Mental Health Update

Hi everyone! I hope you’re all doing well!

I don’t know how many of you still check out my blog on a regular basis, but you’ve probably noticed that I haven’t posted a lot about anxiety lately. This is in no way because I don’t struggle anymore (unfortunately, I still struggle a lot) or that I don’t care about mental health issues, but rather because when it comes to writing, I’ve been focusing on writing more positive things.

I feel it’s only right to update you on my mental health. As I mentioned, I still struggle with anxiety and panic attacks. The panic attacks aren’t nearly as bad and frequent, but the general anxiety is very difficult for me. I’m still trying on a daily basis to get through it. On a positive note, I have made a lot of progress in some areas!

In addition, unfortunately, I haven’t been exercising and facing my fears like I should. It’s a horrible trap to fall into – I think pure laziness and being occupied with other things has gotten in the way. On one hand, distracting my mind with working on my writing is a good thing, but on the other, I should definitely still be spending a lot of energy on working hard to get better. By just sitting around, my anxiety isn’t going to lessen or be easier to manage.

I want you to all know that I am still here for you – seriously. I’m not going to stop blogging about anxiety and mental health. If you need to talk, I’m here.

Please remember that the best way to get through anxiety is to do what works best for you. Taking small, manageable steps in facing fears is what I find personally helpful. It allows the anxiety sufferer to take their own, beneficial steps in order to overcome their obstacles.

Once again I hope you are all doing well.

-B.G.

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Once Upon A Time…

I think it’s common for anxiety sufferers (especially when the individual has experienced times of freedom from anxiety), to look back on when they were better with a sense of longing and sadness – sadness that things that were once easy, now seem difficult.

Today I went out with my family and while I did pretty well, I was upset that I struggled a little. I thought about how just a few years ago, I was in college doing things on my own. Now, things that I never thought would seem difficult, sometimes do.

However, after mentioning to my dad how this fact upset me, he brought up a good point. While it might be upsetting to see myself struggling so much, I should also realize that I struggled even more at one point that I do now. There are things that, while still challenging due to my anxiety, are getting a little easier again. My dad was right, there are definitely areas in which I am improving and while I still need to work even harder, I’ve made progress because I have taken the steps to do so. I’m grateful that I’m making progress and I should be proud of myself. In many ways, I am proud of myself.

Sometimes it’s hard to see the light through the darkness. As cliche as that sounds, it’s true. Next time you feel a sense of sadness and defeat due to struggling and remembering how you were doing much better, remember all of the progress you have made!

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Progress Update

I know a couple of you have mentioned wanting to hear about my progress in terms of both my resolutions and getting through anxiety, so I thought I would share them with you.

“The Plan”

As I mentioned before, my new plan for exercising and facing my fears on a more consistent basis was that I wouldn’t allow myself to write until I did some exercising. This plan worked for a while, but eventually I didn’t think much of the “before I write” part. What I mean by this is that, while I’ve been exercising fairly well since the new year started, I haven’t really made sure that I don’t allow myself to write until I exercise. Sometimes I do, but mostly I just make sure I exercise. So while the plan hasn’t totally worked how I expected, I have been exercising more which was the main point.

New Year’s Resolutions

-Exercise more on a consistent basis

  • I think I’ve been doing pretty well at this. I’ve been walking up and down my stairs, I bought an exercise ball that I’m trying out (it’s a little tricky at first), and I’ve been doing some new types of stretches. Special thanks goes to my great friend Carla for sending me some excellent YouTube videos. If you’d like to check them out, here they are:

-Practice facing my fears on a consistent basis

  • While I have gone out a few times since the new year, I’ve also struggled a little while out. Still though I’m attempting to face my fears which is important. I will admit though that I’m still shying away from some opportunities out of fear and anxiety.

-Write more and try harder to work on my new story

  • I wrote a new short story! It’s only nine pages long but I’m pretty proud of myself. The other idea I was referring to when I made the resolution about working on my new story isn’t going well though, I’m afraid. However, I don’t think this is totally my fault. As I wrote about in my post, Some Ideas, some stories just don’t work out like you may have hoped. This does not mean though that I’m giving up on this idea – I’m just putting it on the back burner at the moment.

