Get Up And Do What You Can!

It’s important. Whether the previous day was easy for you or difficult, getting up the next day and practicing is important. Even if you can’t do one thing, you can always try another. Whether it’s getting ready to go somewhere or just hanging around the house, just getting up and doing what you can might make all the difference.


When They Don’t Understand…

I don’t wish my anxiety on anybody- really I don’t. It’s hard though when I’m going through something; something really hard for me, and people around me don’t understand. Whether it be that certain people don’t understand you worrying so much in general or whether they don’t comprehend how hard it can be to do simple things due to your anxiety, it’s hard to find the words to explain to them just how difficult it all is for you.

It’s also hard for ourselves; to see ourselves once again taken over by our fears. We are NOT weak, but we still struggle. Like I’ve mentioned, practice is important and also, trying hard not to overthink is important as well. Overthinking can lead to letting our anxiety feed on our minds and that is something that we do not want.

Back to the subject of people not understanding. While it is hard, we cannot expect everyone to understand our anxiety. If those who don’t understand don’t deal with it themselves, it is hard for them to imagine going through what we do. Just as it may have been or may be for many of you that struggle with anxiety when it comes to thinking positive and believing everything will be okay; sometimes things are hard for us to picture. If we’ve never made progress, it might be hard for us to picture it. If we do make progress, it makes it a little easier for us next time to have more confidence in us being okay.

The best thing to do is to find support in those you know you can trust and in yourself. If some people don’t understand, that’s okay. Sometimes even if a person doesn’t comprehend why things are so hard for you, they will still be supportive. For those people who aren’t supportive, don’t let them get you down. Have confidence in yourself.

I Know What It’s Like

I know what it’s like to suffer, to struggle with anxiety. I know what it’s like to feel like you’ve failed and let yourself down. It could be the simplest thing, but anxiety makes doing some things seem like one of the hardest things to do in the world. You feel crushed and upset with yourself.

I know how hard it is. I know how much anxiety rips you apart, but you are NOT weak. We need to practice and NEVER give up on ourselves. We need to surround ourselves with both the support of others and ourselves and we need to help each other. So practice and don’t give up!

Why Am I Worrying About…?

Sometimes it’s hard to figure out why we get so anxious at certain times. We try to analyze why we became so overcome with fear but there doesn’t seem to be an explanation. Maybe the reason is because of something you remember happening before, maybe you’re just stressed about something else going on in your life. The reason may seem silly, but it’s a reason nonetheless.

So what if you can’t figure out why you’re anxious? You can speak to someone you trust; whether it be a family member, close friend, or maybe even a therapist. If you’re still not sure, focus your energy on practicing so you can get better. Even when you might know the reason for your anxiety, you still need to practice.

Worrying About Things Ahead of Time

One of the things I do that is caustic in terms of anxiety, is thinking and worrying about things ahead of time. Maybe it’s a day before, a week before, or even several months; the negative what ifs enter my mind. I start obsessing about things going wrong before it’s even time for me to do them.

I know I kind of talked about this yesterday, so I apologize for any repetition. However, with anxiety, fear is so often repetitive that sometimes we need to use repetition in a more positive way to get back on track. We need to practice. The more we practice, the more we will trust in ourselves and trust that we will be okay.

Distraction is important to; to do something and think something positive instead of negative. It may not be easy but it can be done.

So continue to practice as often as possible and set goals for yourself.

“No longer lent your strength to that
which you wish to be free from”- Jewel, Life Uncommon

Try to Focus on Something Else

You’re obsessing. You keep concentrating on negative thoughts and fears and the more you think about them, the more real they seem. Stop. Do something else, think of something more positive. Work on getting through your anxiety instead of focusing on possible negative outcomes, watch T.V., go to work, work on homework, or read. Do something to get your mind off of the negative. Thinking about the negative what ifs make them more powerful; making fear take on a life of its own. You need to try your hardest to not only push the fear aside, but to remind it who’s boss. It may not be easy or happen right away, but it is essential. Next time you find yourself obsessing about something negative, do something else and think about something that is positive.

The Step by Step Process

Whether you’ve been going through anxiety for a short or long period of time, you may have come to realize that not every method works the same for everyone. I can appreciate that and I know how it feels when a person suggests a way to get through something, and if it doesn’t work for you, that person gets upset; they may even say you don’t try anything. This can be hard to hear, especially when you HAVE been trying. I say this because although I am about to share the method that I use and have found helpful, I understand that it may not be the same for you. I merely recommend you try if possible. Here is what I have learned from someone who is very helpful in helping me get through my anxiety. Here is how to make the step by step process work in your best interest.

1. Take small, comfortable steps: No matter how small the steps are, they WILL help. You do not need to make giant leaps, but rather become comfortable with each small step until you are ready for the next.

2. Choose your own steps: While I recommend sharing them with a therapist or person you trust, the step should be one you choose- you need to be comfortable with it.

3. Remember this is a process. You probably will not overcome your anxiety overnight.

4. Be consistent: Practice often and you will get better.

5. When you don’t succeed, continue to practice.

6. When you do succeed, be happy! Continue to practice.

7. Know that you do not have to go through this alone. You CAN and should ask for help from those you know you can trust.

8. Know that you are not alone; others struggle too.

Example: Let us say you fear climbing a ladder. Step by step, day by day practice until you are ready to take another step. This does not mean no one can hold the ladder for you.

You Did It!

If you struggle with anxiety or panic attacks, you know that one of the best feelings is when you make progress and are able to do something you really wanted to. Even if it didn’t go perfectly, accomplishing a goal is a great thing and instead of posssibly focusing on what you could have done better (if anything), you should focus on what you did do; I know this may not be easy, but it’s essential. It’s essential for you to focus on the positive so you can build upon your self-esteem. You did it! You made progress!

This does not mean you can stop practicing. I know that I find this fact hard. Sometimes when you do something, you just want to tell yourself that you don’t need to practice. Trust me, that is most likely NOT true. We must continue to practice to gain more and more trust in ourselves.

“Thank You!”

Today I went to get my hair cut and as usual my stylist was very kind and understanding of my anxiety. She was unbelievably patient and all she asked was that I be comfortable. It may seem, at times, like you don’t have many people who are supportive in your struggle with anxiety. However, there are people that understand your plight or will at least be there for you when you need them.

I’d like to thank everyone that is there for me and I ask that anyone who reads this blog does the same. As you know, anxiety is not easy to deal with and having people there for you who truly care and try their hardest to make things easier for you really does help. So, please take some time to thank those in your life who help you with your struggles. I hope that anyone who is related to me or a friend of mine who is reading this knows how much I appreciate you! I am sure I have told you before, but I will make sure to let you know again. You really do mean a lot to me; more than words can describe!

It’s Alright

Do you ever wake up really wanting to push through your anxiety and get through something only to find that you don’t seem like you can? As much as you want to be able to do that certain thing, you just feel you can’t. So you decide not to. However, you still have other things to do so you try to at least get through that. For some reason though, anxiety gets in your way again. You might even say to yourself, “This is the simplest thing in the world, why can’t I do it?” It’s not so much that you can’t but rather your fear is making you feel that way. So what do you do if you feel so overcome with anxiety? You can take a break; it’s alright. Don’t feel bad. Anxiety can be a powerful force. Just continue to try your hardest.