Author Interview: Jade Moore!

Today I am interviewing Jade Moore, friend and author of Conversations Bordering on Torment. ‘Conversations’ is an excellent book of poetry describing the emotions of struggling with anxiety and trying ones hardest to overcome the mental health issue. Jade pens beautiful poetry that will take your breath away, whether you’re a fellow sufferer of mental health issues or just a lover of poetry!

1.) Jade, you recently wrote a book of poetry entitled: Conversations Bordering on Torment. What was your inspiration for writing the book?

My inspiration came from the wonderful people who first read my poems when I posted them on my blog. It took a while before I felt comfortable sharing such personal poems, but I received some great feedback and can honestly say I wouldn’t have kept writing without their inspiring words. I definitely wouldn’t have had enough to full a book!

Aside from that, I wanted to publish the book as a reminder of my personal journey with anxiety, to prove to myself that positive things can be born from negative situations.

2.) Many poems can be confusing to understand. How did you manage to write about such a complex topic in a simple way that reaches your readers? Are there any special techniques that you use to write your poetry?

Most of the poems in the book were written in the ‘anxious moment’ as it were. So I’d be experiencing the poem as I was writing it. The shorter poems like ‘Why?’ were written in the space of about a minute, because I just had to get it out of my system. I think that’s why they are easier to understand, they aren’t shrouded in poetic imagery or metaphors – they are how I experienced them.

The first poem, however, had a lot of thought go into it. It is written entirely in iambic pentameter, which means every line in ten syllables. So I had to go through every word and every syllable with careful thought to write that one, but the sentiment and process behind it was still done with anxiety looking over my shoulder.

And I love to rhyme. Sometimes they come naturally, and other times I need to think a bit more about them and do a bit of tweaking after writing them. Not every poem lends itself to rhyming, but I prefer them when they do. I’m particularly proud of my rhyming in ‘The Show Must Go On’.

3.) Many of your poems center on anxiety and mental health. How long have you struggled with this issue?

I can’t pinpoint an exact date, but I can tell you when I realized I had it. In my third year of college in 2012 I had what my tutor later described as a ‘depressive breakdown’. I wanted to leave college. My Granddad had just died and I was going through a few problems with a friend which caused me great levels of anxiety, and it all got too much. Luckily, I was given a week off to sort myself out and during that time I began having Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

I still struggle with anxiety now, but I’m a lot better than I used to be.

4.) You chose to write poems about anxiety instead of a type of story or essay. Do you find poetry to be the best tool to express such issues? Why or why not?

I’m an advocate of writing as therapy. This is something that my CBT helped me to realise. Sometimes mindfulness works for me, and sometimes it makes me even more anxious. But writing is different, when I’m anxious my emotions are everywhere and my thoughts are ‘louder’ in a way. Writing them down in my diary isn’t enough, I need to create something and express how I’m feeling in a creative way that I can read back and be proud of.

Writing poetry is the solution for me in moments of anxiety. Once I’ve created something from it I feel a bit better, and it distracts me from overthinking. So although it might not be the best tool for everyone, it is for me. But whether you’re a poet or not – writing your feelings down does help.

5.) As an author, what do you feel is the most important part of writing?

Write for yourself. Write as though you’re the only one who is going to read it. It’s inevitable that authors should think about their readers, and this is particularly true of fiction authors and non-fiction authors. I also write fiction, but in terms of being a poet I want to write the words for myself before anyone else, and that is so important to me in order to be genuine. I think it also adds a human aspect to my writing; it’s not hiding behind a screen. It’s just me through my words, and if other people connect with my words then I’m a happy author indeed.

6.) What is the biggest lesson you want your readers to take away from Conversations Bordering on Torment?

The biggest lesson is this: You can do something positive in a negative situation. I place emphasis on a few factors:
– My poems are presented in the order they were written
– My poems were written during moments of anxiety
– They are (mostly) unedited
I’m currently working on a third edition of the book which will include extra poems, again in the order I wrote them after publishing the book. But by going through each poem again, I have naturally changed a few lines or words here and there to improve them, but each poem has been through no more than three drafts. This isn’t a lot; I know a poet who can get through at least twenty drafts per poem.

