Facing Fears – Guest Post by Sharon Yvonne

This post was written by Sharon Yvonne at www.curiousqueendom.com. When asked, she says, “I’m a writer/ space queen infiltrating the Earthlings in hopes of establishing diplomatic relations.”

Please check out Sharon’s blog! She’s a great friend and writer!

 

Facing Fears

I’m going to go on a limb and assume that you know that it’s good to be afraid of jumping into a shark tank that is full of hungry sharks and you don’t know how to swim.

I want to talk about the fears that keep you at night. These fear aren’t a matter of life and death but can and will impact the course of your life. The kind of fears that….

… stopped you from doing something that you wanted to do.
… hinder you from having meaningful relationships.
… has made it impossible for you to become your beautiful self.

There is little room for these fears in a life lived to it’s fullest potential, and I believe that everyone can reach her/his fullest potential. You don’t have to be the rich or have an Ivy League education. And, your journey does not have to look like anyone else’s. You have the power to design your life.

Unfortunately, you cannot harness your power until you’ve started to face your fears.

My Story

The most recent fear I vaporized was the fear of blogging. I was afraid to put myself out there for three main reasons.
1. I was afraid of what my friends and family would think: AKA Fear of Ridicule
2. I was afraid that people wouldn’t like me: AKA Fear of Rejection
3. I was afraid that no one would read it: AKA Fear of Failure

Because of these fears, I’ve started my blog, The Curious Queendom, about 4 different times. As soon as a family member caught wind of my blog, or a reader gave me negative feedback, or traffic to my blog dwindled, I swiftly took it down.

This last time I decided that I would keep it up no matter what. I haven’t made any major blog success, but my personal life is full of success because of my decision to keep my blog up. I want that for everyone. I want everyone to feel good about revealing that she/he is an alien from the planet Mercury without fear.

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Link: http://curiousqueendom.com/2016/04/11/fear-followgreatfootsteps/
How to Face Your Fears

1. Be aware of when you’re making decisions from a place of fear. This is harder than it sounds because humans are good at making excuses. You may tell yourself that you don’t want to go out because you’re a homebody when really you don’t want to go out because you’re worried about seeming weird or whatever. Get real with yourself and identify why you picked the more comfortable alternative.

2. Make courageous decisions. Your fear lives and dies with your decisions. The only time fear has an impact is when you allow it to decide for you. When you are afraid, and you decide to lean into that fear, you have effectively killed it.

3. Don’t wait for fear to find you; hunt it down. You know what scares you, and you know that it’s irrational. You know that you won’t burst into flames when you tell the boy of your dreams how you feel. So instead of waiting for the perfect moment to present itself to you, take control.

4. What’s the worse that can happen? The worse that can happen is usually not so bad. Being embarrassed or humiliated sucks but it won’t kill you. What seems so terrible to you today, won’t feel so bad down the line. Who cares that you peed your pants in the first grade? Kids do that sometimes. Who cares that you messed up a part of your speech? People make mistakes. It’s what we do.

5. One step at a time. No one is expecting you to make an 180-degree transformation overnight. You should take your progress one step at a time. As long as you get back when you fall, you’ve made progress.

6. Dwell on the good stuff. In a moment of fear, you may tend to look for things that validate that fear, the times you messed up, embarrassed yourself, or whatever. Let’s be honest, you have done brilliant things with your life. You have had moments when you felt like you were in a flow-like state. Think about those moments and use them to invalidate your fears

7. Remember: Sometimes you’re going to give into your fear. No one is perfect. Striving for perfection just perpetuates fear. To avoid making a mistake, you wont even try. Mistakes are a critical part of learning. You learned how to walk because of all the times you fell. In a way, your mistakes are the greatest sign of progress.

8. Practice the things you aren’t good at. When you give into your fear, try to figure out why then practice not being afraid.

 

9. Life is an Adventure. Imagine the film Indiana Jones without conflict. He simply went to Wal-Mart and bought the last Holy Grail. Man, that would’ve been a terribly boring film. Your life will be full of conflict; and, quite frankly, you shouldn’t want it any other way. Embrace the craziness that is your life. Have fun with it. Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.

I know that you are capable of living the life of your dreams. Now go out there and make it happen. NOW!

For more space adventures you can find her at..

Twitter: https://twitter.com/QInquisition
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CuriousQueendom/
Bloglovin’: https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/curious-queendom-14773683
Google +: https://plus.google.com/u/0/+SharonYvonne/posts

The Versatile Blogger Award #6

Sharon from Curious Queendom nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award! Sharon is such a caring and talented friend and writer. Please take the time to check out her blog!

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The Rules

  • Thank the person who gave you this award. It’s common courtesy.
  • Include a link to their blog. That’s also common courtesy — if you cannot figure that out, go to their nomination post and thank them personally.
  • Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly who you deem as versatile and excellent in their writing and nominate/award them with the Versatile Blogger Award. (If you don’t nominate 15 bloggers, it’s ok)
  • List seven facts about yourself

 

The Facts

1.) I’ve seen both the movie Limitless and I watch the TV show. I didn’t like the movie but I LOVE the show!

2.) I like some time travel shows and movies, but I personally don’t think it could ever be possible.

