Making Sure We Stay Motivated

One thing that I constantly find myself struggling with is keeping up with exercising and practicing getting through my anxiety. I know for a fact that facing my fears and stretching will help me conquer self-doubt and yet, at the same time, it’s hard to do so on a consistent  basis.

Let’s face it – we all get lazy, lack motivation, or simply forget to do what we need to. While it may seem difficult for some to believe, even when we want so badly to improve our lives, these three issues can still play a major part in our daily lives. As human beings, we have days where we simply get lazy. We also experience times when we lack the motivation to do what we know we need to do in order to succeed. It’s not that we don’t want to get better, we just don’t feel like putting in the work. Sometimes this is due to anxiety itself wearing us down and sometimes it’s just due to life. Also, there’s forgetfulness. Whether we forget to exercise and practice facing our fears because we’re doing other important things or because we’re simply watching TV, sometimes we just forget to do what’s necessary.

These are in no way good excuses. Nothing is really a good excuse not to do what’s important. However, things happen. We might start practicing facing our fears and exercising on a consistent basis, but then somewhere down the line, we fall behind a bit. We start noticing that maybe it’s been a while since we last really did what we know to be essential to getting better.

No one’s perfect and with that, comes the fact that there may be times when we let other things come before putting in our best effort. While it’s perfectly normal that this might happen, it doesn’t make it okay to continue to not do what we should be doing.

Pay attention to your progress. Pay attention to how often you’re practicing healthy habits in order to get through your anxiety and over other obstacles. If you catch yourself not putting in your best effort, try hard to do so. Remember, and this is key, that getting through your anxiety and other issues is important . You are important.

 

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The Butterfly

Today was horrible, seriously. I went to the doctor’s with a relative and things did NOT go well. My anxiety was incredibly high and my relative was not understanding.

I know I’ve said this a million times before, but I hate going through this. I hate how everything has to be so difficult. I try so hard but I know it must seem to others like I’m not trying at all. I constantly see myself failing to do as well as I would have liked and to be totally honest, it hurts.

I love my relative, I do. I also know how challenging it can be dealing with someone who has anxiety. Hell, it’s hard for me to go through it! I’m often tired of myself! Still though, I don’t find it that ridiculous to hope that someone so close to me would be helpful, patient, and supportive. Is that really too much to ask? Apparently it is.

The doctor and nurse were nice and caring. They told me that there was no pressure and that I needn’t apologize (I apologized like five times per person). I felt horrible and I didn’t want to put my relative and the staff through what I did, but my anxiety was awful!

Afterwards, I was waiting in the car while my relative went into a store. I was listening to music trying to calm myself and vent my frustrations when out of nowhere, I saw a butterfly. This butterfly was beautiful and for a moment, I smiled. There it was, this gorgeous orange butterfly just flying around. The weather was grey and ugly, but it was pretty! I guess what they say is true: even in the darkest of times, you can still find beauty.

I’m not saying that today went well – it didn’t. What I am saying is that there were times that I did okay. Plus, I did get through it. I went to the doctor’s and when you think about it, that counts for something, doesn’t it?

I want to remind everybody that even in difficult times, you’re not a failure. I want to thank Carla for reminding me of this. I know it can be hard when you’re going through something and all you feel like doing is crying to remember how great you are, but it’s true. You’re an amazing person and you can get over your obstacles!

Please don’t give up. Please don’t think you’re a failure just because you struggle. Please don’t let others make you feel like you’re not good enough or like you’re unsuccessful. Think about all of the progress you’ve made and all of the times you’ve been successful!

Thank you to everyone who supports me and all the kind doctors and nurses out there!

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Accomplishments!

Yesterday I accomplished something that I’m quite proud of! I did this with no anxiety and let me tell you, it felt amazing! For a little while, I was very conscious of what was going on, but then I started to relax and as I was succeeding, I realized just how great it all felt.

I was, and still am, super proud of myself. I told my parents and a friend how happy I was to have succeeded and they were all very proud of me. A part of me felt silly being so proud and expressing this pride, but then I realized something with the help of a friend: there is no accomplishment too small to be proud of and quite frankly, I don’t think my accomplishment was very small at all. It’s one thing to get through something and another to do so without feeling any anxiety, and I’m very proud to say that I did a job well done!

This leads me to another point: any progress that is made should be celebrated in a healthy way, whether it’s considered big or small. Also, while you shouldn’t depend on others for recognition, there is nothing wrong with sharing your happiness. Additionally, while some people may not appreciate your accomplishments, others will and these are the people that you should be most grateful for (not that you shouldn’t be grateful for the other people in your life. Some people just have a difficult time understanding what they do not struggle with).

