The Importance of Sharing Your Experiences

A friend of mine mentioned how I haven’t posted about my anxiety on here in a while. This is very true and I think the reason for this is because, honestly, not much has changed. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made some improvements and these improvements are far from unimportant, it just doesn’t seem like I’ve made tons of progress in terms of getting through my anxiety.

Maybe another reason I haven’t posted about my anxiety much lately is because it’s a little embarrassing to me that I’m still struggling so much. I’m so happy for how far I’ve come and I know that I’ve made a lot of progress since the very beginning of my struggle with anxiety, but I still feel like I have a long way to go.

I hate going through this – I hate not doing the things I love because my anxiety makes me feel weaker than I actually am. Anxiety isn’t always the easiest thing to shake off and it has a way of trying to convince you of things that are far from the truth.

I guess I’ve felt like I haven’t had much to say about my anxiety as of late. It’s not as if I’ve made an unbelievable amount of progress or that it’s as if I’ve forgotten what it’s like to be so anxious. No, I still know what that feeling is like and I still experience it quite a bit.

The truth is though, that I have made progress and that every bit of progress is important. I’ve gotten outside more, I’ve been doing better inside the house, and I even published two books! These are amazing accomplishments! I’ve always felt that any positive accomplishment is worth celebrating and that every individual who has been through something has something valuable to share. Who am I to doubt the importance of my words or the words of anyone else?

Don’t doubt that you have something important to say. Don’t doubt that you can help others. Just because you’re struggling does not mean you haven’t made progress!

I hope that everyone’s doing well.

*Special thanks to the friend who reminded me why I started this blog.

 

 

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A great post by Matt about ending the stigma placed on mental health!

In Silence We Suffer

We can all relate to feelings of stress and anxiety, perhaps even depression, maybe it’s not something that you suffer from yourself, but I’m fairly certain that you will know someone who does. Mental illness is something rarely discussed, even though it is particularly prevalent in young adults, like you and me.

As I have written before, it is estimated that 1 in 4 of us suffer from a mental illness, but I’m not sure how precise that finding is. Just think of the stigma that still exists today, which only encourages many sufferers to stay silent, and to continue to hide their problems from the outside world. How many go unaccounted for? How many people suffer in silence?

The thing with stigma is that it doesn’t have to be real in order to be felt. This might sound contradictory and counter-intuitive, but I promise you that it’s not…

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Matt over at In Silence We Suffer gives great advice! Please check out his wonderful blog!

In Silence We Suffer

In life we are all guilty of comparing ourselves to the people around us. Oh, how I wish I could be as laid-back as so-and-so. But what we don’t always realise is that we are actually comparing ourselves to the image that they project, the way that they want to be seen. We see no faults in their appearance, and perhaps foolishly, perhaps naively, we believe that no faults exist. We compare ourselves to them without knowing the whole truth.

Everybody has secrets, which they hide from the light of day. If they do not confide in us, perhaps we will never know them. How can we compare ourselves to other people when we can see nothing but the positives in them and the negatives in ourselves?

We can only compare ourselves to the person that we were yesterday. To strive to live each day as the best version of…

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Exercise: What I’m Learning

So as I’ve mentioned plenty of times, my therapist has suggested to me that I exercise every day to help boost my strength both physically and mentally. While I’ve been trying to do so ever since he told me to, I admit that there are times when I lose momentum, which is never a good thing. However, I’m started to learn something important about exercising and facing our fears.

About a week ago, I bought an exercise ball. Suffice it to say, at first I was awful at it – I was falling on my butt more than I was balancing on it. Seriously, the videos I was watching make it like it’s so simple to balance on it- for me, it wasn’t. However, after some help from my dad and continued effort, I learned how to balance better and do the exercises I wanted to do. Now that I’m better at it, I’m enjoying myself and I want to spend more and more time exercising!

That’s the thing about exercising and facing our fears – the better we get at it, the harder we want to work. My therapist always says that facing our fears is like exercising, you have to continue to work hard or you’ll lose momentum and we can’t afford that. So continue to work hard and enjoy yourself while you do!

Thank you to everyone who supports me in my journey to get through anxiety!

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Motivation

Motivation can sometimes seem impossible to come by. Even when we want to do something with all our heart and soul, we can feel as if we have no energy to take the necessary steps to accomplish our goals.

