It’s Okay Not To Be Perfect (No One Is!)

This morning I struggled. I wanted to try to do something that I haven’t been able to do in a while and instead of succeeding, I allowed my anxiety to interfere with something else that I’ve been doing well at. My mistake? I obsessed…a lot. I kept thinking about the what-ifs and I obsessed so much that my anxiety stopped me from doing something that I’ve been doing great at.

Anxiety can sometimes cause us to doubt ourselves, even when we know deep down that we are able to succeed. For example, I know that I can be successful at certain things now – I’ve proved that to myself. However, this morning when I was worrying about not doing well with something that I haven’t done in a while, I obsessed so much that it led me to struggle with succeeding at something I know I can be successful at. Why? Because sometimes our anxiety effects us so much that it shakes our confidence in more ways than one.

What we have to remember, is that no one is perfect. We all struggle, we all have bad moments and days, and there will be times when we all wish we could have done better. We also have to remember that we can be successful and that chances are we have been in the past. I know without a doubt that I’ve made progress and I know that with hard work, I can continue to do so. So yes, I totally understand if you become disappointed in yourself if you didn’t do as well as you would have hoped. However, try not to beat yourself up! Chances are that you have made progress and will continue to do so!

Faith

Faith is important. However, having faith in ourselves isn’t always easy. Especially for those of us who struggle with anxiety and other issues, having faith in ourselves can seem extremely difficult at times.

Yesterday I was reminded by a family member never to lose faith in myself. He reminded me that I will get through my anxiety.

While I know that I’m strong, sometimes when I get really anxious and find myself struggling, I find it hard to believe that I’ll ever get through my anxiety. Sometimes I lie down and just think to myself: Will I ever get through this? What if my whole life I just keep trying to get through my anxiety but never actually manage to do so?

These are scary thoughts. I don’t want to live my whole life struggling so much. I don’t want simple things in life to keep seeming so difficult. I hate dealing with anxiety and I hate missing out on things because of it.

I’m not  going to give up though and I know that deep down I am stronger than my anxiety. I do. Still, though, sometimes having faith can be hard. I see myself go through the same things over and over again. I see the cycle of doing well and then struggling repeat itself. I hate that cycle. I want to break that cycle. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not the doing well part of the cycle that bothers me, it’s the part where my anxiety creeps back and takes over. That part’s gotta go.

Next time things seem hopeless, remember that they’re not. You can and will get through your struggles. You just have to keep working hard on a consistent basis! Never give up hope and never lose faith!

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I’m Just So Tired

I’m tired. I’m tired of struggling. I’m tired of anxiety getting in the way of me doing things – both the simple things and the more challenging. I’m tired of feeling controlled by something I hate so much. I’m tired of sometimes feeling hopeless and wondering if I’ll ever get through this.

I know I’ve made accomplishments and I know that I’m strong enough to get through this. However, this doesn’t change the fact that I hate struggling with anxiety and that every time, I do, I feel like a failure. Yes, I know that I’m not and yes, I know that I’ve made some improvements and made some great progress. I’m grateful for this and utterly appreciative. That doesn’t mean though that I’m not sick of my anxiety and that I wish it wouldn’t just go away.

Sometimes it’s just so hard not to feel down about struggling. I wish I could just keep doing well and not have moments or days when I feel like I’ve taken a small or huge step back. I know it may seem like I’m wallowing in self-pity, but sometimes it just feels like I’ll never escape this cycle.

I want so badly to get better. I want so badly not to get anxious about simple things and not to struggle with everyday tasks. I want to stop doubting myself.

I think part of the reason I’ve been struggling a little more lately is due to the fact that I haven’t been practicing facing my fears and exercising as much. These are important things to do since they prove to us that we have the ability to get through our struggles and over our fears.

The important thing to remember is that even if you’re struggling and having a difficult time, you do have the strength to get through your struggles. You can and will overcome your fears if you work hard on a consistent basis. Also, just because you struggle does not mean that you’re a failure – it just means that you’re struggling and that you have to work even harder. Trust me, it’s worth it.

For all of you out there who are having a really difficult time, remember that you are strong. Sometimes our anxiety makes us feel otherwise, but that doesn’t make it’s right. Don’t let anxiety make you feel weak or unable to accomplish your goals. You are stronger!

P.S. Please don’t give up hope. You can get through this!

“Anxiety is a liar. The best weapon against it is the truth” – B.G. , Getting Through Anxiety

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Don’t Let One Bad Day Determine Your Future!

One thing I hate is when I’m doing really well and then I have a bad moment or day. Why? For starters, it’s disappointing to see ourselves struggle when we’ve been doing so well. Also, I know that for me, I sometimes struggle with one bad moment or day turning into more than one.

I know I’ve talked about this before, but it can be a scary concept. Not only am I disappointed when I don’t accomplish something, but it makes me worry that I’ll continue to struggle. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. We don’t have to allow our one bad moment or day to lead into causing others to be the same.

So what can we do to stop this negative domino effect? We can remind ourselves of all the times we did succeed and how we do have the strength to get through our anxiety and over our fears. We can also continue to practice as much as possible and prove to ourselves that we don’t have to let our anxiety control us! While it can sometimes be difficult, we need to show ourselves that one bad moment or day is exactly that: one bad moment or day.

