Society’s Standards

Over the years, standards have been set. You should have a job, have your own living quarters, and heck, even have sex at a certain age according to society. I can understand how some of these standards have become expected, but I think that for them to be set in stone and expected to be followed by every individual is simply wrong.

I can understand why certain standards are set – I can. People should try hard to find employment and their own living quarters by a certain point in their life. I don’t, however, think it’s necessarily up to us to decide when that point should be for others.

I think that when people feel they are ready to do something, that is when they should. While people shouldn’t use this way of thinking to shirk their responsibilities or not work hard, I do think that it’s okay that not everyone does everything at the same time. We’re all different and sometimes things are harder for some of us than they are for others. This does not mean that we give up or don’t keep trying our hardest to accomplish our goals, but rather that we don’t constantly beat ourselves up for not always meeting society’s standards.

A word that I really don’t like is ‘pathetic’. So many people who are less than understanding throw this word at people when society’s standards are not met. No one is perfect and people struggle – struggling is difficult and no one enjoys it.

It may be hard to see at times, but even those who struggle are often trying their best. Things may not be as easy for some of us as for others, but this does not mean that we’re not putting our best foot forward.

If you find yourself struggling and comparing yourself to others, remember this: no one is perfect! You are not alone. You don’t have to meet society’s standards. All you have to do is try your hardest and never give up on becoming the best you can be!

 

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Making Sure We Stay Motivated

One thing that I constantly find myself struggling with is keeping up with exercising and practicing getting through my anxiety. I know for a fact that facing my fears and stretching will help me conquer self-doubt and yet, at the same time, it’s hard to do so on a consistent  basis.

Let’s face it – we all get lazy, lack motivation, or simply forget to do what we need to. While it may seem difficult for some to believe, even when we want so badly to improve our lives, these three issues can still play a major part in our daily lives. As human beings, we have days where we simply get lazy. We also experience times when we lack the motivation to do what we know we need to do in order to succeed. It’s not that we don’t want to get better, we just don’t feel like putting in the work. Sometimes this is due to anxiety itself wearing us down and sometimes it’s just due to life. Also, there’s forgetfulness. Whether we forget to exercise and practice facing our fears because we’re doing other important things or because we’re simply watching TV, sometimes we just forget to do what’s necessary.

These are in no way good excuses. Nothing is really a good excuse not to do what’s important. However, things happen. We might start practicing facing our fears and exercising on a consistent basis, but then somewhere down the line, we fall behind a bit. We start noticing that maybe it’s been a while since we last really did what we know to be essential to getting better.

No one’s perfect and with that, comes the fact that there may be times when we let other things come before putting in our best effort. While it’s perfectly normal that this might happen, it doesn’t make it okay to continue to not do what we should be doing.

Pay attention to your progress. Pay attention to how often you’re practicing healthy habits in order to get through your anxiety and over other obstacles. If you catch yourself not putting in your best effort, try hard to do so. Remember, and this is key, that getting through your anxiety and other issues is important . You are important.

 

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The Importance of Sharing Your Experiences

A friend of mine mentioned how I haven’t posted about my anxiety on here in a while. This is very true and I think the reason for this is because, honestly, not much has changed. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made some improvements and these improvements are far from unimportant, it just doesn’t seem like I’ve made tons of progress in terms of getting through my anxiety.

Maybe another reason I haven’t posted about my anxiety much lately is because it’s a little embarrassing to me that I’m still struggling so much. I’m so happy for how far I’ve come and I know that I’ve made a lot of progress since the very beginning of my struggle with anxiety, but I still feel like I have a long way to go.

I hate going through this – I hate not doing the things I love because my anxiety makes me feel weaker than I actually am. Anxiety isn’t always the easiest thing to shake off and it has a way of trying to convince you of things that are far from the truth.

I guess I’ve felt like I haven’t had much to say about my anxiety as of late. It’s not as if I’ve made an unbelievable amount of progress or that it’s as if I’ve forgotten what it’s like to be so anxious. No, I still know what that feeling is like and I still experience it quite a bit.