I would like to thank the first friend I shared my success with (you know who you are!). Thank you so much for being here for me, for listening, and for always caring. Your friendship means the world to me and so does your support. Seriously, I’m so happy to have met you!

I also want to thank everyone who supports me. I want to thank those who take the time to read, comment on, and ‘like’ posts on my blog. I want to thank those who take the time to email me and really get to know me while at the same time respecting my privacy. Thank you so much!

Please remember guys: no amount of progress is too small to celebrate! Even if some others may not understand the big deal, succeeding at something positive always matters! So be proud of yourself, be grateful, and remember that succeeding means that you have the ability to get over your obstacles!

 

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Dangerous Habits For The Anxious Mind

Hey guys! I know I haven’t written a post about anxiety in a while. The truth is that I’ve been doing really well and I’m super proud of myself! I’ve been practicing and exercising on a consistent basis and I’m feeling really good about myself and my progress!

Anyway, I thought I would write a post today about some things that I’ve learned can be dangerous for one with anxiety. Now, don’t get me wrong, these habits really aren’t always the best in general, but for those of us who struggle with severe stress, they can be even more dangerous. So, without further ado, here are some bad habits that I suggest if you struggle with, you work hard to break!

1.) Over-thinking

  • This is a major problem for me. Many times, when I know I’ll have to do something or go somewhere that makes me anxious (or I think will), I obsess about it and over-think a great deal. I worry about the what-ifs and quite frankly, I start worrying way ahead of time. The problem with this is that when we obsess about negative outcomes, we tend to convince ourselves that the situation will go negatively and we leave little to no room for positive thinking. In a way, we almost doom ourselves before we even get a real chance to do well! Don’t get me wrong, we still have a great chance of doing well, but we make it harder on ourselves.

2.) Not distracting our minds

  • This habit kind of goes hand in hand with over-thinking. So many times when the negative thoughts kick in, we let them. Instead of setting our minds on more positive thoughts or actions, we just stay where we are and continue to dwell on our negative thoughts. Sometimes the best way to stop feeling anxious or stop thinking negatively, is to get up and distract ourselves! Do something positive! Write something, watch something you enjoy, read a good book, clean! Anything to get your mind off the negative!

3.) Worrying about others’ opinions of you/opinions of your progress

  • While sometimes listening to others’ opinions is helpful (a therapist, psychiatrist, trusted friend or family member, etc.), sometimes we allow the negative opinions and words of others to get us down. There are times when I know I’m making progress but the rude comments of others turn my good mood into a bad one. Sometimes I feel like they rip the happiness and feeling of success away from me. We can’t allow that to happen! If we make progress, we make progress. We cannot allow others to make us feel like we don’t try our best. If we know that we’re trying our best on a consistent basis, then that’s what we should focus on!

4.) Second guessing yourself

  • This is another habit that takes a lot of effort to break. Anxiety can be so strong sometimes that it makes us doubt our abilities to get through situations. Anxiety can sometimes make the easiest tasks seem extremely difficult. However, you can break that pattern! We are all stronger than our anxiety! We just have to work on a consistent basis to prove to ourselves that we can get through and over our fears!

5.) Not practicing and exercising on a consistent basis

  • This is a big one guys. Seriously. I’m not saying this to preach or to act like a professional therapist (because I’m not), but consistent effort really is key to getting through our anxiety. How do I know? I know because I’ve experienced it. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle way more than I want to. However, I see proof that practicing and exercising every day and on a consistent basis really does make a huge difference. It enforces the fact that we are stronger than what tries to hold us back. Remember, getting through our anxiety and living our life to the fullest is extremely important. It’s worth all the hard work!

If you struggle with any of these bad habits, please know that you are not alone. Also, please know that you do have the strength to get through your anxiety! 🙂

 

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Realization

I haven’t been feeling that well this week and therefore I haven’t felt like exercising very much. Every time this happens I ask myself, “Why is it that when I am feeling better, I don’t practice way more than I do?”

This question almost always comes to mind when I’m not feeling well. I seriously can’t seem to find a good reason why, when I’m feeling up to it, I don’t push myself a lot harder in order to face my fears.

Don’t get me wrong, when I’m feeling better than I have been this week, I definitely practice more. However, more isn’t always enough. I should take advantage of when I’m feeling well instead of giving in to laziness.

To better illustrate my point, let me give you an example. Yesterday, I walked around a little, did ten stretches, did something that I wanted to get done and that was it. Don’t get me wrong, progress is progress but I didn’t do as much as usual due to not feeling well. I think that makes sense. Some may say that even when you’re not feeling well, you should push yourself almost just as hard as you normally would, but sometimes you’re just not feeling well. Period.