Remember, you can get through your anxiety and any other struggles you may deal with. You just have to work hard on a consistent basis and remember that you are strong!

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Don’t Get Discouraged!

Whether it be when dealing with anxiety or when dealing with wanting to achieve another goal that we have, it’s important to remember not to get discouraged. Getting through our struggles can take time, and so can, achieving our other dreams.

First, let’s focus on mental health. As you all know I struggle with severe anxiety. However, I’m taking steps to get better with dealing with my anxiety and trying my hardest to overcome it. In many ways, I know I’m getting better. Still, I know that I have a long way to go. Do I sometimes feel discouraged? Definitely. Am I going to give up? Absolutely not!

Another thing that can be discouraging is when we have a dream goal for ourselves in terms of a career, and we wonder if we’ll ever read it. As many of you know, I really want to be a professional author one day. I want this so much. However, I’m not going to lie, sometimes I doubt that it’ll ever happen.

I’ve sent poems to different magazines and I’ve also sent in some short stories. I had one poem published, but to be honest, I’m not sure that there was much competition. Don’t get me wrong, it was still an honor, but I had to pay for the magazine, so it felt a little less amazing. Maybe that sounds horrible, but it’s true. My point is, that my work has never truly been published to the degree that I would hope. Sometimes it’s hard not to just throw in the towel and believe that I’m not good enough.

The thing is though, that I do think that I’m a good writer. I may not be the best in the world, but I do think that I’m talented at it. So many of you read, like, and comment on my blog and a lot of people have read and enjoyed my posts on The Seeds 4 Life. Also I’ve had positive feedback from family, friends, and professors. So in a way, I have a lot of proof that I am talented. Also, even without all of the encouragement from my readers that I receive, I believe in myself and that is important.

My point in writing this post is to assure each and every one of you that you have positive talents. Even if things may not seem to happen for you right away, that doesn’t mean that you should give up hope! Keep trying your hardest on a consistent basis and you will reach your goals!

*I’d like to give a special thank you to everyone who reads, “likes”, and follows my blog. Also thank you to all the blogs that have reblogged my posts and those of you who have allowed me to guest post for your blog and submit my own work!

Positive Patterns

So today I’d like to talk about positive patterns. I think in the past I’ve mentioned that for a lot of people with anxiety (I know that I am included in this), we struggle with a lot of negative patterns. I know that there have been times when I get anxious and have a bad day and it seems that this one day stretches into many. I remember the time that I did a similar thing and got anxious and, bam, I get anxious doing the same thing again.

I hate negative patterns. I hate how sometimes having a bad day makes us have more than one bad day. Sometimes when we struggle, the cycle repeats and really, who wants a negative and bad day or experience to repeat? I know I don’t.

However, it is possible to experience positive patterns. Positive patterns occur when we practice consistently and show ourselves that we can get through our anxiety. We see that instead of one bad day turning into more bad days, we can make one good day turn into more good days! Before we know it, our good days are more than just a pattern, they are our life!

I’m not saying this won’t take a lot of time and dedication – it most likely will. However, I’ve seen proof that by consistently working hard to get through our anxiety and over our fears, we can succeed and make progress. By practicing on a consistent basis, we begin to see proof that we can make consistent progress.

Consistent progress when it comes to getting through our anxiety and facing our fears is important. Making consistent progress proves to both our mind and body that we are stronger than our anxiety and that we do have the strength to overcome it!

Getting Back Up

First of all, I hope everyone had a Happy Easter!

My Easter was filled with mixed emotions. On one hand, it was a good day for several reasons, but on the other, not so much. Going places can be difficult for me in general, but certain places can be even harder. It doesn’t always have to do with the people, mind you, but sometimes the situation or the fact that anxiety often runs in a pattern. You remember the last time you struggled, and sadly, sometimes it repeats.

Anyway, my anxiety was through the roof yesterday. Once I settled down where I was, it got a little better, but I was still struggling. Even when I got home, the anxiety didn’t seem to want to go away. The day was in other ways a great day and it should have been even more wonderful, but as I’ve learned, anxiety isn’t always kind enough to step away.

So that was yesterday in a nutshell. When I woke up this morning, I felt refreshed and ready to get up and get something done. Guess what? I succeeded! I got back up and I did something that I wanted (and in a way needed) to do! The moral of this story? Don’t let the difficult day that you may have had before, ruin the present day! You can make it a good day!

Sometimes The Best Thing To Do Is Get Up!

I know for me, sometimes when I just wake up and just lie there, I tend to start obsessing and over-thinking. My mind starts to wander and before you know it, I’m overly anxious. Sometimes, I’ve found, the best thing to do is to get up!

Take this morning for example. I was lying down obsessing about trying to accomplish something. I was worrying about it so much that I began to feel like I couldn’t do this activity – something that I’ve been getting much better at. I decided, however, that instead of trying to go back to sleep (I wasn’t having much luck), I would get up and at least practice the activity. This way, I wouldn’t lose too much momentum.

Something great happened when I was about to practice facing my fears. I succeeded at doing much more! I actually got done what I wanted to get done instead of holding onto the doubt that I had minutes before! It felt amazing to succeed and to prove to myself that I am stronger than my anxiety!

So next time you’re lying down and obsessing, try to get up. You might just find that by getting up, the obsessing stops and you’ll be able to succeed in a way you may have at first doubted.