Getting Better (and recognizing it)!

I’ve been reflecting lately on something extremely important – how I really have made a good amount of progress when it comes to getting through my anxiety. While I admit that I’m still not where I want to be in terms of not allowing anxiety to interfere with my life, I also see that I’ve made a lot of improvements and that I’m quite proud of myself.

I can’t speak for everyone, of course, but I know that for me, one of my biggest fears is that I’ll never get through my anxiety like I want to – that anxiety will always hold me back from what I want to achieve. I hate the idea of never overcoming my fears and it scares me that there’s a possibility that I’ll always feel enslaved to something so awful. However, I also realize that because I’ve made so much progress, with hard work, I can continue to do so. This is a wonderful feeling.

It is so important that we recognize our progress – I can’t express this enough. Recognizing our achievements helps us to realize all that we can do and that overcoming and standing up to our fears isn’t as impossible as it may have originally seemed. Just because it may take more time than we’d like for us to make the amount of progress we want to see, doesn’t make it any less important and praise-worthy.

I want to tell you all something else that is very important – no matter how many steps or how small the steps might seem, every positive step towards progress matters! Don’t let anyone tell you anything different. If you’re taking positive steps in the right direction, it matters! Hard work matters!

 

 

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The Prickly Part

In my last post, I mentioned how I changed my blog’s background and how I thought it fit with the theme of the blog perfectly. While dealing with anxiety and other mental health issues can be prickly and painful at times like a cactus, if you work hard on a consistent basis to overcome your obstacles, you can achieve progress – a beautiful thing.

While I have experienced many beautiful days of witnessing my progress, today included one of the painful and prickly parts that oftentimes occur with struggling with anxiety. Today I saw myself slip backwards, something that is never easy to see.

I went out with a relative today and because it took longer than expected, I began to grow anxious. I’m embarrassed to say this, but sometimes when I’m out and I feel so anxious that I can’t move, I end up sitting on the floor. It makes me feel pathetic.

I haven’t done this in a while. Lately when I go in somewhere (while it may not be for very long), I usually do pretty well. I might need a little bit of help, but I don’t resort to sitting down. Today was different though and it reminded me of all the times in the past when I did this – too many to count.

I like to keep this blog pretty positive, but sometimes I admit that it’s hard. It’s hard to give myself credit for at least trying to go in where I went today and not leaving early, or saying that sometimes things just don’t work out. It’s hard to stay positive while inside, I’m beating myself up for not doing better.

That’s the thing with struggling with anxiety, or any other mental health issue for that matter. Sometimes it’s difficult to see the positivity and light when you feel like you’re surrounded by negativity and darkness.

Here’s what we have to remember. We have to remember all of the times that we’ve faced our fears or overcome our obstacles. We have to remember all of the times that we’ve made progress. Though it may be difficult to believe, just because we struggle or experience times of temporary regression, it does not mean that our past progress or current progress is erased. It also doesn’t mean that we won’t make progress ever again.

So let’s all do ourselves a favor and cut ourselves a break. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t get a little upset when things don’t go how we want (after all, sometimes getting a little upset with ourselves shows us that we have to work harder), but what I am saying is that we have to stop always getting so down on ourselves and, instead, focus on all of the amazing things that we have accomplished and how hard we try on a daily basis to be successful!

If you’re currently struggling or if you’re feeling down about not doing as well at something as you would have hoped, please remember that we all struggle. Also, please try and focus on all the good that you have accomplished and can continue to accomplish with hard work.

 

Drawing From Experience

B.W. Ginsburg

Hey everybody!

As many of you may already know, I am currently working on writing my third book. While the first two were fictional and didn’t hold much truth to them in terms of the plot, there will be some drawing from my own experiences for my next novel.

One of the central themes in my next novel will be mental health – more specifically, anxiety. Since this is a main topic, I will be using some of my own experiences with anxiety to tell the story.

This isn’t necessarily easy for me and I know that for many of you, writing about your issues or struggles can be extremely difficult. While sometimes it can help one feel better, it can also bring about feelings and emotions that can be difficult to deal with. However, as many of you know, writing about your experiences, can be very beneficial to both…

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Realization

Hey everybody! I hope you’re all doing well!

So, I’ve been feeling a bit depressed lately. As many of you may already know, I don’t have a job and I still live at home due to my anxiety. I don’t wish to share my age online, but usually, people are on their own and working by this time in their life. I admit that this weighs on me – I would love to have a job by now and maybe even live on my own. I want to be more independent and unfortunately, my anxiety often stands in my way.