So I want my readers to read the words on the page as they came to be during moments of heightened anxiety. They were my positivity during negative times.

7.) What other genres of writing do you enjoy? What genres of books do you enjoy reading?

Mostly I read fiction and non-fiction. I rarely read poetry, but when I do read it it’s usually indie authors or short-form poetry. My favourite type of fiction is YA, and I like non-fiction books that focus on mental health and the mind. But I’ll read anything that appeals to me really!

8.) Who are you favorite authors?

David Levithan, Alan Hollinghurst, Edmund White, Jon Ronson, Jasper Fforde, Patrick Ness, and Sylvia Plath.

9.) How long have you enjoyed writing?

I’ve been writing ever since I was young, but I didn’t start enjoying it properly until I realized I wanted to do Creative Writing at university. That was only in 2013, but as I said, the years before that were really hard for me and I was on auto-pilot mentally. I couldn’t pursue my dreams or realise I even had any, but once I got into university that’s when my passion for writing really had chance to bloom.

10.) What are some things you want your readers to know about yourself? About your writing?

I want me readers to know that each poem is deeply personal. I write some poems in my book that refer to a past friendship. This friendship was my life day in day out for a huge chunk of my life, and it was the slow crumbling of this friendship that caused me the biggest pain anxiety-wise.

So my words may refer to things that people may not know the full meaning behind, but as I said, I write first for myself and it is up to my readers to take from my words whatever they want. If they find solace in my words, then I will be extra proud for having written them.

I’m also an introvert, and writing is the best way for me to communicate my feelings. I’m the baby of my siblings, and the quiet one in the family. A lot of my family don’t know much about my anxiety, so my poems are where you’ll find the most meaningful of my feelings. I’m letting you into my world and my mind.

11.) What are some other tools you use in order to get through anxiety?

A to-do list helps. My anxiety causes me to have memory loss. The more anxious I feel, the worse my memory is. So you’ll find me with a pocket diary with to-do lists spanning the entire week reminding me of exactly what I need to do, who I need to meet and where I need to go. Otherwise, I’ll have anxiety, then I’ll have extra anxiety because I won’t be able to remember anything. I sit down most mornings and go through each thing that needs doing, and this makes me less anxious because I know everything is written down.

I also factor in time to relax. The other night I was really anxious and instead of working on important things I gave myself the evening off just to eat and watch sitcoms. Being alone with myself and treating myself to simple pleasures really helps me to calm down.

12.) What are some other works you feel your readers should familiarize themselves with?

Quiet – Susan Cain
Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig
Breakdown – Chris McLoughlin
Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert
Magazines: Flow, Breathe, The Simple Things, Happinez
Any and all poems by E. E. Cummings
The Bell Jar – Sylvia Plath
The Journals of Sylvia Plath

Additional Links:
To visit Jade on Goodreads, follow this link
To visit Jade’s book blog, click here
To check out Jade’s poetry blog, click here

To purchase a copy of Jade’s book, click here!

 

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Questions You May Have About Rest in Piece: Answered!

Your questions, answered!

B.W. Ginsburg

Hey everyone! I know some of you may have some questions about my new book that’s out, so I thought I would answer some possible questions!

Will only young adults enjoy the book?

I honestly don’t think so. I think that anyone who enjoys a fast-paced book with a lot of supernatural and fantastical elements will appreciate Rest in Piece. While the main characters are young, I think that adults can relate to many of the themes.

How did I come up with the idea for Rest in Piece?

My grandparents had a puzzle (my grandpa used to love putting together puzzles) next to the bed upstairs that always used to creep me out, the puzzle is based off of that one. As for the plot, I just always liked the idea of things going into different worlds than their own (for example: the plot of Ink Heart and…

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Sunshine Blogger Award #5

So I feel really bad because I missed the fact that Daisy in the Willows nominated me for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Thank you so much, Daisy! Please check out her great blog!

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THE RULES

  • Thank whoever nominees your blog

  • Indulge yourself and answer any questions you feel happy to answer

  • Spread  that radiance to some other awesome blogs to keep the light shining brightly.

  • Use these questions or make up your own to ask your nominees

  • Tell your nominees that they have been nominated.

