Here’s the situation – you want to go out somewhere but you’re afraid your anxiety will interfere. You worry that instead of having a good time, your anxiety will make things difficult. Then you fear you’ll somehow embarrass yourself. You start to wonder if it’s even worth the trip. Of course, if you don’t go, you’ll regret that too.
I know this conundrum all too well. It’s like the Clash’s song, Should I Stay or Should I Go. It’s a tough choice and at times, no answer seems like the right one. Still, we have to make a decision. Should we take the risk that our anxiety might try to take over and make us miserable, or should we let it win without us even trying to do what we so badly want?
In a few days, I might have the opportunity to go somewhere amazing. It’s somewhere I’ve never been before, but know that I’ll enjoy it. I’d even be going with some great people. The problem? I’m worried my anxiety will cause issues. I want to enjoy myself and I don’t want anyone to suffer if my anxiety kicks in.
I know I shouldn’t focus on the negative. I know that. Still, I think back and remember the other times where my anxiety has effected my outings in a negative way. I don’t want that to happen again.
However, there is another side to this. The positive side. The people I’d maybe be going with know about my anxiety. They are kind people who I think would be supportive and patient. Also, I am making progress with getting through my anxiety and I have that to hold onto.
If you’re trying to decide whether or not you should do something because you don’t know how anxiety will effect things, consider this:
1.) If you’re going with other people, will they be patient and understanding? If not, can you handle that? Will their negativity and how they treat you if things don’t go perfectly spoil your good time? If so, maybe you should reconsider. However, don’t allow negative people to necessarily change your mind about going out or doing things. Remind yourself how strong you really are.
2.) What would be worse? Going out and maybe becoming anxious or not going out at all and possibly regretting not at least trying?
Please believe me when I say that I know how hard it can be deciding if you should do something when anxiety can be involved. Thinking about all the negative things that could happen can be scary. However, at the same time, so can not doing something you want because you’re giving into your fears.
I, personally, like to try. I like to go out and give it my best shot. I know that can be easier said than done. Trust me, I do. Still, I’ve gone out to find that I’ve overcome my anxiety and had a great time!