Lately I’ve been making a lot of progress – something that feels amazing! While I’m still not exactly where I want to be, I’ve noticed that I’m getting better at certain things. However, as we all know, anxiety tends to try to fight back when it sees that you’re trying harder to overcome it.
Along with noticing that I’ve been improving in some ways, I’ve also noticed that something else is starting to really bother me. I’ve been starting to have more irrational thoughts and I’ve started obsessing about them. Yesterday I talked to my therapist about this and he asked why I thought this was. I explained that it was probably my anxiety’s way of trying to fight back and he agreed.
While we want to get better and fight our anxiety, another part of our brain wants to hold on to that worry. For one thing, for many of us it’s become a habit, and for another, anxiety is stubborn that way. When anxiety sees us taking control, it will try to throw something else at us; trying to knock us off track. We cannot allow it to succeed.
So what can we do? My therapist gave me some good advice. If you start having negative thoughts and you find yourself obsessing about them, remind yourself that they’re irrational and remind yourself how they’re irrational. Then, force yourself to stop obsessing about the thoughts, and get up and do something! Distract yourself with something positive. As my therapist pointed out, the less you focus on the negative thoughts, the less damage they can cause and the less real they will appear.
As always, I wish you all the best!