Another thing that always bothers me is the idea that I may never get through my anxiety and be able to do the things I want to do. I don’t always want to be held back due to fear standing in the way of success.

I also admit that sometimes I look at my success over the years and feel that I haven’t made enough progress. I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a long time now and I feel like, maybe, I should be a lot better by now. Here’s what I realized earlier today though – I have made progress and I can continue to do so if I keep working my hardest.

That’s the thing – if we’ve made progress, then that right there is proof that we can continue to do so. Maybe we won’t improve overnight, but with time and effort, we can overcome our anxiety and other obstacles.

I know that I’ve mentioned all of these things before, but I really do believe that it’s important to remind ourselves of our ability to get through the hardest of times. We cannot allow ourselves to forget just how amazing and capable of success we all truly are.

Hurtful Words

The things people say to us can be hurtful – period. We’d all like to be able to just shrug off rude comments, but it’s not always that simple. Especially when mean things are spoken by those who love us, it can be difficult not to let what is said effect us.

Today a close relative said something very, very hurtful to me. Not only did it insult my intelligence, but it reminded me of just how much I struggle with anxiety and how much pain it truly causes me. Also, the words that were spoken by my relative showed their lack of faith in me and the lack of faith they have in the possibility of me being successful – something that is never easy to hear from someone you love.

I’m not going to lie. I started wondering if the words spoken held some merit. Maybe I deserved to be spoken to so unkindly. Maybe I don’t deserve to be believed in. After all, I have suffered from anxiety for a long time and sometimes I even wonder if I’ll ever get through it and be able to overcome my obstacles enough to have a job, etc. It can be hard to know what to believe when there are people around you making you believe that you’re hopeless.

What I need to remember though – what we all need to remember – is that I have made progress. We need to remember that as long as we continue to work hard, that we will continue to make even more progress. It may be hard for us to believe, but we have to have faith in ourselves – no matter if others do or not.

It might be hard sometimes to focus on your accomplishments. Especially in the heat of negativity being thrown your way, it can be hard to dismiss it as untrue. I think we all tend to question whether or not the cruel comments of others are true, especially if they deal with something that bothers us on a regular basis. However, we can’t be tempted to give up on ourselves – we have to show ourselves that we can succeed! We do deserve to be believed in!

A Really Good Day!

I hope you all enjoyed the holidays and had a wonderful weekend!

Yesterday, for Easter, I went out with a couple relatives to visit my aunt and uncle. Let me tell you that I had a great time. Usually when I go out to someone’s house, I tend to spend my time sitting on the couch. However, this time, I got up and walked around without any trouble and truly enjoyed myself. Though my anxiety did hold me back from a few things, I’m proud to say that I think I did the best I’ve done in a while at my aunt and uncle’s!

In addition, while usually when I get home I feel a little drained, I didn’t feel as weighed down by the burden of anxiety. I felt relatively calm and went on to get a few things done and then relax.

The reason I’m sharing this experience with you is because, whether you haven’t felt this way in a while or you rarely feel relaxed when going out, it is possible. With hard work and a lot of practice, you can overcome your anxiety and get back to feeling ‘normal’.

It felt truly amazing for me to spend time with my family and be able to walk around the house at times without feeling too overwhelmed. It felt great for me to walk in and out of the house without feeling the need to hold onto somebody. I made sure to really soak up the feeling of success.

What I experienced yesterday was proof that I have the strength to overcome my struggles – I don’t have to be enslaved by my anxiety. You don’t have to be either! I wish you all the best and please remember that you can get through this!

“By Now…”

Hey everybody!

In less than a month, it will be my birthday. I’ve always been excited about turning another year older and while I still am, I must admit that I am a bit disappointed. By now I thought that I would have accomplished a lot more in life and, honestly, I thought I would be much further along in making progress when it came to getting through my anxiety.

While the above statement is true, I also realize that I’ve made a lot of progress. While there are still a lot of things that I struggle with, I have overcome a lot of obstacles and I am very proud of myself.

I think it’s hard not to compare ourselves to others and get depressed about what we wish we would have accomplished by a certain point in our lives. We look into the future and worry that we’ll forever struggle with what threatens to hold us back. It’s very hard sometimes to see ourselves getting through what we’re currently dealing with.

What we all need to focus on, though, is the progress that we’ve already made. There was a point in my life when I didn’t think I’d be as far as I’ve come. The fact that I’ve made the progress I have is proof that I can make even more – even if it does take some time.

