Hurtful Words

The things people say to us can be hurtful – period. We’d all like to be able to just shrug off rude comments, but it’s not always that simple. Especially when mean things are spoken by those who love us, it can be difficult not to let what is said effect us.

Today a close relative said something very, very hurtful to me. Not only did it insult my intelligence, but it reminded me of just how much I struggle with anxiety and how much pain it truly causes me. Also, the words that were spoken by my relative showed their lack of faith in me and the lack of faith they have in the possibility of me being successful – something that is never easy to hear from someone you love.

I’m not going to lie. I started wondering if the words spoken held some merit. Maybe I deserved to be spoken to so unkindly. Maybe I don’t deserve to be believed in. After all, I have suffered from anxiety for a long time and sometimes I even wonder if I’ll ever get through it and be able to overcome my obstacles enough to have a job, etc. It can be hard to know what to believe when there are people around you making you believe that you’re hopeless.

What I need to remember though – what we all need to remember – is that I have made progress. We need to remember that as long as we continue to work hard, that we will continue to make even more progress. It may be hard for us to believe, but we have to have faith in ourselves – no matter if others do or not.

It might be hard sometimes to focus on your accomplishments. Especially in the heat of negativity being thrown your way, it can be hard to dismiss it as untrue. I think we all tend to question whether or not the cruel comments of others are true, especially if they deal with something that bothers us on a regular basis. However, we can’t be tempted to give up on ourselves – we have to show ourselves that we can succeed! We do deserve to be believed in!

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A Really Good Day!

I hope you all enjoyed the holidays and had a wonderful weekend!

Yesterday, for Easter, I went out with a couple relatives to visit my aunt and uncle. Let me tell you that I had a great time. Usually when I go out to someone’s house, I tend to spend my time sitting on the couch. However, this time, I got up and walked around without any trouble and truly enjoyed myself. Though my anxiety did hold me back from a few things, I’m proud to say that I think I did the best I’ve done in a while at my aunt and uncle’s!

In addition, while usually when I get home I feel a little drained, I didn’t feel as weighed down by the burden of anxiety. I felt relatively calm and went on to get a few things done and then relax.

The reason I’m sharing this experience with you is because, whether you haven’t felt this way in a while or you rarely feel relaxed when going out, it is possible. With hard work and a lot of practice, you can overcome your anxiety and get back to feeling ‘normal’.

It felt truly amazing for me to spend time with my family and be able to walk around the house at times without feeling too overwhelmed. It felt great for me to walk in and out of the house without feeling the need to hold onto somebody. I made sure to really soak up the feeling of success.

What I experienced yesterday was proof that I have the strength to overcome my struggles – I don’t have to be enslaved by my anxiety. You don’t have to be either! I wish you all the best and please remember that you can get through this!

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“By Now…”

Hey everybody!

In less than a month, it will be my birthday. I’ve always been excited about turning another year older and while I still am, I must admit that I am a bit disappointed. By now I thought that I would have accomplished a lot more in life and, honestly, I thought I would be much further along in making progress when it came to getting through my anxiety.

While the above statement is true, I also realize that I’ve made a lot of progress. While there are still a lot of things that I struggle with, I have overcome a lot of obstacles and I am very proud of myself.

I think it’s hard not to compare ourselves to others and get depressed about what we wish we would have accomplished by a certain point in our lives. We look into the future and worry that we’ll forever struggle with what threatens to hold us back. It’s very hard sometimes to see ourselves getting through what we’re currently dealing with.

What we all need to focus on, though, is the progress that we’ve already made. There was a point in my life when I didn’t think I’d be as far as I’ve come. The fact that I’ve made the progress I have is proof that I can make even more – even if it does take some time.

I completely understand if you find yourself feeling down about the fact that you may have not achieved as much as you would have liked by now. I’ve been there – and I am there. However, at the same time, I guarantee that you have made some positive progress and that’s what we all need to focus our energy on. We can get through our anxiety and overcome our obstacles. All we need to do is work hard, have faith in ourselves, and be patient.

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Progress

Hey guys! I recently wrote about how I was struggling with an issue when taking a new medication I am now on. I am happy to say that I have been making some progress! I knew that distracting myself was the key to success, and I am proud to say that I was right.

I know that I mention my struggles on here a lot, and I thought it would be a good idea to share with you my progress. When I take my medicine lately, I’ve been trying to put my mind on reading something. Even if I only read a sentence, it helps me get my mind off of taking my medicine and on to something else.