I have been noticing a lack of motivation and energy for a while now. As many of you know, I would love nothing better than to get through my anxiety and to live a ‘normal’ life. I absolutely hate how anxiety is always getting in the way of things I want to do and accomplish. Still though, there have been so many times when I put off exercising and practicing facing my fears – two things that I know I have to do consistently to make progress.

As I may have mentioned before, I tried setting my alarm clock on my phone so that when the alarm went off, I would know to exercise. Let’s just say that after a while, I started to ignore the alarm. Even when I changed the tune to the most annoying sound available, I would end up just letting it go. I knew even when it was happening that it wasn’t a good idea, but let’s face it – sometimes we’re just lazy or not in the mood to exercise or do what we know we have to.

The other day I saw my therapist and told him that I had come up with another way to help myself stay motivated and actually carry out the exercises that I know are necessary to make real progress. My idea? I’ve decided that until I’m allowed to write, I have to do some exercises.

Now I know what you may be thinking – that’s awfully extreme. When you really think about it though, it’s not. Getting through my anxiety is extremely important to me and the better I am at getting through my anxiety and not allowing it to control my life, the more I’ll be able to do what I want in life. By not letting myself do something I love until I exercise, I show myself that there is a correlation between exercising and writing. The connection, you ask? If I want to be a professional writer, the best way to do that is to overcome my fears so that I can go out in the real world and try to become the professional author that I want to be. If I’m more confident with getting out, I can get a job that helps me become more successful in writing and I can start living the life I want to live!

I’m not saying this plan would work for everyone, but if you’re searching for a way to almost force yourself to exercise and face your fears, it might just be something you should try! For example, maybe you love to read. Tell yourself that until you can read, you have to do so many exercises or face your fear in some way or another.

Sometimes we need to come up with creative and safe ways to motivate ourselves. While one might think that wanting something will all your heart and soul is motivation enough, sometimes it isn’t. Sometimes we have to find other ways to get ourselves to do what’s necessary to succeed!

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What I’m Thankful For

Yesterday I wrote a post on my Rest in Piece Book Blog, entitled A Writer’s Guide to Thankfulness. The post talked about what I’m thankful for as a writer. Today however, since Thanksgiving is approaching, I’d like to take some time to talk about some of the things that I am thankful for in general.

A Loving Family

  • While I do struggle with dealing with some members of my family and while family is never perfect, I know that they care for me and love me. I know that when I need them the most, my family members will come through for me. Some of them are more supportive than others, but I don’t doubt that they all love me. I know that some people struggle to get along with any of their family members and that sadly, many people don’t have any biological family members left in this world.

Amazing Friends

  • Whether talking about the friends I have actually met or those I’ve come to know through blogging, I have so many wonderful friends who listen to me, respect me, and care about me. I think that having people in your life that you feel that you can count on and be yourself around without judgement is so important and precious. The fact that I have people in my life who try their hardest to brighten my day and make me happy is amazing! To know that these individuals truly care for me is even more wonderful. I’m so happy to have people that I can relate to and that can relate to me. I’m so grateful for these friendships.

My Talents

  • While I talked about this in A Writer’s Guide to Thankfulness, I’m very thankful for my talents: to write, to listen to others, and to help others. While I know I’m not the best writer in the world, I also believe that I have the power to inspire and help through words. I think that’s a fantastic gift and talent to have. I’m also a very hardworking and dedicated individual which I also think is important.

Opportunities

  • From attending good schools and graduating college to being offered to write for some amazing people, I’ve been offered some great opportunities that I sometimes wondered if they would ever come my way. I am not only thankful for the opportunities but for the people who offered them to me.

Wonderful Teachers, etc.

  • I’ve been fortunate enough to have some pretty incredible teachers/professors. These individuals have not only given me great advice and taught me important lessons, but they have also respected me as a human being and shared with me how proud they were that I accomplished the goals that I set out to achieve. I’ve had so many inspiring teachers and for that, I’m utterly grateful.

My Health

  • While I do struggle with anxiety and while that utterly sucks, my health otherwise is pretty good. I know that a lot of people have to deal with a lot of other health issues, so I’m thankful that for the most part, I’m relatively healthy. Along with my health, I’m thankful for having food and shelter!

What are you thankful for? I hope everyone has a Happy Thanksgiving and fantastic Thursday!

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