inspirational articles and poetry is a wonderful way to lift one’s spirits and raise one’s self-confidence. So is blogging! Expressing ourselves and our feelings, along with our emotions, through writing is a great way to connect with both ourselves and others – while helping ourselves and others as well.

Positivity – and the spreading thereof – is extremely important. We all need positivity in our lives and that is why it is important to me – and my loved one – to write this book that we are currently working on. It is a way of spreading positivity through writing. I hope you will join us in our journey of sharing and spreading hope.

 

Special Thanks

Hi everybody! Today I’d like to share with you all how thankful I am for your support. As many of you know, life isn’t always easy and knowing that you have family and friends who care for and love you can make all the difference.

I’ve met many friends through blogging. While I haven’t met any of you in person, I can’t tell you how much your friendship means to me. Anxiety is not an easy thing to go through and knowing that I can count on you guys to really listen and respect what I have to say feels so incredibly wonderful. Really, words can’t describe how happy I am to have you in my life.

I’d like to go even further and say that I admire those of you who have shared your own stories of struggling – that is not an easy thing to do. Whether you’re a person who is relatively open about your life or someone who is rather shy, talking about your struggles can be difficult. Some people tend to be understanding, while others simply choose to walk away when others need them the most. With this being said, to share a part of you that you’re not always proud of can be a very hard thing to do. I admire those of you who have spoken up about your feelings and who try your hardest to help others. Also, even if you haven’t talked about whatever you struggle with, you are still strong. Whenever you’re ready to talk about what plagues your mind, there will be people who are kind and considerate.

So again I’d like to thank everyone who supports me in my journey to get through anxiety. I’d like to thank those of you who share your struggles in order to help yourself and others and those of you who take the time to listen and respect those around you. Thank you for your friendship and kindness. As cliché as it may sound, you really do make the world a better place!

Have a wonderful holiday!

-B.

Happy Thanksgiving!

First of all, I’d like to wish everyone who celebrates, a happy Thanksgiving! For those of you who don’t celebrate, I hope you have a great day!

I would like to take some time to thank all of you who have supported, and continue to support, me in my journey to get through anxiety. As many of you know, dealing with anxiety is extremely difficult and it definitely helps to know that there are people out there who genuinely care about, and maybe even understand, what you are going through. Thank you for all of your support, advice, and kindness over the years. It means the world to me.

Please know that I am here for each and every one of you if you ever need to talk about your own mental health issues. I hope you all have a wonderful day. Stay strong and remember how truly amazing you are!

Simple Respect

Today I would like to talk about something very close to my heart – simple respect.

First of all, as many of you know, I suffer from severe anxiety. I overthink and sometimes I get so anxious, that my body feels weak. While I’m smart enough to know that nothing is wrong with me physically, that does not stop my body from going through the motions.

I am ashamed to say, that sometimes, feeling weak due to my anxiety causes me to sit down in inconvenient places – on the floors in restaurants, in stairwells when I was going to school (not actually on the steps themselves, but the landing in between), etc. I hate this! It’s embarrassing and I know what an inconvenience it is for others, as well as for myself. With that being said, I am not able to just snap my fingers and make my anxiety vanish without a trace. I wish I could, but I can’t. Also, I think that people around someone struggling should be understanding. If they don’t know how to help, fine, but they shouldn’t go out of their way to make things more difficult.

Let me give you an example. Today I went to a restaurant and became extremely anxious. I had to sit down on the floor. Am I proud of this? No. Am I embarrassed? Yes. People stared. While I didn’t like that, I understood. As human beings, we’re curious and me sitting there looking panicky probably seemed strange. Fine. However, one of the workers at this particular restaurant gave me an extremely dirty look and was very rude.

I understand that what I did was not appropriate or proper. I understand that sitting on the floor at a restaurant is not what is perceived as normal. Like I said, I’m extremely embarrassed. Even so, I do not think I deserve to be treated the way I was. I was not disruptive to any of the customers (I quietly sat down and waited about a minute before I could get back up) and other than people staring, I did not cause a big scene.

If you are reading this and you work at a business where you are around a lot of people, please remember to be kind and considerate. You may not understand what someone is going through, but that does not mean that they do not deserve your respect. Also, if you want to ask someone nicely to please try harder to get through their struggles, do so nicely. Trust me when I say that it is hard enough for someone to go through something difficult without others making them feel even worse than they already do.

If you would like advice on how to be kinder to those around you, please do not hesitate to ask. Also if you see someone struggling and want to help, but don’t know how, please ask them in a polite matter. Sometimes just trying your best to be kind can make all the difference.

Progress Is Progress – Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Otherwise!

Maybe every time you’ve ever shared your progress with someone else, they’ve commended you. Maybe you’ve never had someone question how the progress you’ve made can really be labeled as such. I think that’s great. However, I know that I, for one, have experienced otherwise.

Don’t get me wrong, many times when I share my progress with someone, they are proud of me and express those feelings of pride. They understand that if I’m doing something that I previously struggled with – no matter what it is – that it matters. Even if the step towards success may seem small, they see that it’s important.

