I recently made a decision that wasn’t the easiest to make. There were both risks and benefits to consider and there were people sharing very opposing opinions. I knew that in the end, it was a decision I would have to make. While it would affect others as well, it would mainly be affecting me. Bottom line was this: it had to be my choice.
It was a difficult choice to make. My mom, whose opinion I deeply respect and always have respected, was one that was different from my own. I usually listen and follow her advice when it comes to my health, but this time, I went in the opposite direction. Don’t get me wrong, I heard her out and looked into what she was saying, but in the end, I did something other than what she recommended. Was it hard.? Yes. Do I regret it? No.
The really difficult part was how it felt to go against her. I felt somewhat guilty and I felt that she was trying to make me feel that way. It felt far from pleasant. Still, I felt empowered to make my own choice and I had a support system that encouraged me to follow what I thought was the right thing to do – whatever that might be. So that’s what I did. I went with the decision that I felt was the right one.
Here’s the thing about making choices. It isn’t always easy. Sometimes you’re going to have to go against what someone you love is saying. Why? Because deep down you have a different opinion; one you feel you shouldn’t ignore. I know it may be hard to not follow the advice of someone you respect, but sometimes it’s necessary. You have to weigh the benefits and drawbacks of the options placed in front of you and decide on the best one for you.
Let me be clear. I am not saying to go against the opinions of loved ones out of spite or anything of that nature. What I am saying is that we have to listen to our hearts and our minds. We have to really put thought into what we’re doing and go from there. We cannot allow others to guilt us into making us choose the decision that will make only them happy. I know that my loved one cares about me and was (and is) concerned that I was making the wrong choice; the risky decision. I know that she wants me to be safe and not to regret my choice. I know that. However, I also think it’s important to support one another. Remember, these difficult decisions are yours to make. Decide wisely and don’t allow others to guilt you into making the choice you don’t want to make. Stand up for that which you believe!
I hope you’re all doing well and I wish you all the best.
I know that lately, I’ve been writing a lot about making progress. I’ve been talking a lot about this subject because, to me, it’s important. I’ve been struggling with anxiety for so long and while I still struggle, I’ve come a long way. It’s important to recognize that.
Just this morning, I was reflecting on how, a while back, I wasn’t doing something that I now am. Before, I didn’t feel as confident or comfortable when it came to doing this specific thing. Now, I feel much better about it. Sometimes I tend to forget just how much progress I’ve made.
I think we all make the mistake of selling ourselves short. We look at our imperfections and concentrate solely on the fact that we could be doing better. The thing is that if we look closely, we are probably all ready doing much better at something than we once did.
Reflecting is an important activity. It helps us slow down and take stock. It helps us remember that we’re strong, brave individuals that can reach our goals – even if it takes time. It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to get better, it matters that we’re working hard to improve our lives.
If you haven’t done already, stop and reflect on the progress you’ve made. I guarantee you’ll realize that you’ve come a lot further than you’ve given yourself credit for. Do you think you still have a long way to go? That’s okay! No one is perfect and we all have progress that still has to be made. The great thing is that with hard work, we can and will achieve our goals!
Confidence. It’s a word that seems to be thrown around quite a lot. Everyone seems to be telling us to ‘have confidence’. I know for me that’s often easier said than done.
I’m not sure if it’s because I struggle with anxiety or not, but I often worry that I’m doing something incorrectly. This makes it hard for me to trust in myself and my abilities. However, I’m slowly learning that I have good instincts and that I have to learn to rely on them and to trust that I do in fact know what I’m doing and talking about.
The other day at work I wanted to make sure that I was looking at everything right. It turned out that I was. My co-worker even said how sometimes one can begin to question themselves in our line of work. I said that I agreed and that I have in fact experienced this. She said that as time goes on, I’ll learn to trust in my instincts.