-Think positively

  • I think this is something I really struggle with. I am trying to think positively, but as many of you who struggle with anxiety know, it’s not always very easy. I am trying though.

-Try to read more

  • I’m currently re-reading one of my favorite books, Tell No One by Harlan Coben. He’s a great author and I’m really enjoying reading!

Summary

All in all, I think I’m doing okay. I think I’ve been exercising more which is good (though I still should be doing it a lot more) and I’m very proud of my writing accomplishments so far. I’m also happy that I started and continued re-reading Tell No One since it’s a fantastic book and since reading has always been something I’ve enjoyed. While I do admit I still have a long way to go, I think I’m doing okay.

 

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Being Your Own Best Friend

Out of My Thoughts

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You might know the actor Wentworth Miller as the main lead of Prison Break.  I have, admittedly, never seen Prison Break, but have only recently gotten acquainted with him after watching one his interviews posted by B. G. from her blog Getting Through Anxiety.  I have loved reading her blog and also the information she shares.  After watching and re-watching this interview, it has allowed me to reflect and re-assess how I deal with my anxiety in positive way.

There was so much that I connected to and learnt from listening to Wentworth that I couldn’t even possibly cover in one blogpost.  I think the one “aha” moment (sorry that is the only phrase that came to my mind) was when he discussed how he dealt with his depression.  He said he had to “start the work of being [his] best friend.” He then talked how he felt he had…

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Grains of Sand – December ’16

Hey guys! Sandy from Sandycademy originally came up with this great way to record your progress each month. Here are some of the things I did last month that I’m proud of.

 

-Reached over 800 followers on Getting Through Anxiety
• Thank you so much to everyone who supports my writing! It means the world to me to know that you respect my journey.

 
-Reached over 38 followers on Rest in Piece Book Blog
• Thank you for those of you who support my new book, Rest in Piece, and my writing journey! Thank you also to those who have purchased my book and spread the word about my work.

 
-Got offered to continue freelancing for an amazing site
• Special thanks to the owner of the site for having the faith in me to share my work with your readers. Thank you for choosing me to be a part of your wonderful cause! I am forever grateful!
-Started re-reading Tell No One by Harlan Coben

 
-Came out with a paperback version of my book, Rest in Piece.

 

-Sold more copies of my book, Rest in Piece

  • Thank you to everyone who supports my writing!
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2017 New Year Resolutions

Hey everyone! I thought I would share with you my new years resolutions and invite you to do the same if you’d like.

2017 Resolutions

-Exercise more on a consistent basis

-Practice facing my fears on a consistent basis

-Write more and try harder to work on my new story

-Think positively

-Try to read more

 

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How It Feels

I hope that everyone had a Merry Christmas yesterday and a great day! Today I’d like to talk about something pretty amazing that I experienced while out for the holidays.

While usually I’m pretty calm when I’m at somebody else’s house, I don’t usually walk around a lot.My anxiety makes me feel kind of shaky, weak, and off balance so I usually stay on the couch while away from home. However, yesterday I actually got up myself and walked in and out of the kitchen. I also sat down at the kitchen table and talked to my aunt.

Now maybe to some, this isn’t a big deal. Heck, there was a time when these kinds of things wouldn’t have been a big deal to me either – man I miss those times. However, it felt really good yesterday doing something with little anxiety – I felt like my old self.

These times in our lives remind us that we have the strength to get through our anxiety and that there is physically nothing wrong with us. Anxiety can play tricks on us, but in the end, that’s all they are. Anxiety lies to us all the time and it’s times of success that we have to hold on to, for these are the times when our true selves are revealed.

Something else that these times show us is the importance of practice. If we want to continue to experience times that are free from anxiety, we need to be consistent in exercising and facing our fears.

We can get through our anxiety! We just need to believe in ourselves and work hard! It feels wonderful to see ourselves making progress and returning to a life that we can fully enjoy!

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