I completely understand if you find yourself feeling down about the fact that you may have not achieved as much as you would have liked by now. I’ve been there – and I am there. However, at the same time, I guarantee that you have made some positive progress and that’s what we all need to focus our energy on. We can get through our anxiety and overcome our obstacles. All we need to do is work hard, have faith in ourselves, and be patient.

Progress

Hey guys! I recently wrote about how I was struggling with an issue when taking a new medication I am now on. I am happy to say that I have been making some progress! I knew that distracting myself was the key to success, and I am proud to say that I was right.

I know that I mention my struggles on here a lot, and I thought it would be a good idea to share with you my progress. When I take my medicine lately, I’ve been trying to put my mind on reading something. Even if I only read a sentence, it helps me get my mind off of taking my medicine and on to something else.

When I wrote about my issue with taking my medicine, I noticed that there were a few people who spoke of experiencing the same (or similar) issues. I highly recommend finding something calming – whether it’s watching something on TV you can really get into, reading, or something else that you find distracting – so that you are focusing on something other than the issue at hand. I really believe that if you try to do this and continue to do so, that you will get through whatever you’re struggling with!

I just wanted to share with you my progress so that you know that it is possible to get through your struggles. Also, while it may have been a small issue in comparison, it was something that was really bothering me. The fact that I can get through this shows me that I can, with hard work, get through my other forms of anxiety as well.

“It’s Always Something”

WARNING: This post details an issue that I’m struggling with. If you suffer from reading about certain issues and then making them your own, you may want to precede with caution. 

As of late, I’ve been feeling a little better when it comes to my anxiety. While still not exactly where I want to be, I have noticed myself making more progress and I am quite grateful!

I recently started taking a different medication and while I can’t be sure, I do think that it might be helping with my anxiety. I also think that I’m feeling better over all on the medication. However, I do admit that while in the process of taking the pill in its crushed up form, it doesn’t taste so great. Let’s just say that due to overthinking, I’ve been feeling a bit sick every time I take the medication lately.

As mentioned above, I know that the reason I feel this way is due to overthinking. I think about feeling sick so much, that I almost make myself feel this way. I don’t do this on purpose, mind you, but it’s become almost a habit.

Last night, it happened again. I thought about getting sick so much that when I took the medication, I felt like I was going to throw up. I know that a way to solve this problem is to focus on something else while taking the medicine, but it’s not always that easy. After taking the medicine (I did not get sick), I was upset. I was upset that my anxiety seems to constantly try to take control of my life and make me feel miserable.

When I was seeing my therapist, he had told me something very important. Even though we want to get through our anxiety, our minds have a way of trying to throw us off. Our anxiety tries to swoop in and take over.

We cannot let our anxiety take over. I know that this can be difficult, but it’s a necessity. Please try to focus on something else when you’re struggling. Watch something on TV, read a book, try to think about something positive. Also, if you do end up struggling, try not to beat yourself up. Try to concentrate on all the positive achievements you have made. You will get through this!

 

Progress In Itself Is Its Own Reward!

Hey guys! Today I’d like to talk to you about a subject that is very important to me – progress and self-recognition.

I think many of us can agree that due to our struggles with anxiety (and any other mental health issues we may deal with) being so challenging, it is nice when any progress we make is recognized. While we don’t make progress just for others, we do like to know that our hard work is being noticed. Unfortunately, not everyone may appreciate or acknowledge just how much we’ve accomplished.

We need to remember the importance of self-recognition. Just because someone else may not appreciate all that we’re doing to overcome our fears and other obstacles, does not mean that we’re not making a great amount of progress. There are some people in the world who simply don’t understand that some things that seem simple to them can be extremely challenging to others. Also, while unfortunate, some people think that if you don’t attain perfection, then the progress you’ve made isn’t good enough. This isn’t true.

When we make progress – any amount of progress – we have to pat ourselves on the back. We have to tell ourselves what a good job we did and how we can overcome any obstacles that threaten to stand in our way. I understand wanting to share one’s progress with others, but we can’t always expect others to be as joyful as we are. However, we cannot let their possible lack of enthusiasm diminish ours. We must take pride in our accomplishments.

Also, while it’s more important that we appreciate our achievements than having others appreciate them, please remember that just because the people we tell may not seem overjoyed by our success, doesn’t mean they’re not. Sometimes people just get caught up in their own lives and don’t always show how happy for us they truly are.

The bottom line is this: making progress is reward in itself. Don’t let the possible lack of appreciation or acknowledgement shown by others make your progress seem less important or worthy of praise!