On the opposite end, I’ve had people question my progress. I’ve mentioned that I did something that I usually back away from and instead of hearing their praise or that they think I did well, they just ask how it’s a big deal; how it qualifies as progress. I’m not going to lie – it hurts. I’m not saying that I constantly need recognition, but the last thing a person wants when they share their accomplishments with you, is to feel belittled or shut down. Any of us who have ever struggled with anything, know how difficult it can be to overcome our obstacles. We also know how good and refreshing it feels when it’s clear that they we stronger than what is holding us back. We want to be built up by ourselves and the ones we love, not torn down.

If you’ve experienced what I have – that some people aren’t understanding or kind when it comes to our struggles and hearing about our progress – then here is my advice. I recommend trying to save sharing your progress for the people who will actually appreciate and respect it. I know it’s hard not to want to shout your progress from the rooftop, but sometimes lending your happiness to others is a risky concept. Not everyone will be supportive and instead of showing you the respect you deserve, some will simply share harsh or careless words.

Again, and this is important to remember, there are people who will support, respect, and care for you. There are people who will go out of their way to cheer you on and to make you feel as special as you truly are. These are the people you want to allow into your lives and share both your good and bad times with. Don’t allow others to take away your sense of pride and accomplishment. No one can take away your progress, no one!

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Is It That Hard To Give To Me?

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This post isn’t just about one person. No, this post is about anyone and everyone who has been disrespected on the internet to the point where they’ve felt belittled, ignored, or uncomfortable.

First let me say that it upsets me to see people (especially people who are kind, generous, loving, and passionate) treated like crap. Whether it’s in person or on the internet, I think the fact that people are treated so poorly sucks. There is nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but there is a huge difference between voicing your opinion and being an a**hole! If someone writes something and you disagree, fine. I think that you should be able to voice your opinion and hell, if you want to get mad because you feel strongly about the issue, that’s fine – you’re entitled to your opinion.

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Assumptions and Guesses: An Anxiety Sufferer’s Nightmare

Tonight I’d like to talk about something important to me: people making assumptions about those who suffer from anxiety (people making assumptions about others is a problem in general, but I’m choosing to focus on something I have actual experience with).

Human beings are naturally curious. Let’s face it, we’ve all made assumptions and guesses about people – it’s a natural thing. Still though, I think we all need to learn that while it might be a normal thing to do, that doesn’t make it right or positive.

Suffering from anxiety, I’ve seen the stares and heard the comments. I’ve seen people looking at me like I’m a weirdo or like I’m not ‘normal’. I’m always worried that people think my anxiety is something else: like maybe they think I’m mentally slow or can’t function mentally like everyone else.

While I have nothing wrong with people who have mental illnesses that cause them not to be able to think properly and function well mentally, that’s not my problem. I’m not mentally slow nor am I stupid or crazy. My problem is anxiety and while that anxiety makes me over think and worry about things that some people don’t even think twice about, this does not mean that you can’t have normal conversations with me or that I’m not mentally stable. What it means is that sometimes my anxiety causes me to struggle with everyday things like going out, etc. because my mind tries to convince the rest of my body that something is physically wrong, when in fact, it’s not.

The point of this post is that people need to start trying to understand things more so that they don’t end up making others feel bad about themselves. I have a relative that sometimes treats me like I’m a little kid or like I don’t understand what’s going on around me. I have to tell you that this is hurtful – to be treated in a way that makes me feel lesser. I’m not a rude person so I’m not going to say something like, “Why do you keep treating me like I’m five or something?” but it’s tempting.

If you want to know how to treat someone, ask them. Don’t say something like, “What’s wrong with you, so I know how to act”, but why not just kindly ask, “What can I do for you?” or if you see someone suffering ask them what they’re struggling with. You don’t know how many times I feel the need to explain my anxiety to people. This is mainly because I’ve had so many people look at me and treat me like a complete weirdo, like something is seriously wrong with me. I don’t love always having to explain myself, but sometimes I feel it’s necessary for people to respect me. That’s not right and not how it should be. I should be spoken to like everyone else because you know what? I comprehend things like everyone else. Just because sometimes anxiety makes me act differently than I might act when calm (I get shaky, feel unbalanced, etc.) does NOT mean that I’m not ‘normal’ or that you need to speak to me like a child.

I know that not everyone means harm when they treat people in a matter that shows misunderstanding – I know this. I know that some people try their hardest and simply don’t know how to act. The thing is though that there are tons of resources available to find answers to your questions and you know what? The best resource is the person who is struggling because chances are, they want to be treated with respect and know how you can start to make that happen!

So next time you’re not sure what someone is struggling with or how to act around them, find a kind way to ask them. Don’t make assumptions or guesses (you know what they say about those who assume). Also if you don’t have anything nice to say or don’t want to, then seriously, don’t say anything at all. Especially for anxiety sufferers, it’s hard enough for us to go through anxiety, without feeling belittled or guilty because of it.