A lot of great things have come to blossom for me in these last two months. I started my first ‘real’ job and my book, Crimson Vows, sold out at Loganberry Books! These two events made me utterly happy and I am so grateful for these accomplishments.
I know I can’t speak for everyone, but sometimes my worrisome mind tends to try to destroy what’s good. When it comes to my job, I sometimes worry I’m not doing everything perfectly. When it comes to selling out of my book, I start wondering why it happened and found it hard at first to believe it did. I’m not going to lie, it’s still a little hard for me to believe. It’s something I’ve wanted for so long. Just like getting a job.
What I’ve come to realize, though, is that we have to celebrate our accomplishments. We have to believe in ourselves and be proud of ourselves. I worked hard to find a job, I got hired, and I’m doing my best. You know what? I think I’m doing really well. I also put a lot of work into writing Crimson Vows. It wasn’t easy going to Loganberry Books for the first time with anxiety and pitching my books (although Miesha did help make it a lot easier), but I did it. And you know what? It paid off!
There are times when we all struggle. There are times when we wonder if we’ll ever accomplish our goals. I truly believe that with hard, consistent effort, we will. I know it can sometimes be hard to see and believe, but it’s true.
For those of you who are struggling, hang tight and stay strong. Keep fighting for what you want. Don’t give up on your goals and when you achieve them, celebrate them!
I wish you all the best!
So today I did something that I’m very proud of – I went on a train ride with my mom. Not only did I go on the train, but I did exceptionally well! I only really became anxious one time during the trip and that was due to the fact that after we went to the dining car, the train began moving before we could make it to our seats. I became anxious and shaky and had had to wait it out until our next stop so that we could return to our seats.
I had a wonderful time today and honestly, I don’t think I would have done this well last year. In fact, I didn’t even go last year because I didn’t think I could. Not only did I make the effort this time, but I succeeded. I am so grateful for the experience and so grateful that I did so well.
Trust me when I say that I know how difficult it is to struggle with anxiety. I may not understand your exact form of anxiety (everyone who struggles does so in different ways), but I do understand what it’s like to go through something that can be so scary and sometimes, seem so hopeless. However, I know for a fact that there is hope and that with consistent practice, you can get through your anxiety. I know I say this all the time, but it’s true. It may take time and things may not go even when you start making progress, but progress can occur and it will if you continue to try your hardest.
If you’re going through a rough time, please do not lose hope. I know that’s not always easy, but there are so many amazing things in the world to experience and you can do so if you work hard and have faith in yourself. I wish you all the best and hope you’re having a great month so far! As always, thanks for reading!
Hi everyone! So last week, I had a great time shopping with my mom. While I didn’t do a ‘perfect’ job, I did do really well when it came to going out and not allowing anxiety to get the best of me. I never had to leave the store early, I walked around, and I thoroughly enjoyed myself.
With that being said, there were moments when my anxiety did increase and I found myself doing less than spectacular. At those moments, I found that I began to beat myself up. My mom kept saying how well I was doing and yet, I still felt down on myself. Here’s the thing – there was a time when I wouldn’t even try to go into those stores. There was a time when I’d have to sit on the ground whenever I got too anxious to stand (true, they were furniture stores, so instead I sat on the couches, but I did get right back up and continue shopping!).
In the back of my mind, a part of me is still wishing I would have done even better. For example, I wish that I wouldn’t have had to hold on to my mom for the majority of the shopping (there were times when I didn’t). You know what? It’s okay to wish that. It’s okay to wish that I would have done better. Why? Because it’s good to set goals for ourselves and it’s good to want to accomplish more. At the same time, however, we have to give ourselves credit for what we did accomplish. I am so proud of myself that I went shopping to so many stores! I haven’t done that in a long time. All week was full of getting out and having a good time. It felt great! The more we practice facing our fears and overcoming our obstacles, the more progress we’ll make!
So stop downplaying your progress and success. The next time you hear yourself saying or thinking I did okay, but… or I did really good, but… stop yourself and realize that you did a wonderful job. Tell yourself that you’ll continue to work harder (and follow through with that promise), but at the same time, be proud of what you’ve already accomplished. None of us are perfect, but the fact that we continue to make progress makes all the difference in the world!
