Progress In Itself Is Its Own Reward!

Hey guys! Today I’d like to talk to you about a subject that is very important to me – progress and self-recognition.

I think many of us can agree that due to our struggles with anxiety (and any other mental health issues we may deal with) being so challenging, it is nice when any progress we make is recognized. While we don’t make progress just for others, we do like to know that our hard work is being noticed. Unfortunately, not everyone may appreciate or acknowledge just how much we’ve accomplished.

We need to remember the importance of self-recognition. Just because someone else may not appreciate all that we’re doing to overcome our fears and other obstacles, does not mean that we’re not making a great amount of progress. There are some people in the world who simply don’t understand that some things that seem simple to them can be extremely challenging to others. Also, while unfortunate, some people think that if you don’t attain perfection, then the progress you’ve made isn’t good enough. This isn’t true.

When we make progress – any amount of progress – we have to pat ourselves on the back. We have to tell ourselves what a good job we did and how we can overcome any obstacles that threaten to stand in our way. I understand wanting to share one’s progress with others, but we can’t always expect others to be as joyful as we are. However, we cannot let their possible lack of enthusiasm diminish ours. We must take pride in our accomplishments.

Also, while it’s more important that we appreciate our achievements than having others appreciate them, please remember that just because the people we tell may not seem overjoyed by our success, doesn’t mean they’re not. Sometimes people just get caught up in their own lives and don’t always show how happy for us they truly are.

The bottom line is this: making progress is reward in itself. Don’t let the possible lack of appreciation or acknowledgement shown by others make your progress seem less important or worthy of praise!

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Taking Note of The Good Days

Yesterday I had a great day. In fact, I’ve had a couple of really good days lately. The first time, I went out to eat with some family members and was pretty relaxed the whole meal – I did extremely well!

I think it’s important for us to recognize when we do well. We spend so much time berating ourselves when we struggle, that I think we sometimes forget the importance of tapping ourselves on the shoulder when we succeed. There is nothing wrong with taking pride in our progress, no matter how big or small these achievements may seem to others.

Each step we take is important. Every time we succeed, we see just how strong and capable we are. To not take note of our progress would be a huge mistake! We need to build ourselves up, not constantly focus on bringing ourselves down.

So next time you notice yourself making progress, write it down. Reward yourself by telling yourself what a great job you did. Heck, if you want, treat yourself to a little something!

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Collaboration With Travis and the Brain!

Hey everybody! I have some exciting news! Travis from www.travisandthebrain.com/ and I will be collaborating to create mental health merchandise on teespring.com! While I haven’t known Travis long, he has been extremely supportive and kind, opening up about his mental health journey and listening to my own. Along with a blog about his journey with Traumatic Brain Injury and recovering from Malaria, Travis created the storefront at Teespring to help raise mental health awareness. He was kind enough to let me join his team and help create some lovely items! To visit Travis’s storefront at teespring.com, please feel free to click the link below or the link located in the above menu that says ‘mental health merchandise’. Thank you!

https://teespring.com/stores/travis-and-the-brain

 

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Being Proud

If you struggle with anxiety or another mental health issue, you may find yourself constantly doubting your strength and abilities. Let me just tell you, that you are not alone. Just yesterday I was questioning how anyone could find me inspirational as there were a couple of times during the day where I felt quite, well…pathetic.

However, last night, I really realized something. I am strong and capable of getting through my anxiety. Yes, I may need some help along the way, but that doesn’t make me weak.

I had a pretty good day yesterday. I went to church in the morning (which was a bit difficult, but I managed to get through it), I spent time at home with my family, and then I went out to visit a relative in the hospital.

Going to the hospital was the most nerve-wracking part of the day for me. It’s hard for me to go out as it is sometimes, and going to the hospital is always a little stressful, even if you’re not there for yourself.

While I did ask for help when it came to getting around, I was very proud of myself. For one thing, I went to the hospital to visit my relative in the first place. There was a time where I may not have even tried. As horrible as that might sound, anxiety can make it extremely hard to do things – even if they are things you know you should do. Also, while I did get help when it came to walking into and out of the hospital, I did relatively well while visiting my relative and didn’t struggle as much as I usually might while going out.