When I wrote about my issue with taking my medicine, I noticed that there were a few people who spoke of experiencing the same (or similar) issues. I highly recommend finding something calming – whether it’s watching something on TV you can really get into, reading, or something else that you find distracting – so that you are focusing on something other than the issue at hand. I really believe that if you try to do this and continue to do so, that you will get through whatever you’re struggling with!

I just wanted to share with you my progress so that you know that it is possible to get through your struggles. Also, while it may have been a small issue in comparison, it was something that was really bothering me. The fact that I can get through this shows me that I can, with hard work, get through my other forms of anxiety as well.

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“It’s Always Something”

WARNING: This post details an issue that I’m struggling with. If you suffer from reading about certain issues and then making them your own, you may want to precede with caution. 

As of late, I’ve been feeling a little better when it comes to my anxiety. While still not exactly where I want to be, I have noticed myself making more progress and I am quite grateful!

I recently started taking a different medication and while I can’t be sure, I do think that it might be helping with my anxiety. I also think that I’m feeling better over all on the medication. However, I do admit that while in the process of taking the pill in its crushed up form, it doesn’t taste so great. Let’s just say that due to overthinking, I’ve been feeling a bit sick every time I take the medication lately.

As mentioned above, I know that the reason I feel this way is due to overthinking. I think about feeling sick so much, that I almost make myself feel this way. I don’t do this on purpose, mind you, but it’s become almost a habit.

Last night, it happened again. I thought about getting sick so much that when I took the medication, I felt like I was going to throw up. I know that a way to solve this problem is to focus on something else while taking the medicine, but it’s not always that easy. After taking the medicine (I did not get sick), I was upset. I was upset that my anxiety seems to constantly try to take control of my life and make me feel miserable.

When I was seeing my therapist, he had told me something very important. Even though we want to get through our anxiety, our minds have a way of trying to throw us off. Our anxiety tries to swoop in and take over.

We cannot let our anxiety take over. I know that this can be difficult, but it’s a necessity. Please try to focus on something else when you’re struggling. Watch something on TV, read a book, try to think about something positive. Also, if you do end up struggling, try not to beat yourself up. Try to concentrate on all the positive achievements you have made. You will get through this!

 

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Progress In Itself Is Its Own Reward!

Hey guys! Today I’d like to talk to you about a subject that is very important to me – progress and self-recognition.

I think many of us can agree that due to our struggles with anxiety (and any other mental health issues we may deal with) being so challenging, it is nice when any progress we make is recognized. While we don’t make progress just for others, we do like to know that our hard work is being noticed. Unfortunately, not everyone may appreciate or acknowledge just how much we’ve accomplished.

We need to remember the importance of self-recognition. Just because someone else may not appreciate all that we’re doing to overcome our fears and other obstacles, does not mean that we’re not making a great amount of progress. There are some people in the world who simply don’t understand that some things that seem simple to them can be extremely challenging to others. Also, while unfortunate, some people think that if you don’t attain perfection, then the progress you’ve made isn’t good enough. This isn’t true.

When we make progress – any amount of progress – we have to pat ourselves on the back. We have to tell ourselves what a good job we did and how we can overcome any obstacles that threaten to stand in our way. I understand wanting to share one’s progress with others, but we can’t always expect others to be as joyful as we are. However, we cannot let their possible lack of enthusiasm diminish ours. We must take pride in our accomplishments.

Also, while it’s more important that we appreciate our achievements than having others appreciate them, please remember that just because the people we tell may not seem overjoyed by our success, doesn’t mean they’re not. Sometimes people just get caught up in their own lives and don’t always show how happy for us they truly are.

The bottom line is this: making progress is reward in itself. Don’t let the possible lack of appreciation or acknowledgement shown by others make your progress seem less important or worthy of praise!

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Taking Note of The Good Days

Yesterday I had a great day. In fact, I’ve had a couple of really good days lately. The first time, I went out to eat with some family members and was pretty relaxed the whole meal – I did extremely well!

I think it’s important for us to recognize when we do well. We spend so much time berating ourselves when we struggle, that I think we sometimes forget the importance of tapping ourselves on the shoulder when we succeed. There is nothing wrong with taking pride in our progress, no matter how big or small these achievements may seem to others.

Each step we take is important. Every time we succeed, we see just how strong and capable we are. To not take note of our progress would be a huge mistake! We need to build ourselves up, not constantly focus on bringing ourselves down.

So next time you notice yourself making progress, write it down. Reward yourself by telling yourself what a great job you did. Heck, if you want, treat yourself to a little something!

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