3.) I just recently saw the movie Zootopia. It was good, but I expected better

4.) Of all the different kinds of jewelry, bracelets are my favorite

5.) My least favorite subject in school was Math.

6.) I know someone who has met a famous author!

7.) John Mulaney is my favorite comedian

 

My Nominees:

Informatic Cool Stuff

Messy Ideals

Unique Love Harmony

Michelle, Books and Movie Addict

If you’d like to see if you’ve been nominated by me for this award before, click here!

 

 

 

The Untold Story of the Liebster Award

I just read this amazing story written by Sharon over at Curious Queendom. She is so creative, talented, and kind. Please check out her wonderful blog!

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I was nominated for the Liebster Award, so I went on a search to discover just what this award means. This is what I “found.”

Once upon a time, a woman magically appeared at the entrance of a cave. She couldn’t remember what she had been doing before she was summoned nor why she was summoned there in the first place.

She turned toward the cave and was greeted by a stench of death, blood and sweat. She waved at air, trying to dispel the terrible smell to no a avail, hastily backing away from the cave into forest thick with trees – the forest so thick that it formed an impassable wall.

Staring at the entrance to the cave, she contemplated her options: die here in the nook before the cave from eventual starvation, or journey into the unknown while she still had the strength to face the dangers…

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Connecting with Bloggers

Hey guys! Sharon from Curious Queendom wrote this great post on communicating through blogging! Please check out this post and the rest of her amazing blog!

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I’ve been particularly interested in communicating with bloggers as of late. It seems to me that there are so many interesting people all over the world, and blogging puts them at just a message way. But, I’ve never been good at this sort of thing.

I feel as if trying to talk to bloggers will make me look like a puppy following some guy with beef jerky in his pockets, you know? I don’t even know what I was trying to say there.

I mean, I feel like it’s desperate in a gonna-get-myself-killed kind of way.

Even if I don’t look desperate or get killed, it’s like, what do I say? If I message someone will they think I’m some weirdo? How would I even start a conversation?

To answer these questions I did a Google search. Turns out, the only articles I could find on this topic were on…

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Grains of Sand – January ’16

So as many of you know, Sandy from Sandycademy, created a wonderful project called Grains of Sand. Grains of Sand is a great way of keeping track of your monthly progress. For this month, please check out Sandy’s progress here. She accomplished some great things!

The following are my Grains of Sand for January 2016!

Had a good January 1st

  • Did a lot of exercising like I wanted to

Worked on story with Jade

  • I really enjoy writing and working with someone so talented. Projects are a great way to communicate with others and share your talents with one another. Also, working on a project helps with responsibility and creativity.

Was able to help someone with something

  • This felt great! To be able to help someone and really feel like I made a difference meant so much to me!

Went downstairs and did what I went down to do-to look for a picture I had been looking for. I didn’t find the picture, but I didn’t go upstairs before looking through everything I wanted to. I remained calm, did what I needed to, and went upstairs!

  • It felt so good to be successful at something that usually might cause me some anxiety. I really felt empowered getting this done!

Started exercising/practicing more

  • Consistently practicing facing my fears feels wonderful! It makes me see that I have the strength and ability to get through my anxiety. It’s not always easy, but with hard work you can accomplish your goals!

Started reading Hell Fire by John Saul

  • I started yet another great book by John Saul. It really does feel great to read again. At first, I wasn’t reading it at a very good pace, but then I started to and really like it so far.

Got interviewed by Sharon at Curious Queendom about communicating through blogging

  • I was so honored to be chosen for this interview. Sharon is a wonderful person, friend, and writer. Her article is great and she’s so full of kindness. Her article that I was interviewed for will be posted on her blog tomorrow! Please take the time to check it out! She’s awesome! 🙂

Was able to accomplish something that I hadn’t done in a while

  • It felt so amazing to do this again. I was able to once again show myself that I do have the strength to get through my anxiety and that I can!

Made some progress at my grandma’s

  • While I still struggled a little, I was able to do two things that I usually wouldn’t feel able to do. While these accomplishments may seem small to some, there is no such thing as insignificant positive progress! To read my post on this, click here!

 

A Gift From the Heart and a Pledge

Okay, I have to reblog this post! Sharon from Curious Queendom wrote this amazing article about the kindness received from her niece. She also did a wonderful thing and pledged to listen to those in need and be a part in trying to end the stigma often attached to mental health issues.

I also appreciate the fact that Sharon and so many of you have taken the time to read my blog and truly show you care. It means the world to me! Thank you also to anyone who visits Jade’s blog as well as Sharon’s!

Curious Queendom

So, I have a niece that is currently 6 years old. Somehow, she has become one of the most sentimental people I’ve ever known. I guess I should’ve seen it coming as when she was 2 years old, she always carried around this pink blanket. Initially, she just caressed it or rubbed it against her cheek; eventually, she grew to call it her imaginary friend, “S.”

Anyway, last year before I deployed, I visited my sister and niece in January. My niece was really interested in knowing what I did for Christmas: what did I eat, did I get any presents, and did I have a Christmas tree? When I told her no, I hadn’t gotten any presents, her face changed, holding a sympathetic expression. Of course, I told her that it was ok and that I wasn’t sad or anything, but she took it upon herself to give me…

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