I hope that you’re all doing well and please remember that you’re not alone in your journey to be free from anxiety and any other issues you may be dealing with. Thanks for reading!
Hi everybody! So, I know that I’ve touched on this subject before, but I’d like to talk about how many of us spend our time seeking the approval of others.
There is one person in particular who I’ve noticed I’m constantly trying to ‘impress’ – my mom. Unfortunately, she isn’t someone who really understands my struggle with anxiety as much as I would hope, which, in turn, makes me feel the need to show her that I am, in fact, making progress. The thing is, however, that I shouldn’t have to point it out to her and doing so, makes me feel kind of pathetic.
Don’t get me wrong – my mom has started noticing on her own that I’m doing better in some cases. This makes me extremely happy and proud of myself. Still, I find myself asking, “Did I do well?” and when I hear myself ask this, I find myself becoming a bit disappointed in myself. Why? Because it shouldn’t matter what my mom or anyone else says or thinks. As long as I’m making progress and I recognize this fact, that’s all that should matter.
Therefore, I’ve decided something – not to ask the question of whether or not someone thinks I’ve done well at something. If someone wants to express how well I did themselves, that’s great – if not, that’s okay too. I’m going to depend on myself to judge my progress.
I think that by allowing myself to decide when I’ve done well, I’m giving myself more confidence – I’m not waiting for someone else to give me praise or determine how successful I’ve been. In my opinion, allowing others to judge us just adds unnecessary anxiety. So please don’t wait for others to say that you’re doing a good job, pat yourself on the back when you do well!
I’ve been reflecting lately on something extremely important – how I really have made a good amount of progress when it comes to getting through my anxiety. While I admit that I’m still not where I want to be in terms of not allowing anxiety to interfere with my life, I also see that I’ve made a lot of improvements and that I’m quite proud of myself.
I can’t speak for everyone, of course, but I know that for me, one of my biggest fears is that I’ll never get through my anxiety like I want to – that anxiety will always hold me back from what I want to achieve. I hate the idea of never overcoming my fears and it scares me that there’s a possibility that I’ll always feel enslaved to something so awful. However, I also realize that because I’ve made so much progress, with hard work, I can continue to do so. This is a wonderful feeling.
It is so important that we recognize our progress – I can’t express this enough. Recognizing our achievements helps us to realize all that we can do and that overcoming and standing up to our fears isn’t as impossible as it may have originally seemed. Just because it may take more time than we’d like for us to make the amount of progress we want to see, doesn’t make it any less important and praise-worthy.
I want to tell you all something else that is very important – no matter how many steps or how small the steps might seem, every positive step towards progress matters! Don’t let anyone tell you anything different. If you’re taking positive steps in the right direction, it matters! Hard work matters!
With working on a book that will be filled with articles and poetry about positivity and getting through our struggles, I thought I would take the time to express why I feel writing about positivity is so important.
While sources of happiness, joy, and friendship surround us on a daily basis, I think we often pass them by without notice. It’s not necessarily our fault, it’s just hard sometimes when living our busy lives and hearing about such negativity in the world, to focus on all of the good. Though there are self-help books and other literary resources to help us find comfort and peace, I think that the best way to find strength and confidence within the literary world, is to find something that really connects with us; something we can all relate to. I think that reading helpful articles and poetry that build us up instead of making us feel small and belittled are the perfect thing to motivate us!
A few years ago, if you asked me what I thought about reading articles and poetry to help me through my anxiety and other struggles, I’m not sure I’d think it was such a great thing. Then again, a few years ago, I may have scoffed at the idea of blogging about my anxiety to make me feel better – man did I learn that I was wrong! It turns out that reading inspirational articles and poetry is a wonderful way to lift one’s spirits and raise one’s self-confidence. So is blogging! Expressing ourselves and our feelings, along with our emotions, through writing is a great way to connect with both ourselves and others – while helping ourselves and others as well.
Positivity – and the spreading thereof – is extremely important. We all need positivity in our lives and that is why it is important to me – and my loved one – to write this book that we are currently working on. It is a way of spreading positivity through writing. I hope you will join us in our journey of sharing and spreading hope.
