Don’t Worry…

Another great message posted by Fight or Flights! I know it can be difficult not to worry about what others think, but as long as you’re trying your hardest, that’s all that matters!

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Imagination

I love this quote and image for so many reasons. For one thing, worry IS a waste of our imagination. Instead, we should be creating stories, poetry, and the like. We should be using our imagination for positivity instead of negativity. Also, this image is beautiful!

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Focusing on Positivity Instead of Anxiety Is Like…

Focusing on one sound instead of another. Let me explain.

So, I just finished pedaling a little while ago and while I was doing so, I realized something. There are two distinct sounds that my pedal machine makes. There’s a “thudding” sound and “swishing” sound. The “thudding” sound seems more dominant, but the “swishing” sound is definitely present.

As I was pedaling, I realized that you could focus on either sound. You could either focus on the loud thudding sound (which is less pleasing to the ears) or you can focus on the swishing sound. I thought about how the thudding sound is kind of like anxiety; it’s loud and it’s hard not to concentrate on. The swishing sound can be likened to positivity and focusing on other things besides our anxiety. It may seem impossible to do, but if we really concentrate, we’ll be able to hear the swishing sound over the thudding.

What does this analogy teach us? It teaches us that no matter how hard it may seem, we can choose to concentrate on the positive instead of the negative. We can make our strength louder than our weakness, we can make getting through anxiety louder than struggling with it.

I hope this analogy has helped! Do you have any analogies that help you get through anxiety?

Posting Challenge Day 3!

Hey guys! Today is the last day of Poetry-Jo’s 3 Day Posting Challenge. I’ve really enjoyed doing this. Thanks again to Angela from I Am My Own Island for nominating me and to Jo for creating this challenge!

Today’s question/assignment is as follows:

So we know who you are and your dreams for the future, today I would like you to list 5 things. Five small actions you can do daily or weekly to bring you from the person you are today to the person you hope to be in the future.

1.) Exercise/practice facing my anxiety on a consistent basis!

  • This is so important to me. I want to get through my anxiety and this is an important step towards accomplishing this goal!

2.) Write more!

  • I want to be a professional author one day and writing more is a great way to improve my writing skills (along with reading of course!).

3.) Read more!

  • Along with writing, reading is a great way to learn how to write effectively. Also, reading is a great way to keep our minds busy so that we don’t stress as much!

4.) Don’t allow other people’s negativity to bring me down

  • I know a lot of people who are critical of me, my progress, and just things in general. It can be really hard to fight off negative words when you hear them so much. However, I have to remember that I have a lot of positive attributes and that I’m a wonderful person (just like many of you are!). I can’t allow others to bring me down!

5.) Push through my anxiety more

  • This may seem the same as #1 on my list but it’s not. It’s one thing to exercise and practice facing your fears, but it’s another to push through them while your experiencing them. Often times, pushing through your fears is the hardest thing to do.

So once again, to everyone I nominated and to whoever would like to answer: what are five small things you can do to bring you from who you are today to the person who you want to be in the future?

 

“You may believe in someone more than they believe in themselves and can’t convince them otherwise. Sometimes that someone is you…fight with everything you have to get out of your own way. Your life depends on it.” — Kaylaa T. Blackwell

A great reminder posted by Kaylaa from Commonsensegal.com. Please check out her blog!

Inspired Beacon

"You may believe in someone more than they believe in themselves and can't convince them otherwise. Sometimes that someone is you...fight with everything you have to get out of your own way. Your life depends on it." — Kaylaa T. Blackwell “You may believe in someone more than they believe in themselves and can’t convince them otherwise. Sometimes that someone is you…fight with everything you have to get out of your own way. Your life depends on it.” — Kaylaa T. Blackwell

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Anxiety – The Trickster

We all know that anxiety can be quite the trickster. When we begin to show it whose boss, it tries to come up with other ways to show that it’s not done with us. Let’s say yesterday and today for example. Now, I’ve been doing better lately and what happens? My mind starts trying to convince me that I miss my anxiety. Can you believe that?? Now I know without a doubt that I don’t want to have anxiety and that I don’t want to go through this. But see, anxiety doesn’t like to feel like it’s losing, so it tries anything it can to try to get back on top!

So, what do you do when you feel yourself doubting yourself?

1.) Remind yourself of all the success that you’ve made. Remind yourself that you’re stronger than your anxiety.

2.) Remind yourself that anxiety is a liar and that the best weapon is the truth.

  • For example: When I felt my anxiety trying to convince myself that I missed it, I told myself this: “That’s not true. I’m happy that I’m getting better. The only reason I felt otherwise is because my anxiety’s trying to take hold. Plus, it was just different to feel so relaxed. I’m not used to feeling that way. I did like feeling that way though.”

3.) Keep on practicing and stretching. Prove to yourself that you can get through your anxiety!

Don’t let anxiety get the best of you. Don’t listen to its lies. It doesn’t like to lose and it’s going to try to throw lies our way. We can’t listen to those lies!