  • Put your preferred logo award on display . I chose this one.

THE QUESTIONS:

Which decade do you miss the most?

That’s a tough one. I’d have to say the 90s.

To which poet do you feel most connected to?

This sounds horrible since I’m a writer, but I’m not sure I have one.

Your spirit cartoon character/TV show artist?

I’m going to go with Snoopy. I love him and he wants to be an author. I love him when he’s the Literary Ace! I’ve also been watching Crossing Jordan and really like her personality.

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How has your blog helped you the most?

It’s helped me talk about my anxiety, share my experiences with others, and use my writing to hopefully help others with mental health issues. I’ve also met some wonderful people!

I have nothing wrong with the above questions, but they’re a little difficult. I’m going to ask some of my own. However, if you’d rather answer the ones above, feel free to do so!

My Questions for My Nominees:

1.) What’s your favorite TV show that you didn’t watch while it was airing, but have come to love? When did you start actually watching it?

2.) What’s a book that everyone raves about and you have no desire to read? Why don’t you want to read it?

3.) What do you think is the ‘key to happiness?’

4.) What season best describes you and why? What holiday best describes you? Why?

I Nominate:

Life Lessons Around the Dinner Table

Sarah Warsi

By Hook or By Book

The Shameful Narcissist Speaks

Sunshine Moodlet’s Blog

Do You Have Questions? I’ve Got Answers!

Have questions about my new book, Rest in Piece? Here’s your chance to ask!

B.W. Ginsburg

Hey guys! So as some of you may have noticed, I created a page on this blog for any questions that you as readers might have for me about my newly published book, Rest in Piece. I’ve already received some questions that I have answered on the FAQ page located on the left side of my blog and would love to answer any other questions regarding my book that you may have. If you have any questions about my book, the writing process, or how I went about publishing Rest in Piece, please feel free to ask me in the comment section of this post or send me a message via the Contact page. Also, if you’re interested in purchasing a copy of the e-book, you can do so here!

THANK YOU,

-B.W. Ginsburg

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Assumptions and Guesses: An Anxiety Sufferer’s Nightmare

Tonight I’d like to talk about something important to me: people making assumptions about those who suffer from anxiety (people making assumptions about others is a problem in general, but I’m choosing to focus on something I have actual experience with).

Human beings are naturally curious. Let’s face it, we’ve all made assumptions and guesses about people – it’s a natural thing. Still though, I think we all need to learn that while it might be a normal thing to do, that doesn’t make it right or positive.

Suffering from anxiety, I’ve seen the stares and heard the comments. I’ve seen people looking at me like I’m a weirdo or like I’m not ‘normal’. I’m always worried that people think my anxiety is something else: like maybe they think I’m mentally slow or can’t function mentally like everyone else.

While I have nothing wrong with people who have mental illnesses that cause them not to be able to think properly and function well mentally, that’s not my problem. I’m not mentally slow nor am I stupid or crazy. My problem is anxiety and while that anxiety makes me over think and worry about things that some people don’t even think twice about, this does not mean that you can’t have normal conversations with me or that I’m not mentally stable. What it means is that sometimes my anxiety causes me to struggle with everyday things like going out, etc. because my mind tries to convince the rest of my body that something is physically wrong, when in fact, it’s not.

The point of this post is that people need to start trying to understand things more so that they don’t end up making others feel bad about themselves. I have a relative that sometimes treats me like I’m a little kid or like I don’t understand what’s going on around me. I have to tell you that this is hurtful – to be treated in a way that makes me feel lesser. I’m not a rude person so I’m not going to say something like, “Why do you keep treating me like I’m five or something?” but it’s tempting.

If you want to know how to treat someone, ask them. Don’t say something like, “What’s wrong with you, so I know how to act”, but why not just kindly ask, “What can I do for you?” or if you see someone suffering ask them what they’re struggling with. You don’t know how many times I feel the need to explain my anxiety to people. This is mainly because I’ve had so many people look at me and treat me like a complete weirdo, like something is seriously wrong with me. I don’t love always having to explain myself, but sometimes I feel it’s necessary for people to respect me. That’s not right and not how it should be. I should be spoken to like everyone else because you know what? I comprehend things like everyone else. Just because sometimes anxiety makes me act differently than I might act when calm (I get shaky, feel unbalanced, etc.) does NOT mean that I’m not ‘normal’ or that you need to speak to me like a child.