Now the day before I started not feeling well, I did do more exercises than yesterday. However, when I think about it, I should have done way more. The day that I was feeling fine, I did one hundred of the head/neck exercises that I do (instead of the ten when I wasn’t feeling well), I walked around the backyard, did some bicycle crunches, and did some other stretches/exercises. Now again, don’t get me wrong, that’s a lot of good that I accomplished that day. However, there were big gaps in between those times of progress when I could have been doing more to face my fears.

The bottom line? We need to take advantage of the days when we’re feeling well. We need to stop coming up with excuses for not pushing ourselves to exercise and face our fears. Things like “I don’t feel like it”, “I’m too lazy”, or “I just exercised an hour ago” aren’t always good excuses. More often than not, they’re not valid excuses at all. I know that sometimes it can be hard not to give into laziness and I know that sometimes we simply don’t feel like exercising. However, we have to think about what’s better for us. Is it better to be able to manage our anxiety and get through it or is it better to be lazy and not be able to face our fears when we need to the most?

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I’m Just So Tired

I’m tired. I’m tired of struggling. I’m tired of anxiety getting in the way of me doing things – both the simple things and the more challenging. I’m tired of feeling controlled by something I hate so much. I’m tired of sometimes feeling hopeless and wondering if I’ll ever get through this.

I know I’ve made accomplishments and I know that I’m strong enough to get through this. However, this doesn’t change the fact that I hate struggling with anxiety and that every time, I do, I feel like a failure. Yes, I know that I’m not and yes, I know that I’ve made some improvements and made some great progress. I’m grateful for this and utterly appreciative. That doesn’t mean though that I’m not sick of my anxiety and that I wish it wouldn’t just go away.

Sometimes it’s just so hard not to feel down about struggling. I wish I could just keep doing well and not have moments or days when I feel like I’ve taken a small or huge step back. I know it may seem like I’m wallowing in self-pity, but sometimes it just feels like I’ll never escape this cycle.

I want so badly to get better. I want so badly not to get anxious about simple things and not to struggle with everyday tasks. I want to stop doubting myself.

I think part of the reason I’ve been struggling a little more lately is due to the fact that I haven’t been practicing facing my fears and exercising as much. These are important things to do since they prove to us that we have the ability to get through our struggles and over our fears.

The important thing to remember is that even if you’re struggling and having a difficult time, you do have the strength to get through your struggles. You can and will overcome your fears if you work hard on a consistent basis. Also, just because you struggle does not mean that you’re a failure – it just means that you’re struggling and that you have to work even harder. Trust me, it’s worth it.

For all of you out there who are having a really difficult time, remember that you are strong. Sometimes our anxiety makes us feel otherwise, but that doesn’t make it’s right. Don’t let anxiety make you feel weak or unable to accomplish your goals. You are stronger!

P.S. Please don’t give up hope. You can get through this!

“Anxiety is a liar. The best weapon against it is the truth” – B.G. , Getting Through Anxiety

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The Truth

The Truth: You are not a failure!

When we see ourselves struggling and not doing as well as we know we can, we tend to sometimes feel as if we have failed. Sometimes even though we are strong enough to get through our anxiety, we find ourselves feeling otherwise.

Anxiety has a way of making us feel incapable of achieving our goals. Our minds can play tricks on us and allow us to think that we are weaker than we actually are. When we give into our anxiety and allow it to take over, we tend to start to believe that we cannot overcome it and therefore, we are failures. The truth though is that everyone struggles. Some of us just struggle more in certain areas than others. Also, some of us just have to work harder to overcome our obstacles. This does not make us weak or pathetic. This does not make us failures. It just means that we struggle and that we have to work hard on a consistent basis.

Some days are going to be harder than others, there’s no doubt about it. Whether or not you struggle with anxiety or a mental health issue, you’re going to have bad days. Some days may seem impossible to get through. They’re not. I know it can be hard not to feel like a failure when we don’t achieve what we wanted to, but that doesn’t mean that we actually are failures. We are only failures if we give up on ourselves and our goals completely.

 

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Here is some advice on how to remember that you are not a failure – even when you feel otherwise.

1.) Remember all of the times when you have succeeded in accomplishing a goal. Remember all of the progress you have made. I guarantee that you have made some progress.

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2.) Remember that you are not alone in your struggles. Everyone struggles with something and everyone has bad days. We may all struggle in slightly different ways and our bad days may be difficult for different reasons, but no one is perfect and no one goes their whole life without having a difficult day.

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3.) Remember that as long as you try, you’re not a failure. Trying is essential and as long as you never give up, you’re not a failure.

 

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4.) Remember that even if you struggle at something, you’re still stronger than your anxiety and any other issue you that you may have.

 

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5.) Remember that you are an intelligent, talented person!

 

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