This post is inspired by Sarah Warsi’s, And Just Like That, It’s December.
I think it’s been since my anxiety really hit hard, that I’ve started making New Year’s resolutions. They usually have to do with making a more consistent effort when it comes to exercising and facing my fears. While I think that it’s important and a good idea to make these resolutions, I do think that setting the date for January 1st can be a bit problematic.
As I believe was Sarah’s point to her blog post (and I really hope I’m understanding this right), the concept of setting dates to begin our goals can be extremely stressful. Sitting there and thinking to ourselves that we have to start on the first of the new year or else can bring about so much pressure that it actually makes us more hesitant to begin or stick to our plans for progress.
This is what I’ve noticed about myself – every year I make these resolutions and while I do start out sticking to them, it doesn’t last very long at all. As my therapist mentioned on more than one occasion, in order for the exercising and facing of fears to have a lasting impact, you have to do it on a consistent basis. This, I’ve noticed, is very hard for me.
So this year, I’ve decided to do things a bit differently, and I’m hoping this plan will work. I’ve decided to begin trying harder to get through my anxiety today. I’ve decided to start exercising more today. I’ve even figured out my own schedule that I will try my hardest to stick to.
So here is my advice to you. Instead of picking a specific date and obsessing about starting to work harder then, try to start as soon as you feel you can. This will help you get used to new, healthier habits that will hopefully – promote progress. Good luck with your goals and have a happy holiday!
Hey guys! I know I haven’t written a post about anxiety in a while. The truth is that I’ve been doing really well and I’m super proud of myself! I’ve been practicing and exercising on a consistent basis and I’m feeling really good about myself and my progress!
Anyway, I thought I would write a post today about some things that I’ve learned can be dangerous for one with anxiety. Now, don’t get me wrong, these habits really aren’t always the best in general, but for those of us who struggle with severe stress, they can be even more dangerous. So, without further ado, here are some bad habits that I suggest if you struggle with, you work hard to break!
- This is a major problem for me. Many times, when I know I’ll have to do something or go somewhere that makes me anxious (or I think will), I obsess about it and over-think a great deal. I worry about the what-ifs and quite frankly, I start worrying way ahead of time. The problem with this is that when we obsess about negative outcomes, we tend to convince ourselves that the situation will go negatively and we leave little to no room for positive thinking. In a way, we almost doom ourselves before we even get a real chance to do well! Don’t get me wrong, we still have a great chance of doing well, but we make it harder on ourselves.
2.) Not distracting our minds
- This habit kind of goes hand in hand with over-thinking. So many times when the negative thoughts kick in, we let them. Instead of setting our minds on more positive thoughts or actions, we just stay where we are and continue to dwell on our negative thoughts. Sometimes the best way to stop feeling anxious or stop thinking negatively, is to get up and distract ourselves! Do something positive! Write something, watch something you enjoy, read a good book, clean! Anything to get your mind off the negative!
3.) Worrying about others’ opinions of you/opinions of your progress
- While sometimes listening to others’ opinions is helpful (a therapist, psychiatrist, trusted friend or family member, etc.), sometimes we allow the negative opinions and words of others to get us down. There are times when I know I’m making progress but the rude comments of others turn my good mood into a bad one. Sometimes I feel like they rip the happiness and feeling of success away from me. We can’t allow that to happen! If we make progress, we make progress. We cannot allow others to make us feel like we don’t try our best. If we know that we’re trying our best on a consistent basis, then that’s what we should focus on!
4.) Second guessing yourself
- This is another habit that takes a lot of effort to break. Anxiety can be so strong sometimes that it makes us doubt our abilities to get through situations. Anxiety can sometimes make the easiest tasks seem extremely difficult. However, you can break that pattern! We are all stronger than our anxiety! We just have to work on a consistent basis to prove to ourselves that we can get through and over our fears!
5.) Not practicing and exercising on a consistent basis
- This is a big one guys. Seriously. I’m not saying this to preach or to act like a professional therapist (because I’m not), but consistent effort really is key to getting through our anxiety. How do I know? I know because I’ve experienced it. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle way more than I want to. However, I see proof that practicing and exercising every day and on a consistent basis really does make a huge difference. It enforces the fact that we are stronger than what tries to hold us back. Remember, getting through our anxiety and living our life to the fullest is extremely important. It’s worth all the hard work!
If you struggle with any of these bad habits, please know that you are not alone. Also, please know that you do have the strength to get through your anxiety! 🙂
When dealing with anxiety and other mental health issues, it can sometimes be difficult to have hope. I know that for me, while sometimes I feel extremely hopeful that I will get through my anxiety and be able to do the things I want, other times I feel the exact opposite.
Anxiety has a way of making us feel like we can’t do things. Anxiety also has a way of making us feel weak. The thing is though, that neither thing is true. I know this. I went to school, I graduated college, I got a B.A. in Arts and Sciences, I used to go shopping, I’ve been to restaurants and been fine, and so much more. There is physically nothing wrong with me.
However, I have lived with anxiety for so long now that it is sometimes difficult to see beyond it. I have tried for so long to get through my anxiety, and although I have made a lot of progress, I still struggle immensely. Sometimes I wonder if I find it difficult to do simple, everyday things, how will I accomplish bigger tasks?
We have to have hope though and the truth is, that we should. There is no real reason not to have hope. Why? Because we can get through our anxiety and other mental health issues! We just have to keep working hard and keep proving to ourselves that we are stronger than our obstacles and challenges!
I know this isn’t always easy. Sometimes we wonder how, if we’ve tried for so long to get better and still struggle, we’ll ever get through this. However, getting better is not an overnight thing and it’s not always something you can put a timer on either. It’s not always possible to say “in ten years, this will all go away”. Life doesn’t work like that. We just have to keep having hope and working hard on a consistent basis. We can and will get through this!
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