I know that not everyone means harm when they treat people in a matter that shows misunderstanding – I know this. I know that some people try their hardest and simply don’t know how to act. The thing is though that there are tons of resources available to find answers to your questions and you know what? The best resource is the person who is struggling because chances are, they want to be treated with respect and know how you can start to make that happen!

So next time you’re not sure what someone is struggling with or how to act around them, find a kind way to ask them. Don’t make assumptions or guesses (you know what they say about those who assume). Also if you don’t have anything nice to say or don’t want to, then seriously, don’t say anything at all. Especially for anxiety sufferers, it’s hard enough for us to go through anxiety, without feeling belittled or guilty because of it.

 

November Challenge – November 28th

When did you last have a really good conversation?

Probably yesterday when I talked to a friend of mine. Honestly, I have a lot of good conversations with good, kind people.

 

  1. Favourite picture book as a child?
  2. Fond childhood places?
  3. Thing(s) you are most proud of?
  4. Have you been through any official rites of passage? How about unofficial?
  5. What is your role in your family?
  6. Define family.
  7. Do you get on with your siblings?
  8. What’s the story behind how you got your name?
  9. What assumptions people make about you?
  10. What small things have you seen or taken note of today?
  11. What makes you happy?
  12. Do you have good self control?
  13. Are you good at making decisions?
  14. How often do you cry?
  15. Have you ever had any altercations with the police?
  16. How do your relieve stress?
  17. What did you once love, but now hate?
  18. Is doing nothing a waste of time?
  19. What is cluttering your life?
  20. How do you help people, in small ways, in large ways, however?
  21. When’s the last time you did something nice for a stranger?
  22. Who inspires you the most?
  23. Do Apps help or waste your time?
  24. Does FaceBook make you feel bad?
  25. What music are you listening to right now?
  26. What TV shows have mattered to you?
  27. What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
  28. When did you last have a really good conversation?

November Challenge – November 27th

What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?

I want to say it was Cradle and All by James Patterson or Stay Close by Harlan Coben. They were both great!

 

  1. Favourite picture book as a child?
  2. Fond childhood places?
  3. Thing(s) you are most proud of?
  4. Have you been through any official rites of passage? How about unofficial?
  5. What is your role in your family?
  6. Define family.
  7. Do you get on with your siblings?
  8. What’s the story behind how you got your name?
  9. What assumptions people make about you?
  10. What small things have you seen or taken note of today?
  11. What makes you happy?
  12. Do you have good self control?
  13. Are you good at making decisions?
  14. How often do you cry?
  15. Have you ever had any altercations with the police?
  16. How do your relieve stress?
  17. What did you once love, but now hate?
  18. Is doing nothing a waste of time?
  19. What is cluttering your life?
  20. How do you help people, in small ways, in large ways, however?
  21. When’s the last time you did something nice for a stranger?
  22. Who inspires you the most?
  23. Do Apps help or waste your time?
  24. Does FaceBook make you feel bad?
  25. What music are you listening to right now?
  26. What TV shows have mattered to you?
  27. What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
  28. When did you last have a really good conversation?

November Challenge – November 26th

What TV shows have mattered to you?

So while I think the word ‘mattered’ is a little strong (after all, in the end, they are just shows), here’s a list of my favorite shows!)

Friends – Friends is my all time favorite show. It has great actors and is hilarious. I have all the seasons and honestly I could (and have) watch them a million times. Also, I know that a lot of people pick on little things that are unrealistic, but I think it’s one of the more realistic comedies. I mean, take Seinfeld for example – utterly unrealistic. Friends has also helped me relax during stressful times.

Quantum Leap – Quantum Leap is a great show about a scientist bouncing around to different times in his lifetime to ‘fix things that once went wrong’. It’s an amazing show that can be utterly heartfelt. I also love the character Al – he’s awesome! This show also means a lot to me because I remember my dad watching it when I was younger.

