Coming Soon: Exciting News!

Hey everyone! I have some very exciting news! I will soon be publishing my very first book EVER! I am so excited to share this special time in my life with all of you. After about one year of working on my story, I’ve finally finished and have come across the opportunity to publish it online. I want to thank all of you for your support with my writing!

While it is still a work in progress, due to the fact that I have not quite yet published the story, I have begun creating a new blog for my book! If you’d like, you can check out the blog here! You can also check out the blog by clicking the link located on the top menu of this blog. For now, the link is titled ‘Book Blog – Coming Soon’. The name will change after I publish the book. I will of course still do my regular posts on this blog, but information about the book will be available on the new one!

In addition, I will be writing a post letting you know when the book is officially published. I promise it will be very soon!

Publishing a book has been a long time dream of mine. I’m so happy that I’ll have the opportunity to publish my story and that I can share this wonderful news with all of you, some of whom have supported me for quite some time!

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Impatience

Hey everyone!

So when I was younger, I was often told that I was impatient. I like to think that I’ve gotten better at this, but once in a while, I just get so excited that I can hardly wait for something. On one hand, I think this is a good thing. It means that I’m excited and looking forward to something great! Who doesn’t want that? However, at the same time, being impatient can really suck.

I was (and am) super excited about something happening in my life. The thing is though that while I thought this certain thing would happen unbelievably soon, I think it may end up taking a little longer than I would have hoped. I’m not going to lie, it bums me out. You should have seen me. I was so full of energy and pep because of this great thing happening and now, I feel like I’ve lost a little bit of that spark.

As hard as it is though to have to wait longer for this wonderful thing to happen, I know that it will happen. I also know that when it does, it’ll feel pretty amazing! I’m realizing that the reason I’m disappointed is because what is happening is so amazing that I don’t want to wait any longer. When you think about it, that’s pretty great. It’s wonderful that I have something going on that’s so special and important to me!

I’m writing this because I know how hard it can be to wait for something that you’re so excited about! You make plans, map things out in your head, and then poof, you hit a snag or find that your plans might be delayed. Even if by delayed you mean an extra week, it can sometimes feel like forever. What I want to remind everyone (including myself) though is that the reason for your impatience is because you’re about to experience something wonderful – something worthwhile, and you don’t want to have it put off. Isn’t that the ultimate dream? That we get to experience something so amazing?

Next time you find yourself growing impatient because something wonderful might take longer than expected, remember how great it is that this amazing thing is going to happen! Don’t lose your excitement! Good things come to those who wait.

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Holding On To the Feeling of Progress!

This morning I succeeded at something that I haven’t really done in a long time, or at least I haven’t done it as well as I did today. It’s something that I’ve been struggling with for a while and although I did manage to kind of succeed at it a little while ago, this is the first time in a long time that I really felt like I did a good job at it. It felt wonderful to make progress and realize that I have the ability to achieve my goals.

I just recently went to my therapist’s and he was saying how I have to realize that when I make progress and succeed at something that it’s not just luck. I wasn’t lucky today when I accomplished my goal, but rather I accomplished my goal because I am capable of making progress and facing my fears. I am stronger than my anxiety.

I think that it’s so easy (especially in times of struggling), to forget just how strong we are. I know that for me, it’s almost become habit to worry about things, to feel like I can’t do certain things. However, I have the ability to succeed and I’ve proven that to myself more than just once. It just takes consistent effort and practice to continue to show myself that I can get through my anxiety and overcome my obstacles.

It’s so important that when we succeed and make progress, that we hold on to the amazing feeling that achieving our goals provides. Achieving our goals proves to us that we are capable of making progress. Please realize that when you succeed at something, that it’s not just luck, but rather it’s your hard work paying off!

Accomplishments!

Yesterday I accomplished something that I’m quite proud of! I did this with no anxiety and let me tell you, it felt amazing! For a little while, I was very conscious of what was going on, but then I started to relax and as I was succeeding, I realized just how great it all felt.

I was, and still am, super proud of myself. I told my parents and a friend how happy I was to have succeeded and they were all very proud of me. A part of me felt silly being so proud and expressing this pride, but then I realized something with the help of a friend: there is no accomplishment too small to be proud of and quite frankly, I don’t think my accomplishment was very small at all. It’s one thing to get through something and another to do so without feeling any anxiety, and I’m very proud to say that I did a job well done!

This leads me to another point: any progress that is made should be celebrated in a healthy way, whether it’s considered big or small. Also, while you shouldn’t depend on others for recognition, there is nothing wrong with sharing your happiness. Additionally, while some people may not appreciate your accomplishments, others will and these are the people that you should be most grateful for (not that you shouldn’t be grateful for the other people in your life. Some people just have a difficult time understanding what they do not struggle with).