As I mentioned in previous posts, I think I’m pretty good at my new job. Yes, I ask for help (which is perfectly okay and there are people who are there to assist), but I am kind to those I assist and I take the time to do everything I can to help. I don’t give up on those that need my assistance and I go out of my way to do what is asked of me and, sometimes, what I offer to do on my own.
If you often get told to have confidence and you’re struggling to do so, you’re not alone. Having faith in ourselves can be difficult. Especially if you’re someone who wants to do your best and is worried about doing the opposite, you can start to self-sabotage and question your every move. However, let me tell you this: if you care that much about whatever you are doing, chances are that you are doing a great job! Trust in your abilities. If you need help, ask for it and keep mental notes on how to solve that problem on your own next time. And if you need help with that same issue again in the future? That’s okay too. Learning something new usually takes time.
No one is perfect. I repeat, no one is perfect! We all make mistakes and we all need some help sometimes. Both of those things are alright. Remember that you are a smart individual with many talents and that with hard work, you can and will accomplish your goals. I know it’s not always easy, but try to believe in yourself. Challenge yourself to become more confident!
Hi everyone! Long time no write! As I touched on in my last post, I began my first official job. Therefore I’ve been busy and don’t have as much time to write. However, I wanted to take the time today to share with you the importance of being proud of ones progress and trying our hardest to not compare ourselves with others.
I’m not going to lie, it’s hard for me not to compare where I am in my life with where everyone else is. In terms of where I am, there are a lot of people who are further. I am almost thirty and as I reach that milestone, I start to reflect on where I could be in my life and yes, I begin to feel a little depressed. However, I start to realize something else – that I have made a lot of progress and you know what? It feels amazing! For the longest time I thought that I wouldn’t be able to get better at certain things because of my anxiety and you know what? I have! For the longest time I thought I wouldn’t find a job where I could work at home. You know what? I have! Not only that, but I truly feel that I’m doing a great job.
So yes, maybe I’m not as ‘far along’ with my achievements as some other people are at this age. Yes, I still struggle with anxiety and I still wish that it didn’t hold me back from doing certain things. But you know what? I’m trying my hardest and I am making progress. There is no doubt in my mind about that. None whatsoever. I am proud of how far I’ve come. I’m proud of my success and achievements. I’m going to keep working hard to get through my anxiety and I’m not going to give up. I believe that if I continue to face my anxiety on a consistent basis that I will make even more progress and hopefully, one day reach a point where anxiety will no longer hold me back from what I want to do.
I know that it’s hard not to compare ourselves to others. We see others who are closer to their goals than we are. Then there are some people who make rude comments or say hurtful things. It stops and makes us wonder if they’re right. I know what it’s like to wonder if I’m a failure. Let me tell you something. If you’re trying your hardest on a consistent basis then you are not a failure. Things take time and it’s okay if you’re not exactly where someone else is in life. What matters is that you continue to strive to make your life better. If you want to compete with anyone, compete with yourself. Make it your goal to make more progress so you can be more like the true version of yourself, the one that is not held back by negative obstacles.
I wish each and every one of you the best. Please remember to be proud of your progress!
A lot of great things have come to blossom for me in these last two months. I started my first ‘real’ job and my book, Crimson Vows, sold out at Loganberry Books! These two events made me utterly happy and I am so grateful for these accomplishments.
I know I can’t speak for everyone, but sometimes my worrisome mind tends to try to destroy what’s good. When it comes to my job, I sometimes worry I’m not doing everything perfectly. When it comes to selling out of my book, I start wondering why it happened and found it hard at first to believe it did. I’m not going to lie, it’s still a little hard for me to believe. It’s something I’ve wanted for so long. Just like getting a job.
What I’ve come to realize, though, is that we have to celebrate our accomplishments. We have to believe in ourselves and be proud of ourselves. I worked hard to find a job, I got hired, and I’m doing my best. You know what? I think I’m doing really well. I also put a lot of work into writing Crimson Vows. It wasn’t easy going to Loganberry Books for the first time with anxiety and pitching my books (although Miesha did help make it a lot easier), but I did it. And you know what? It paid off!
