Practicing getting through our anxiety can be difficult. For one thing, practicing may seem scary. After all, even though it’s in small steps, we are facing our fears. Practicing can also be difficult due to our busy lives. We may tell ourselves that other things are more important. While we do need to help others and there are other things that may need our attention, committing to our health is also VERY important. Like I’ve mentioned before, practicing may be hard, but suffering with anxiety is even harder.
I’ve learned that desensitization is the key to success. While some situations may seem scary, we need to practice facing our fears in small steps.
I was reading this article about fearful animals and it stated that even animals that are timid should use sensitization to regain their self-confidence. Now, I realize that it may be much easier for animals to overcome their fears (then again, who really knows?), but my point is that we need to commit to ourselves, we ARE worth fighting the battle against anxiety!
There are many things that add to one’s stress. These “things” that add even more pressure onto our normal anxieties can vary depending on our individual personalities. For some, feeling rushed adds a great deal of stress to their daily lives.
While it is true that there are times in life when you have to do things and you don’t have all the time in the world to do them, this does not mean that you cannot find ways to make it easier on yourself. I know how scary it can be when something you are anxious about seems to be happening quicker than you feel you are ready for. Some things you know that you can take time and relax before you do them and sometimes, you feel like you are running out of time. When you feel anxious due to having to do something you do not feel ready for, this is my advice:
If the thing you are worried about is in a few days, a week, or a month- relax. Without putting too much pressure on yourself, practice every day doing what it is that you are worried about. Take small steps.
If what you need to do is in a few minutes, an hour, or a few hours- take a deep breath and try to think positively. You CAN get through your anxiety if you think positively. If what you want to do is not necessary and you feel too overwhelmed with anxiety, you can always try another day. However, if you feel you can get through your fears, TRY.
Just as suffering with anxiety can be difficult, so can finding those who will support you in your fight against fear. The problem is, unfortunately, that some people simply do not understand and, possibly, never will. So how do you find people you can trust?
Obviously you cannot just go around telling everyone about your fears and anxieties. For one thing, they may not understand and for another they may not be trustworthy.
So what do you do? First start with those who you are really close to, family, close friends, etc. With family, it will sooner or later be clear who understands. It is sad when some members of one’s family do not understand for let’s face it, we expect family to understand. However, sometimes they do not. This is unfortunate, yes, but there will probably be those who do try to understand. These people, are those you should be happy to have in your life.
Also, you may lose friends due to them not wanting to deal with your anxiety. In addition, there are some individuals who don’t want to have to worry about trying to understand their friend’s struggles. As you may have heard, these friends are not worth obsessing over. True friends try to understand and they try their hardest to help.
So, speak to those you trust and those who stick by your side are the ones worth your time. Last but not least, whether or not you can find someone who will help you get through your battle with anxiety, know that you can get through your suffering as long as you continue to practice and begin to trust yourself.
As I may have mentioned in the past, it can be hard to focus on our accomplishments when we find ourselves struggling. However, reflecting on our progress helps us think more positively. We still need to practice and focus on making improvements, but that does not mean we should fail to notice our successes. For every ounce of progress we make, it brings us that much closer to achieving our goals.
It’s important. Whether the previous day was easy for you or difficult, getting up the next day and practicing is important. Even if you can’t do one thing, you can always try another. Whether it’s getting ready to go somewhere or just hanging around the house, just getting up and doing what you can might make all the difference.
I don’t wish my anxiety on anybody- really I don’t. It’s hard though when I’m going through something; something really hard for me, and people around me don’t understand. Whether it be that certain people don’t understand you worrying so much in general or whether they don’t comprehend how hard it can be to do simple things due to your anxiety, it’s hard to find the words to explain to them just how difficult it all is for you.
It’s also hard for ourselves; to see ourselves once again taken over by our fears. We are NOT weak, but we still struggle. Like I’ve mentioned, practice is important and also, trying hard not to overthink is important as well. Overthinking can lead to letting our anxiety feed on our minds and that is something that we do not want.
Back to the subject of people not understanding. While it is hard, we cannot expect everyone to understand our anxiety. If those who don’t understand don’t deal with it themselves, it is hard for them to imagine going through what we do. Just as it may have been or may be for many of you that struggle with anxiety when it comes to thinking positive and believing everything will be okay; sometimes things are hard for us to picture. If we’ve never made progress, it might be hard for us to picture it. If we do make progress, it makes it a little easier for us next time to have more confidence in us being okay.
The best thing to do is to find support in those you know you can trust and in yourself. If some people don’t understand, that’s okay. Sometimes even if a person doesn’t comprehend why things are so hard for you, they will still be supportive. For those people who aren’t supportive, don’t let them get you down. Have confidence in yourself.
I know what it’s like to suffer, to struggle with anxiety. I know what it’s like to feel like you’ve failed and let yourself down. It could be the simplest thing, but anxiety makes doing some things seem like one of the hardest things to do in the world. You feel crushed and upset with yourself.
I know how hard it is. I know how much anxiety rips you apart, but you are NOT weak. We need to practice and NEVER give up on ourselves. We need to surround ourselves with both the support of others and ourselves and we need to help each other. So practice and don’t give up!
Sometimes it’s hard to figure out why we get so anxious at certain times. We try to analyze why we became so overcome with fear but there doesn’t seem to be an explanation. Maybe the reason is because of something you remember happening before, maybe you’re just stressed about something else going on in your life. The reason may seem silly, but it’s a reason nonetheless.
So what if you can’t figure out why you’re anxious? You can speak to someone you trust; whether it be a family member, close friend, or maybe even a therapist. If you’re still not sure, focus your energy on practicing so you can get better. Even when you might know the reason for your anxiety, you still need to practice.
One of the things I do that is caustic in terms of anxiety, is thinking and worrying about things ahead of time. Maybe it’s a day before, a week before, or even several months; the negative what ifs enter my mind. I start obsessing about things going wrong before it’s even time for me to do them.
I know I kind of talked about this yesterday, so I apologize for any repetition. However, with anxiety, fear is so often repetitive that sometimes we need to use repetition in a more positive way to get back on track. We need to practice. The more we practice, the more we will trust in ourselves and trust that we will be okay.
Distraction is important to; to do something and think something positive instead of negative. It may not be easy but it can be done.
So continue to practice as often as possible and set goals for yourself.
“No longer lent your strength to that
which you wish to be free from”- Jewel, Life Uncommon
You’re obsessing. You keep concentrating on negative thoughts and fears and the more you think about them, the more real they seem. Stop. Do something else, think of something more positive. Work on getting through your anxiety instead of focusing on possible negative outcomes, watch T.V., go to work, work on homework, or read. Do something to get your mind off of the negative. Thinking about the negative what ifs make them more powerful; making fear take on a life of its own. You need to try your hardest to not only push the fear aside, but to remind it who’s boss. It may not be easy or happen right away, but it is essential. Next time you find yourself obsessing about something negative, do something else and think about something that is positive.