I would like to thank the first friend I shared my success with (you know who you are!). Thank you so much for being here for me, for listening, and for always caring. Your friendship means the world to me and so does your support. Seriously, I’m so happy to have met you!

I also want to thank everyone who supports me. I want to thank those who take the time to read, comment on, and ‘like’ posts on my blog. I want to thank those who take the time to email me and really get to know me while at the same time respecting my privacy. Thank you so much!

Please remember guys: no amount of progress is too small to celebrate! Even if some others may not understand the big deal, succeeding at something positive always matters! So be proud of yourself, be grateful, and remember that succeeding means that you have the ability to get over your obstacles!

 

Everyday Things

I hope this post doesn’t sound like a cry for pity! The truth is that sometimes I just feel really down about my anxiety and I feel the need to express myself. This is one of those times.

I just went to a restaurant with my family and I struggled. I got through lunch and did eat a little, but I felt a lot more anxious than I would have hoped. I also became really anxious when we left. On the way home, I couldn’t help thinking about how badly I wish I could just do normal, everyday things with ease. I see so many people doing things that cause me tons of anxiety without even thinking twice about it.

Sometimes I wonder why things have to be so hard for me. I know that my issues have to do with my way of thinking, but it doesn’t stop the struggle from being real; from seeming scary. I hate the fact that things that should be simple and usually are for others, can be so difficult for me. I used to be able to do things with ease and now, things have become difficult at times.

It hurts. It hurts to see myself go through this, to want to get through this so badly and still struggle on such a regular basis. I try, I really do, but for some reason I just keep struggling.

Then there’s the medication situation I talked about yesterday. Would more medicine help? Maybe. Do I want to keep throwing medication at myself and hope that I get better and not worse? Not really. I don’t want to keep pouring medicine down my throat, I want to get through this by practicing and exercising instead of taking as much medicine as I possibly can!

Am I complaining a lot? Maybe. Still, I don’t like going through this and struggling with anxiety so much. I know that some things make people anxious, but not to degree that it effects me. Also, some of the things that cause me a lot of anxiety are so simple, or at least should be.

I’m not saying that I’m not improving or that I’m not grateful for the progress I’ve made. Rather, I’m saying that I don’t want to keep struggling like this and that it’s difficult to deal with.

I know I’m not alone in this battle. I know that everyday tons of people struggle with anxiety. I know that I’m not the only one who goes through this, who wishes things would be simpler. I’m not going to say that it’s worse for me than for anyone else, because I can’t possibly know that and I’m sure there are others who struggle to the same degree or more so than myself. Even for those who don’t struggle as much as I do, I know it’s hard.

I just want to say, that I understand and that you’re not alone. I want to say that I’m sorry to those of you who struggle with anxiety, who might struggle with things that are normally quite simple. I want to say that although it might not always seem like it, you can get through your anxiety with hard, consistent work. I also want to say that I’m here for you and that a lot of other people are as well. You are loved and cared for. Stay strong and remember that you can get through this!

*As always I would like to thank all those who support me in my journey to get through anxiety!

Trying Extra Hard

Today I tried to accomplish something that I haven’t attempted in a long time. To be honest, I have mixed feeling about my progress. On one hand, I feel slightly disappointed. I was able to try what I wanted to, but I didn’t succeed to the full extent that I would have hoped. On the other hand, I did try and for my first attempt in a long time, I did fairly well.

Because I wasn’t fully happy with my results, I did the task again in the usual way that I get it done. I’m not going to lie – it was a pain. I had just tried to do what I wanted the ‘normal’ way and here I was, doing it again because I couldn’t just do it originally how I wanted.

I will be the first to admit it – it’s hard not being able to just do things that so many others find simple. Why does everything have to be so hard for me?

I’m ashamed to say that a part of me felt like trying today was pointless. After all, I just had to do the task over since I wasn’t happy with the first attempt. However, I know that the point isn’t to be perfect, but to try one’s hardest.

Trying extra hard can be stressful. I know that as I write this, I’m stressed. I’m tired of everything being so complicated and I’m tired of feeling so worn out from anxiety. I know deep down though that trying is worth it and I am proud that I gave it my all this morning.

Perfection is never guaranteed. Heck, perfection isn’t possible. If we try hard on a consistent basis though, we will be rewarded! So please don’t ever think that there is no point in trying. Some things take time, but that doesn’t mean that we won’t reach our goals!

Please Stop Doubting Yourself!

Today I really realized something: there are way too many highly talented people doubting their abilities.

