Feeling the Difference

There’s a great sense of achievement and calm that washes over you when you have an especially good day. When you see yourself doing things without anxiety making you feel unsure of yourself and unsteady. When you feel a sense of normalcy, one that comes with doing things with ease and comfort.

I had a really good day today. I went to a relative’s house and hung out, walking around and getting more done than usual. As a bonus, when I was doing these things, I felt calm instead of frazzled and full of stress. There was a point when I really focused on just how good I was doing.

To be honest, all week has gone pretty well. While I have been going out more than usual this week, I’ve managed to get things done for the most part with minimal anxiety.

I want you all to know that with hard work on a consistent basis, you can and will get through your anxiety. I know I’ve said this a lot, but it’s true. I know how hard it can sometimes be to remain faithful and believe in ourselves. We sometimes look at how we struggle day after day and it makes us wonder if we’ll ever overcome our obstacles. I don’t want you to lose faith. You are worthy of believing in yourself and worthy of winning the battle against your struggles. Stay strong and don’t give up on yourself!

There is something truly amazing about feeling the difference between feeling anxious and feeling confident and relaxed. Just as I have, you can feel that difference if you try your hardest to face your fears.

For My Book Loving Friends…

Hey everybody! This is just a gentle reminder that in addition to blogging about mental health, I have also written and self-published five books and one solo short story. All of my books and my solo short story are available on Amazon.com, in addition to two of them (Crimson Vows and Rest in Piece) also being available at the bookstore, Loganberry Books. The bookstore is located in Shaker Heights, Ohio (https://store.loganberrybooks.com).

In addition to blogging on this site, I also have two other blogs/sites. One is my writing site at https://restinpieceblog.wordpress.com and the other is my TV show/movie review blog at https://moviereviews48.movie.blog.

I hope you’ve enjoyed learning a bit more about me and where you can find more of my work. If you wish to visit me on Instagram, you can find me @b.w.ginsburg48. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. Thanks!

-B.

Firsts

A couple of days ago, I did something for the first time in a long time – I went out with someone other than one of my parents. Not only did I travel with someone other than my mom or dad, but I did pretty well.

This was a very big deal. It is something that I am extremely proud of. While I am almost thirty years old and needed help going out, I went outside of my usual comfort zone and that is a humungous accomplishment. It’s been so long since I’ve trusted myself and been calm enough in terms of my anxiety to go out with a friend or relative who is not in my immediate family.

It honestly took me a while to realize just what a big accomplishment this occurrence was. Sure, I realized that I had gone out with a friend and did well, but I hadn’t really focused on how this was a new first – or at least how it hasn’t happened for a few years.

Without mentioning this individual by name, I would like to thank the person who went on this adventure with me. Thank you for being there for me; for supporting me. Thank you for being patient with me and not making me feel like a burden. I cannot express just how much your friendship means to me. 

To those of you out there who worry you’ll never make any progress, I can assure you that as long as you work on facing your fears on a consistent basis, you will make progress. It may take a while and probably won’t happen over night, but you will get better. If you take small steps and challenge yourself bit by bit, you will see yourself improving.

There is something else I want you all to know. Any steps you take in the right direction and any progress you make, should be celebrated. Some people may tell you that you should be further along. Heck, you might feel that way. However, progress is progress and no step towards getting better is insignificant. Instead of getting upset with yourself that you’re not doing even better than you currently are, try to focus on what you have achieved. Also, remember how far you’ve come and that you can continue to make progress.

I wish you all well. If you need to talk, please let me know. Stay strong and believe in yourself. You can overcome your anxiety!