Anxiety sucks – plain and simple. There are so many things about anxiety that are frustrating, but today I’d like to focus on one. Today, I’d like to focus on how, sometimes, anxiety seems to come out of nowhere for no reason.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not always sure that knowing the cause for every anxious moment helps. However, sometimes, when anxiety seems to sneak up on me out of nowhere, it would be nice to know why. Maybe then I could go about fixing the problem.
Take today, for example. I’ve been doing really well lately. However, about ten minutes ago or so, I randomly felt anxious! I didn’t really expect it. I was having such a relaxing afternoon and then, BAM!, I just felt anxious. Unfortunately, calming myself down instantly isn’t one of my strong suits. However, now I’m trying to relax and as you can all see, I’m writing this.
It can be frustrating not totally understanding why you feel anxious. Sometimes I understand why I’m feeling this way and others, I have no idea. Right now, I have a couple of ideas why I started feeling stressed but to be honest, I can’t be certain. While on one hand, it shouldn’t matter why I’m feeling so unsettled because I should just work on getting through it, but on the other hand, knowing sometimes makes me feel a little better.
I guess I’m writing this to let you guys know that I know how frustrating it is when you go from feeling calm to feeling really stressed. I know how devastating it feels to go from feeling on top of the world to feeling like you’ve gone back a step. The thing is though, that nothing can erase the progress that you’ve made and that we all have bad days. Don’t beat yourself up! Work hard and you will get through this!
Today’s challenge is most frustrating love triangle! While this isn’t a complete triangle, I absolutely hate the Lorelai – Chris – Lorelai – Luke relationship in Gilmore Girls. As you all know, I love Lorelai’s character, but I found myself often wanting to yell at the screen, “Pick one already!”. I hated how Lorelai one minute loved Luke and the next, was found sleeping with Christopher! Come on! By the way, I’m a fan of Luke!
Today’s challenge is almost too easy! There’s one character that leaps to mind right away who made the same mistakes over and over and over and…you get the drift! Sam Winchester from Supernatural! I love him but how many times can you befriend demons and drink demon blood before you learn your lesson? Seriously!
So I’m sure that if I thought long and hard about today’s challenge, I’d come up with a better answer. However, I was recently watching Frasier and wondered what happened to Roz’s boyfriend, Roger (Tony Goldwyn). I know that he didn’t technically just disappear (they did kind of explain it, he broke up with Roz), but the break up didn’t really make sense. After all, before they broke up, they seemed to really like each other. In fact, if anything, Roz wasn’t sure how she felt about Roger at first due to his job – not the other way around! Anyway, I really liked Roger’s character and hated how they got rid of him! I guess they either wanted to explore the possibility of Roz and Frasier together or have Roz end up alone? Not really sure!
A pointless character? Brother Adrian from Warehouse 13! As far as I can tell all his character did was establish that Artie wasn’t totally thinking clearly. Could that really have been it? Maybe they just wanted to put in a guest star?
Lately I’ve been making a lot of progress – something that feels amazing! While I’m still not exactly where I want to be, I’ve noticed that I’m getting better at certain things. However, as we all know, anxiety tends to try to fight back when it sees that you’re trying harder to overcome it.
Along with noticing that I’ve been improving in some ways, I’ve also noticed that something else is starting to really bother me. I’ve been starting to have more irrational thoughts and I’ve started obsessing about them. Yesterday I talked to my therapist about this and he asked why I thought this was. I explained that it was probably my anxiety’s way of trying to fight back and he agreed.
While we want to get better and fight our anxiety, another part of our brain wants to hold on to that worry. For one thing, for many of us it’s become a habit, and for another, anxiety is stubborn that way. When anxiety sees us taking control, it will try to throw something else at us; trying to knock us off track. We cannot allow it to succeed.
So what can we do? My therapist gave me some good advice. If you start having negative thoughts and you find yourself obsessing about them, remind yourself that they’re irrational and remind yourself how they’re irrational. Then, force yourself to stop obsessing about the thoughts, and get up and do something! Distract yourself with something positive. As my therapist pointed out, the less you focus on the negative thoughts, the less damage they can cause and the less real they will appear.
Everyone has negative thoughts time to time in their lives, which is normal. But excessive negative thinking can cause physical and mental health problems. Negative thoughts are not caused by just a few people or situations. Everyone experience negative thoughts at some point in their lives. In fact, having negative thoughts is a normal phenomenon and there can be many different reasons for your negative thoughts.
I had been telling you to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. In many of my previous posts I have told that the way you think about yourself whether it is negative or positive your life will become positive and negative respectively.
Negative thoughts are occurring about us mostly in our mind such as “I should be better at this.”, “I’m a loser”, “I’m always ruining everything.” or “I’m pathetic.”
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