The truth is though, that I have made progress and that every bit of progress is important. I’ve gotten outside more, I’ve been doing better inside the house, and I even published two books! These are amazing accomplishments! I’ve always felt that any positive accomplishment is worth celebrating and that every individual who has been through something has something valuable to share. Who am I to doubt the importance of my words or the words of anyone else?

Don’t doubt that you have something important to say. Don’t doubt that you can help others. Just because you’re struggling does not mean you haven’t made progress!

I hope that everyone’s doing well.

*Special thanks to the friend who reminded me why I started this blog.

 

 

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A Quote From A Reader!

A Quote About Abstract Clarity!

B.W. Ginsburg

There’s nothing better than receiving random compliments about your written work when you’re a writer! Just last week, I received this lovely compliment from a friend on Instagram about my new short story collection, Abstract Clarity:

“I was going to read it in the car on our weekend trip but there was just too much stuff going on in the car so last night after I got everything done and the house was quiet I started reading your book! I was so tired but I kept saying to myself “just one more page – just one more page” and as I was reading I got a little scared…I mean because I was being sucked into the story! (It was a good thing) So – tonight I’m going to continue reading after the house is quiet! Thanks for such a great read! You are a talented writer” – new_writer_on_the_block

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The Stranger – A Book Review

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Copyright: 2016
Rating: 4.5/5

My Synopsis:

Everyone has their secrets – especially in Harlan Coben’s, The Stranger. In the city of Beachwood, OH, a man mostly known as ‘The Stranger’, goes out of his way to expose the secrets of others. When Adam Price is told something that changes his life forever, he is forced to deal with a whirlwind of emotions and make decisions he never thought he’d have to make.

My Opinion:

Who knew that a story about someone exposing secrets could be so entertaining and take you on such a wild ride? Harlan Coben once again puts you on the edge of your seat as you wait excitedly to find out what happens next as Adam Price grapples with the fact that his life is far from perfect. The Stranger is full of wonderful plot twists and characters that you find yourself both loving and hating – sometimes even wondering how you should feel.

The great thing about The Stranger is not only is it fast-paced and exciting to read, but it also makes you think about the human condition. Coben manages to make us think without lecturing; making The Stranger both a thrilling and thought-provoking read!

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About the Stories – Historical Hell

Abstract Clarity Stories

B.W. Ginsburg

Hi everyone! I thought I would take part of this week to talk about each of the stories included in my new short story collection, Abstract Clarity! Let’s begin with the first story –  Historical Hell!

Historical Hell is my favorite short story in the collection. I love them all, but Historical Hell was extremely enjoyable and interesting to write. I’ve always thought it would be cool to write a story about the possibility of someone escaping Hell, and in a way I think is very fresh, I created a story that explores the topic.

I’ve often found the whole concept of Heaven and Hell interesting and how, we don’t really know what either is like. We can only speculate and come to our own conclusions about the place where some of us believe we go after death. In Historical Hell, I decided to explore a different idea…

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Short Story Collection Now Available!

BOOK NEWS!

B.W. Ginsburg

Hey everyone! My short story collection, Abstract Clarity, is now available for purchase in Kindle and paperback format on Amazon.com! To check it out, please feel free to do so by clicking on the link below! Thank you for all your support!

https://www.amazon.com/B.W.-Ginsburg/e/B01MU5Y0YL/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1

About Abstract Clarity:

“The real meaning of Hell, a woman’s love for Halloween gone horribly wrong, and a magical pen. A mysterious place called Dream Land and an inanimate object that, with a little luck and hard work, helps change the world. In these five fantastical, terrifying, and beautiful stories, you will discover that there is more to life than the ordinary and explainable.” – Description written by B.W. Ginsburg, found on Amazon.com

Collection Includes These 5 Stories:

Historical Hell

October’s Rein

Write in Time

Dream Land

Clarity

Cover Photo: B.W. Ginsburg

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