I know how difficult it can be to be proud of ourselves. Whenever we struggle, it can seem like a constant reminder of our issues having the ability to take control. What we have to remember, though, is that while we may face many challenges, we also experience many victories – that is what we must focus on.

Yesterday, I did many great things. I went to church and stayed the entire time, I had a great time celebrating Christmas at home with no anxiety, and I went to the hospital to visit my relative; not asking to leave before my family was ready. The fact that I may have struggled a little here and there is not what’s important, but that I did an overall good job and got through my anxiety, is what matters.

Next time you accomplish your goals, remember to be proud of yourself! Don’t spend too much energy focusing on the negative when you could be focusing on the positive!

I hope you all had a great holiday!

-B.

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Starting Early

This post is inspired by Sarah Warsi’s, And Just Like That, It’s December.

I think it’s been since my anxiety really hit hard, that I’ve started making New Year’s resolutions. They usually have to do with making a more consistent effort when it comes to exercising and facing my fears. While I think that it’s important and a good idea to make these resolutions, I do think that setting the date for January 1st can be a bit problematic.

As I believe was Sarah’s point to her blog post (and I really hope I’m understanding this right), the concept of setting dates to begin our goals can be extremely stressful. Sitting there and thinking to ourselves that we have to start on the first of the new year or else can bring about so much pressure that it actually makes us more hesitant to begin or stick to our plans for progress.

This is what I’ve noticed about myself – every year I make these resolutions and while I do start out sticking to them, it doesn’t last very long at all. As my therapist mentioned on more than one occasion, in order for the exercising and facing of fears to have a lasting impact, you have to do it on a consistent basis. This, I’ve noticed, is very hard for me.

So this year, I’ve decided to do things a bit differently, and I’m hoping this plan will work. I’ve decided to begin trying harder to get through my anxiety today. I’ve decided to start exercising more today. I’ve even figured out my own schedule that I will try my hardest to stick to.

So here is my advice to you. Instead of picking a specific date and obsessing about starting to work harder then, try to start as soon as you feel you can. This will help you get used to new, healthier habits that will hopefully – promote progress. Good luck with your goals and have a happy holiday!

-B.

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!!!Guest Blogger!!! B.W. Ginsburg: We Can Get Through This.

Guest Post on Travis and The Brain!

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Hello everyone! We have a very special guest today! This is a very good friend of mine that I met through the blogging community. She has been very supportive, and always there to encourage me. She also has similar struggles as me. She writes about her journey with extreme anxiety. I have learned a lot from her. Please give her a follow on her blog. She also has a fun Instagram. You might not meet her in person, but she is a wonderful social media friend to have. She has been a part of my blogging journey since day one. She cares! Well folks, here you go, my first ever Guest Blogger, B.W. Ginsburg!!!

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We can get through this!

So many people say to think positive; to not be so negative. We’d all like to be able to believe in our success, but sometimes, it’s not that simple…

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“I’ve Been Here Before”

I’ve been here before.

This is what I thought last night as I struggled with anxiety. I thought about how I was tired of ending up in the same situation – feeling both sad and weak due to my anxiety. I thought about how I wish I could go back to doing simple things without feeling anxious.

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I never feel hopeless and downtrodden, because I do. I hate feeling burdened with anxiety; feeling like its in control. Believe it or not, I used to be someone who loved to go out shopping, hang out with friends, and be able to do things without much stress. I still like doing those things, but I don’t feel like they’re easy anymore. I hate that feeling.

As I sat struggling last night, I wondered how and if I’d ever get through my anxiety. After all, I’ve been going through it for so long, how can I be sure it will ever be a thing of the past? I don’t think this is a totally unreasonable question. It’s hard to have faith sometimes when you constantly see yourself suffering.

The thing that we all have to remember, is that many of us have made progress. Many of us have faced our fears and succeeded – I know I have. Just because we may have bad days or moments, does not mean that we haven’t experienced times of achievement or that we’re not on the road to recovery. All it means is that we have to work harder on a more consistent basis. We will get through our anxiety and over our other obstacles!

So if you’re wondering how you’re supposed to believe in yourself, you’re not alone. I think many people feel this way. It’s okay to sometimes feel less than 100% confident, you’re only human. What’s not okay is to allow these doubts to take control, to give them credence. We are stronger than our obstacles!

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