Kind Of Coping – A Book Review

Book Review

B.W. Ginsburg

4/5 Stars

Maureen “Marzi” Wilson’s Kind Of Coping is a cute book that looks at the experiences of those who struggle with anxiety. I truly believe that whether you deal with severe anxiety or the stress of daily life, you will find this book relatable.

While anxiety can be a very serious issue, Wilson finds a way to add some humor to certain situations, without insulting or belittling those who struggle. In addition, I often found myself agreeing with some of the things the author was saying and even found myself saying “ditto” at one point.

If you’re looking for an enjoyable and helpful read, I definitely recommend Kind Of Coping. I received this as a gift from a friend and am quite grateful.

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Update

Hi all! A few days ago I wrote about the sometimes difficult decision we have to make. The decision to stay home or go out and face the possibility of becoming anxious. I mentioned how I had somewhere I really wanted to go and that I had chose to venture out.

I ended up having a great time – even better than I expected. A couple of friends came over to have lunch with me and a relative and afterwards we headed out to our destination. Not only was the food amazing and the trip breathtaking, but I did extremely well. While I did have to take several breaks so that I could sit down, I was able to enjoy myself without becoming too anxious.

Something I also want to touch on is just how wonderful the people I went with were. They were patient and understanding. That truly can make all the difference. They didn’t make me feel like an inconvenience or burden. I am so happy to have them in my life.

There are a lot of things that can be learned from this and many other positive experiences I’ve had. Here are some of those lessons:

1.) We are stronger than our fears. They may try to make us feel otherwise, but that is simply not true.

2.) Having kind, understanding people in our lives is important. I know they can be difficult to find at times, but there are people who will support you and stand by your side even through difficult times.

3.) Having faith in ourselves is essential.

4.) We need to practice facing our fears in small, manageable steps. With consistent effort, we can and will overcome our obstacles.

I hope you’re all doing well. If you ever need to talk, I’m here.

The Ultimate Decision

Here’s the situation – you want to go out somewhere but you’re afraid your anxiety will interfere. You worry that instead of having a good time, your anxiety will make things difficult. Then you fear you’ll somehow embarrass yourself. You start to wonder if it’s even worth the trip. Of course, if you don’t go, you’ll regret that too.

I know this conundrum all too well. It’s like the Clash’s song, Should I Stay or Should I Go. It’s a tough choice and at times, no answer seems like the right one. Still, we have to make a decision. Should we take the risk that our anxiety might try to take over and make us miserable, or should we let it win without us even trying to do what we so badly want?

In a few days, I might have the opportunity to go somewhere amazing. It’s somewhere I’ve never been before, but know that I’ll enjoy it. I’d even be going with some great people. The problem? I’m worried my anxiety will cause issues. I want to enjoy myself and I don’t want anyone to suffer if my anxiety kicks in.

I know I shouldn’t focus on the negative. I know that. Still, I think back and remember the other times where my anxiety has effected my outings in a negative way. I don’t want that to happen again.

However, there is another side to this. The positive side. The people I’d maybe be going with know about my anxiety. They are kind people who I think would be supportive and patient. Also, I am making progress with getting through my anxiety and I have that to hold onto.

If you’re trying to decide whether or not you should do something because you don’t know how anxiety will effect things, consider this:

1.) If you’re going with other people, will they be patient and understanding? If not, can you handle that? Will their negativity and how they treat you if things don’t go perfectly spoil your good time? If so, maybe you should reconsider. However, don’t allow negative people to necessarily change your mind about going out or doing things. Remind yourself how strong you really are.

2.) What would be worse? Going out and maybe becoming anxious or not going out at all and possibly regretting not at least trying?

Please believe me when I say that I know how hard it can be deciding if you should do something when anxiety can be involved. Thinking about all the negative things that could happen can be scary. However, at the same time, so can not doing something you want because you’re giving into your fears.

I, personally, like to try. I like to go out and give it my best shot. I know that can be easier said than done. Trust me, I do. Still, I’ve gone out to find that I’ve overcome my anxiety and had a great time!

 

Using Good Times As Proof

Today I had a great day! I went to my relative’s house and only got anxious for a brief second. It was hardly even that. In addition to minimal anxiety, I walked around more than usual and did things with ease. In addition, while I usually return home exhausted, I felt relaxed.

I know what it’s like to experience difficult times and wonder if you’ll ever get better. I know what it’s like to feel helpless and hopeless. It’s important to remember just how strong and capable we are.

Our good experiences are proof. Our progress is proof. What are they proof of? Our ability to do well, to get better. The good moments are proof that we are stronger than our struggles. So pay attention to when you have a good moment, day, week, month, year, etc. These times matter! Be proud of your success!