I think we’ve all been there. We love to do something and although we’ve managed to get a lot of great compliments on how talented we are, we focus instead on the few negative comments that we hear instead. We begin to wonder if we’re truly good at something or if  we’ve just been fooling ourselves.

Let’s take me for example. While this is extremely difficult for me to talk about (it bruised my ego pretty badly), I think it’s necessary that I do. I got all excited when I was asked to write something for money, but then I found out that the individual refused to pay me for what I wrote. Instead of liking my writing like I hoped they would, they said some really horrible things about it, making me feel like I had no talent whatsoever.

This was hard to deal with and admittedly it still hurts. It’s not that the person wasn’t happy with my writing that bothers me (everyone’s entitled to their opinion and as a writer, I need to accept criticism), but rather just how unhappy they were and how they said so many awful things. I admit that it really made me question my abilities and even now, I’m still having a little trouble believing that I’m a good writer.

The thing is though, that I have gotten tons of positive feedback for my writing. I’ve had a lot of positive responses to my posts on here, the articles I write for The Seeds 4 Life, and some of my poems and stories as well!

I was talking to a good friend of mine and they mentioned how they were worried that they weren’t making much of a difference in the blogging community. I have to say that I think this is far from the truth. The posts that they write are full of inspiration and remind me how I’m not alone in my struggle. The fact that they question their talents surprised me to say the least. I wondered how a person who is so talented in so many ways can think that they aren’t making a difference!

As I mentioned, I consider this individual is a really good friend. I may have not met him in person, but I can tell that he cares about my well-being. This person’s friendship means the world to me and I’m happy that we’re both there to help each other when things get tough.

The point that I’m trying to make is that there are going to be times when we all question our talents. There will be moments when our confidence is shaken and when we wonder if the compliments we receive are genuine, or are just said to spare our feelings. However, it’s only fair that if we’re willing to accept the negative comments as true, that we must do the same with the positive ones. Also, sometimes negative comments are said because others are jealous, want to hurt you for some reason, or simply don’t want to be responsible for giving you the praise that you deserve. I’m not saying that criticisms shouldn’t be taken as a way to improve, but I’m saying that negative feedback is not the only kind that counts.

Please, please, please start giving yourselves the credit you deserve! I have read so many helpful posts ever since I started blogging. Please stop selling yourself short. Remember all of the positive comments you’ve received, not just the negative. Have you received nice, positive comments on your blog posts? Have you received blog awards? Have you been published? Have you been given compliments on your personality? Have others said good things about you? All of these things matter!!

Yes, there are times when we might hear things that don’t exactly make us happy. We may write something and get a bad review, we may hear negative words spoken about us, or we may just feel like we fell short of a goal. While we shouldn’t always write off these criticisms (sometimes we need to take them all in and use them to improve ourselves), we need to realize that sometimes criticisms are simply cruel words from people who aren’t worth listening to.

I ask that you all take some time and reflect on your talents, your abilities. Reflect on how kind you are, how talented you are, and how giving you are. If you’ve contributed something positive to the world (and so many of you have), then you have made a difference. Please don’t ever doubt that!

I want to thank all the people who continue to support me. 🙂 ❤

 

It’s Okay Not To Be Perfect (No One Is!)

This morning I struggled. I wanted to try to do something that I haven’t been able to do in a while and instead of succeeding, I allowed my anxiety to interfere with something else that I’ve been doing well at. My mistake? I obsessed…a lot. I kept thinking about the what-ifs and I obsessed so much that my anxiety stopped me from doing something that I’ve been doing great at.

Anxiety can sometimes cause us to doubt ourselves, even when we know deep down that we are able to succeed. For example, I know that I can be successful at certain things now – I’ve proved that to myself. However, this morning when I was worrying about not doing well with something that I haven’t done in a while, I obsessed so much that it led me to struggle with succeeding at something I know I can be successful at. Why? Because sometimes our anxiety effects us so much that it shakes our confidence in more ways than one.

What we have to remember, is that no one is perfect. We all struggle, we all have bad moments and days, and there will be times when we all wish we could have done better. We also have to remember that we can be successful and that chances are we have been in the past. I know without a doubt that I’ve made progress and I know that with hard work, I can continue to do so. So yes, I totally understand if you become disappointed in yourself if you didn’t do as well as you would have hoped. However, try not to beat yourself up! Chances are that you have made progress and will continue to do so!

Dangerous Habits For The Anxious Mind

Hey guys! I know I haven’t written a post about anxiety in a while. The truth is that I’ve been doing really well and I’m super proud of myself! I’ve been practicing and exercising on a consistent basis and I’m feeling really good about myself and my progress!