Part 2, Day 3 of 3 Day, 3 Quote Challenge

Okay, so today I’m going to cheat and use two quotes instead of one. The truth is that I find them both really good and important, so choosing one is just too hard. Here’s the first:

“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” –William Shakespeare

Isn’t this the truth!? Anxiety feeds off of doubt, they’re best friends! Doubt makes us feel as if we’re not capable of doing things when we know deep down that we are. Doubt tries so hard to confuse us; to convince us that we can’t succeed. The truth is though that we can, we just have to work hard on a consistent basis, which leads me to my next quote…

“Trust is built with consistency”— Lincoln Chafee

The more we push ourselves and practice facing our fears, the more we can show ourselves that our doubts are just negative thoughts and that we have no real reason to believe them. We are strong and we have the strength to get through our anxiety and over any other obstacles that we might have. We just have to prove this to ourselves on a consistent basis! This brings me to a real life example:

So for a while now, I’ve been trying to get something done. I would try to muster up the courage to do so, but every time I got close, fear and doubt would come over me and I wouldn’t try. I knew that I wasn’t a failure and I had faith that I would eventually succeed at what I needed to get done, but I still felt awful that I kept backing down. That’s what doubt can do to us, it can make us feel incapable of being successful.

However, I kept practicing facing my fears and exercising (and I will continue to do so because I know it works) and guess what, today I got done what I’ve been trying to do! I’m so happy and proud of myself! I worked hard and I didn’t give up. I’m never going to give up because I understand the importance of consistency when it comes to overcoming our anxiety!

I hope these quotes can help you guys. I was also thinking of maybe doing something fun and having a challenge of sorts when you pick your favorite funny movie and paste quotes in your post from that funny movie. I thought it would be a great way to make us all laugh, get us in a good mood, and share what we find to be great movies. What do you guys think?

Thanks again to Angela from I Am My Own Island and Carla from The Melodramatic Confessions of Carla Louise for nominating me for this challenge!

Another Great Day!

In addition to all the things I mentioned that I was thankful for the other day, I’m also thankful for what a great holiday I had today! I went to my Grandpa’s and didn’t need any help walking into the house or leaving and I even walked around the house a little! I ate what I wanted to eat and didn’t feel anxious at all! Then I went to my Uncle’s and while I needed my dad’s help walking in a little when we reached the house, I did much better than usual and when we left, I didn’t need help at all! I also ate and had a really good time!

It felt so good to not feel anxious, to not feel like at any moment, I would become stressed and not be able to enjoy the holiday. When I was leaving my Uncle’s, I felt so calm and thought to myself, This is what it feels for someone to leave who doesn’t struggle with anxiety. This is how I used to feel!

Sometimes it still feels like someone wants you to do something that you’re not quite ready to do, and when they mention this and seem to become frustrated that you’re a little too anxious to do something, it makes you feel guilty. I know that feeling. I love my Grandma and my mom but they wanted me to eat at the table and honestly, I felt much more comfortable with my anxiety eating on the couch. I felt bad that I didn’t sit where they wanted, but I realized that I was doing really well and that some people just don’t understand. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that our opinion of how we’re doing is what matters. Some people are simply really hard to satisfy, or sometimes, can’t be satisfied at all. We have to be thankful for our accomplishments and acknowledge our success!

I hope you all had a Happy Thanksgiving and wonderful day!

*Also, thank you all for all of your support. Thanks for wishing me a happy holiday and for sharing such kind words. You guys really made my day! I’m so thankful for my family, friends, life, and strength. I’m also thankful for God who I believe watches over me.

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Hurtful Words

A huge thing that anxiety sufferers deal with is misunderstanding. In fact, I’m guessing that anyone who struggles with a mental health issue deals with this. Today I experienced this once more. I went to a party with a family member and when I got anxious, I asked if this person could pull up their car when we left. Instead of being kind and doing something simple for me, they had to go out of their way to make it more difficult, telling me that I should “prove” to myself that I can get through it.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I understand that maybe my relative (who was my mom, by the way) was trying to help in some way. However, when I asked her why she couldn’t do this for me, she said, “Don’t manipulate me”. Now, I hate this phrase and I’ve heard it used by her before. I do not mean to manipulate, I simply mean to express how I feel and I truly wanted to know the answer to this question. Why couldn’t my mom simply just pull in the driveway so it would be less anxiety provoking for me to walk to the car? Instead, she said I was manipulating her and made a comment about how if I made it into the house I could make it to the car. In a way, I knew that I could make it, but as we all know sometimes anxiety takes over and makes us feel weak and unable to do things.

To make matters worse, my mom said to me that I have arms and legs and so I can walk to the car. Just because I have arms and legs and am able to do something, does not make my anxiety any less scary or sometimes, seemingly debilitating. I told my mom that when she says I manipulate her, it hurts my feelings because it’s not my intention. She went on to say that I was trying to say that she never does anything for me (which is not what I was trying to say).

I understand someone trying to help someone realize that they are able to do something. I also understand someone trying to kindly push someone to prove to themselves that they are capable of accomplishing their goals. However, I  think a person should understand that there is a right time and place for this. When my mom said that she would not move the car, I became really anxious just thinking about walking further to the car (it wasn’t very far, but my anxiety was so strong, that it didn’t matter). Then after this, my mom continued to talk to another relative of mine until I got so anxious that I had to get my mom’s attention to come sit by me due to me experiencing a panic attack. After all that, my mom still didn’t move the car. I got to it with her help and was okay, but she really hurt my feelings.

Anxiety is hard enough as it is to get through and deal with without someone you love and care about making you feel guilty for struggling. If you know someone who has a mental health issue, please know that they are not trying to manipulate you or do this for attention. They are genuinely going through something and it would help if you would try your hardest to understand, or at least, be kind. I’m not saying my mom’s a mean person, nor am I saying that I don’t love her, but I do think she could handle these situations better.