There are times when we all struggle. There are times when we wonder if we’ll ever accomplish our goals. I truly believe that with hard, consistent effort, we will. I know it can sometimes be hard to see and believe, but it’s true.
For those of you who are struggling, hang tight and stay strong. Keep fighting for what you want. Don’t give up on your goals and when you achieve them, celebrate them!
I wish you all the best!
There’s a great sense of achievement and calm that washes over you when you have an especially good day. When you see yourself doing things without anxiety making you feel unsure of yourself and unsteady. When you feel a sense of normalcy, one that comes with doing things with ease and comfort.
I had a really good day today. I went to a relative’s house and hung out, walking around and getting more done than usual. As a bonus, when I was doing these things, I felt calm instead of frazzled and full of stress. There was a point when I really focused on just how good I was doing.
To be honest, all week has gone pretty well. While I have been going out more than usual this week, I’ve managed to get things done for the most part with minimal anxiety.
I want you all to know that with hard work on a consistent basis, you can and will get through your anxiety. I know I’ve said this a lot, but it’s true. I know how hard it can sometimes be to remain faithful and believe in ourselves. We sometimes look at how we struggle day after day and it makes us wonder if we’ll ever overcome our obstacles. I don’t want you to lose faith. You are worthy of believing in yourself and worthy of winning the battle against your struggles. Stay strong and don’t give up on yourself!
There is something truly amazing about feeling the difference between feeling anxious and feeling confident and relaxed. Just as I have, you can feel that difference if you try your hardest to face your fears.
Hey everybody! This is just a gentle reminder that in addition to blogging about mental health, I have also written and self-published five books and one solo short story. All of my books and my solo short story are available on Amazon.com, in addition to two of them (Crimson Vows and Rest in Piece) also being available at the bookstore, Loganberry Books. The bookstore is located in Shaker Heights, Ohio (https://store.loganberrybooks.com).
In addition to blogging on this site, I also have two other blogs/sites. One is my writing site at https://restinpieceblog.wordpress.com and the other is my TV show/movie review blog at https://moviereviews48.movie.blog.
I hope you’ve enjoyed learning a bit more about me and where you can find more of my work. If you wish to visit me on Instagram, you can find me @b.w.ginsburg48. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. Thanks!
A couple of days ago, I did something for the first time in a long time – I went out with someone other than one of my parents. Not only did I travel with someone other than my mom or dad, but I did pretty well.
This was a very big deal. It is something that I am extremely proud of. While I am almost thirty years old and needed help going out, I went outside of my usual comfort zone and that is a humungous accomplishment. It’s been so long since I’ve trusted myself and been calm enough in terms of my anxiety to go out with a friend or relative who is not in my immediate family.
It honestly took me a while to realize just what a big accomplishment this occurrence was. Sure, I realized that I had gone out with a friend and did well, but I hadn’t really focused on how this was a new first – or at least how it hasn’t happened for a few years.
Without mentioning this individual by name, I would like to thank the person who went on this adventure with me. Thank you for being there for me; for supporting me. Thank you for being patient with me and not making me feel like a burden. I cannot express just how much your friendship means to me.
To those of you out there who worry you’ll never make any progress, I can assure you that as long as you work on facing your fears on a consistent basis, you will make progress. It may take a while and probably won’t happen over night, but you will get better. If you take small steps and challenge yourself bit by bit, you will see yourself improving.
There is something else I want you all to know. Any steps you take in the right direction and any progress you make, should be celebrated. Some people may tell you that you should be further along. Heck, you might feel that way. However, progress is progress and no step towards getting better is insignificant. Instead of getting upset with yourself that you’re not doing even better than you currently are, try to focus on what you have achieved. Also, remember how far you’ve come and that you can continue to make progress.
I wish you all well. If you need to talk, please let me know. Stay strong and believe in yourself. You can overcome your anxiety!