Anyway, I thought I would write a post today about some things that I’ve learned can be dangerous for one with anxiety. Now, don’t get me wrong, these habits really aren’t always the best in general, but for those of us who struggle with severe stress, they can be even more dangerous. So, without further ado, here are some bad habits that I suggest if you struggle with, you work hard to break!

1.) Over-thinking

  • This is a major problem for me. Many times, when I know I’ll have to do something or go somewhere that makes me anxious (or I think will), I obsess about it and over-think a great deal. I worry about the what-ifs and quite frankly, I start worrying way ahead of time. The problem with this is that when we obsess about negative outcomes, we tend to convince ourselves that the situation will go negatively and we leave little to no room for positive thinking. In a way, we almost doom ourselves before we even get a real chance to do well! Don’t get me wrong, we still have a great chance of doing well, but we make it harder on ourselves.

2.) Not distracting our minds

  • This habit kind of goes hand in hand with over-thinking. So many times when the negative thoughts kick in, we let them. Instead of setting our minds on more positive thoughts or actions, we just stay where we are and continue to dwell on our negative thoughts. Sometimes the best way to stop feeling anxious or stop thinking negatively, is to get up and distract ourselves! Do something positive! Write something, watch something you enjoy, read a good book, clean! Anything to get your mind off the negative!

3.) Worrying about others’ opinions of you/opinions of your progress

  • While sometimes listening to others’ opinions is helpful (a therapist, psychiatrist, trusted friend or family member, etc.), sometimes we allow the negative opinions and words of others to get us down. There are times when I know I’m making progress but the rude comments of others turn my good mood into a bad one. Sometimes I feel like they rip the happiness and feeling of success away from me. We can’t allow that to happen! If we make progress, we make progress. We cannot allow others to make us feel like we don’t try our best. If we know that we’re trying our best on a consistent basis, then that’s what we should focus on!

4.) Second guessing yourself

  • This is another habit that takes a lot of effort to break. Anxiety can be so strong sometimes that it makes us doubt our abilities to get through situations. Anxiety can sometimes make the easiest tasks seem extremely difficult. However, you can break that pattern! We are all stronger than our anxiety! We just have to work on a consistent basis to prove to ourselves that we can get through and over our fears!

5.) Not practicing and exercising on a consistent basis

  • This is a big one guys. Seriously. I’m not saying this to preach or to act like a professional therapist (because I’m not), but consistent effort really is key to getting through our anxiety. How do I know? I know because I’ve experienced it. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle way more than I want to. However, I see proof that practicing and exercising every day and on a consistent basis really does make a huge difference. It enforces the fact that we are stronger than what tries to hold us back. Remember, getting through our anxiety and living our life to the fullest is extremely important. It’s worth all the hard work!

If you struggle with any of these bad habits, please know that you are not alone. Also, please know that you do have the strength to get through your anxiety! 🙂

 

“Just Ignore Them”

“Just ignore [him/her/them]”. This is common advice given to those who deal with negative comments from family, friends, and strangers. While it may be easy for some people to ignore rude comments from strangers, it is usually a whole different ballpark when dealing with those who are close to you.

As I’ve mentioned before, while I have a lot of people who care for and support me, I also know a lot of people who don’t understand what I go through and who don’t put much effort into trying to be kind. This is unfortunate. However, having to deal with people who don’t understand what you’re going through or who are less than kind is part of life.

I’d love to say that when my family members are rude to me about my anxiety, it doesn’t bother me. I’d love to say that the fact that I’m doing really well lately makes it easier to just ignore their negative comments. To be perfectly honest with you guys though, it doesn’t. It still hurts when I hear my loved ones make fun of me or make cruel remarks about what I’m going through.

The thing that we have to remember though is that we can’t expect everyone to understand what we go through. Also, to be quite frank, we can’t expect everyone to be kind to us either. There are people who are mean or simply don’t have the patience to be there for us in the way we’d like. However, this does not necessarily mean that they don’t love us, it just means that it’s harder for them to be kind.

I don’t have any magical advice on how to not let others make you feel horrible about your struggles. I’m still trying myself to not let others’ negativity get me down. I do know that a great way to prevent yourself from allowing others to bring you down is to remind yourself of the progress you’ve made. Also, remind yourself that the people who are rude probably don’t go through what you do and they don’t understand how hard you try every single day to get through your struggles and over your obstacles.

Please, above all, remember that there are people who care about you and that as long as you’re trying your best on a consistent basis, you will get through your struggles!

If anyone has any other suggestions on how to deal with negative comments from others, please feel free to comment! Thanks!

Also, thank you to everyone who supports me and is kind!

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