Early Edition – Early Edition is a great show about an average  guy who goes out of his way to help others. Every morning a cat arrives at his door with tomorrow’s news – how awesome is that? Plus, Kyle Chandler is an attractive, talented actor! This is another show I remember watching when I was younger and still enjoy watching.

Gilmore Girls – Gilmore Girls is a show that both makes me laugh and cry. I love so many of the characters as well. Great show!

Supernatural – Supernatural is a fantastic show. As I’ve mentioned before, I really thought it would suck. I’m sorry, but it’s true. I was bored one day and saw it on Netflix. I had heard of so many people watching it so I decided to try it, and man am I happy I did! I’ve seen all the seasons (some twice) and am still watching the show! Fantastic! It’s also fun being able to talk to some amazing people about the show!

Lois and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman – Another great show that my dad introduced to me. Honestly, I think Teri Hatcher plays the best version of Lois Lane and I think Dean Cain plays a great Clark Kent/Superman.

Mad About You – Mad About You is a great comedy about a married couple living in New York.

Alias and Prison Break – I’m grouping these together because they’re my two favorite action shows. I like Alias more but Prison Break is pretty awesome too!

I love a lot of shows, but in my opinion, these are the best of the best!

 

 

November Challenge – November 25th

Hey everyone! I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving and fantastic Thursday. For those of you shopping today for Black Friday, I hope you have a great and safe time. Also, if you’re a Gilmore Girls fan, don’t forget the continuation of the series starts today!!! I’d like to give special thanks to my good friend Rae for telling me about it and Carla for reminding me that it started today. Somehow I almost forgot when I woke up this morning!

Today’s question for the November challenge is…

What music are you listening to right now?

Well at the moment, nothing, but in general, I listen to a lot of music. My musical tastes vary from Blondie to Train with a lot in between. To be honest though, I prefer older music to newer music – I don’t mean to sound like an old lady, but I feel like newer music is missing something. I’d much rather be listening to Huey Lewis or Michael Jackson than Taylor Swift or Justin Beiber.

Here’s a list of just some of the singers/bands I like (not in any specific order):

Jewel

Huey Lewis

Michael Jackson

Stevie Wonder

Al Stewart

Train

Blondie

America

Pat Benatar

And So Many More!

 

  1. Favourite picture book as a child?
  2. Fond childhood places?
  3. Thing(s) you are most proud of?
  4. Have you been through any official rites of passage? How about unofficial?
  5. What is your role in your family?
  6. Define family.
  7. Do you get on with your siblings?
  8. What’s the story behind how you got your name?
  9. What assumptions people make about you?
  10. What small things have you seen or taken note of today?
  11. What makes you happy?
  12. Do you have good self control?
  13. Are you good at making decisions?
  14. How often do you cry?
  15. Have you ever had any altercations with the police?
  16. How do your relieve stress?
  17. What did you once love, but now hate?
  18. Is doing nothing a waste of time?
  19. What is cluttering your life?
  20. How do you help people, in small ways, in large ways, however?
  21. When’s the last time you did something nice for a stranger?
  22. Who inspires you the most?
  23. Do Apps help or waste your time?
  24. Does FaceBook make you feel bad?
  25. What music are you listening to right now?
  26. What TV shows have mattered to you?
  27. What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?
  28. When did you last have a really good conversation?

 

 

November Challenge – November 23rd

Do Apps help or waste your time? Does FaceBook make you feel bad?

Hey guys! Today I’ll be answering two questions in one post since I don’t plan on blogging tomorrow due to the holiday.

So for the first question: Do apps help or waste my time? Well, I think that some apps are helpful (the calendar app, the alarm clock app, the reminder app, Shazam, the notes app, etc.) but I think some are a waste of time. Honestly, other than Shazam, I don’t have any additional apps that didn’t already come with the phone. I do know that some people download apps to help with their anxiety and I think that doing so can be incredibly beneficial for some.

As for Facebook, I honestly don’t have one. Personally, I don’t tend to trust a lot of social media platforms. Therefore, I guess in a way the concept of Facebook does make me feel bad.

 

In case I don’t do any blogging tomorrow, I’d like to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and great Thursday tomorrow!

 

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