Some of you may know this, and some of you may not. Good days are possible.
I know that dealing with constant hardships can make it seem improbable that you will ever be happy and not burdened by worry, stress, and doubt. It may even seem as if good days simply aren’t in the cards for you; as if happiness just isn’t possible. The truth is though, that happiness is possible for all of us and so, are good days. We just have to work hard and fight for what we want.
Yesterday I had another great day. Let me tell you that there was a time when I doubted that I’d have a really good day like yesterday. After going out, a relative asked me how I had been doing lately and I explained that I was getting better at some things and that practicing facing my fears on a consistent basis was definitely helping me.
If you’re going through a tough time, I want you to know that there is hope – always. Please don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on the fact that you can be happy and live a healthy, satisfying life. Good days are possible for all of us, and so is a good life.
Hey guys! Today I’d like to talk to you about a subject that is very important to me – progress and self-recognition.
I think many of us can agree that due to our struggles with anxiety (and any other mental health issues we may deal with) being so challenging, it is nice when any progress we make is recognized. While we don’t make progress just for others, we do like to know that our hard work is being noticed. Unfortunately, not everyone may appreciate or acknowledge just how much we’ve accomplished.
We need to remember the importance of self-recognition. Just because someone else may not appreciate all that we’re doing to overcome our fears and other obstacles, does not mean that we’re not making a great amount of progress. There are some people in the world who simply don’t understand that some things that seem simple to them can be extremely challenging to others. Also, while unfortunate, some people think that if you don’t attain perfection, then the progress you’ve made isn’t good enough. This isn’t true.
When we make progress – any amount of progress – we have to pat ourselves on the back. We have to tell ourselves what a good job we did and how we can overcome any obstacles that threaten to stand in our way. I understand wanting to share one’s progress with others, but we can’t always expect others to be as joyful as we are. However, we cannot let their possible lack of enthusiasm diminish ours. We must take pride in our accomplishments.
Also, while it’s more important that we appreciate our achievements than having others appreciate them, please remember that just because the people we tell may not seem overjoyed by our success, doesn’t mean they’re not. Sometimes people just get caught up in their own lives and don’t always show how happy for us they truly are.
The bottom line is this: making progress is reward in itself. Don’t let the possible lack of appreciation or acknowledgement shown by others make your progress seem less important or worthy of praise!
Maybe every time you’ve ever shared your progress with someone else, they’ve commended you. Maybe you’ve never had someone question how the progress you’ve made can really be labeled as such. I think that’s great. However, I know that I, for one, have experienced otherwise.
Don’t get me wrong, many times when I share my progress with someone, they are proud of me and express those feelings of pride. They understand that if I’m doing something that I previously struggled with – no matter what it is – that it matters. Even if the step towards success may seem small, they see that it’s important.
On the opposite end, I’ve had people question my progress. I’ve mentioned that I did something that I usually back away from and instead of hearing their praise or that they think I did well, they just ask how it’s a big deal; how it qualifies as progress. I’m not going to lie – it hurts. I’m not saying that I constantly need recognition, but the last thing a person wants when they share their accomplishments with you, is to feel belittled or shut down. Any of us who have ever struggled with anything, know how difficult it can be to overcome our obstacles. We also know how good and refreshing it feels when it’s clear that they we stronger than what is holding us back. We want to be built up by ourselves and the ones we love, not torn down.
If you’ve experienced what I have – that some people aren’t understanding or kind when it comes to our struggles and hearing about our progress – then here is my advice. I recommend trying to save sharing your progress for the people who will actually appreciate and respect it. I know it’s hard not to want to shout your progress from the rooftop, but sometimes lending your happiness to others is a risky concept. Not everyone will be supportive and instead of showing you the respect you deserve, some will simply share harsh or careless words.
Again, and this is important to remember, there are people who will support, respect, and care for you. There are people who will go out of their way to cheer you on and to make you feel as special as you truly are. These are the people you want to allow into your lives and share both your good and bad times with. Don’t allow others to take away your sense of pride and accomplishment. No one can take away your progress, no one!