“Just ignore [him/her/them]”. This is common advice given to those who deal with negative comments from family, friends, and strangers. While it may be easy for some people to ignore rude comments from strangers, it is usually a whole different ballpark when dealing with those who are close to you.
As I’ve mentioned before, while I have a lot of people who care for and support me, I also know a lot of people who don’t understand what I go through and who don’t put much effort into trying to be kind. This is unfortunate. However, having to deal with people who don’t understand what you’re going through or who are less than kind is part of life.
I’d love to say that when my family members are rude to me about my anxiety, it doesn’t bother me. I’d love to say that the fact that I’m doing really well lately makes it easier to just ignore their negative comments. To be perfectly honest with you guys though, it doesn’t. It still hurts when I hear my loved ones make fun of me or make cruel remarks about what I’m going through.
The thing that we have to remember though is that we can’t expect everyone to understand what we go through. Also, to be quite frank, we can’t expect everyone to be kind to us either. There are people who are mean or simply don’t have the patience to be there for us in the way we’d like. However, this does not necessarily mean that they don’t love us, it just means that it’s harder for them to be kind.
I don’t have any magical advice on how to not let others make you feel horrible about your struggles. I’m still trying myself to not let others’ negativity get me down. I do know that a great way to prevent yourself from allowing others to bring you down is to remind yourself of the progress you’ve made. Also, remind yourself that the people who are rude probably don’t go through what you do and they don’t understand how hard you try every single day to get through your struggles and over your obstacles.
Please, above all, remember that there are people who care about you and that as long as you’re trying your best on a consistent basis, you will get through your struggles!
If anyone has any other suggestions on how to deal with negative comments from others, please feel free to comment! Thanks!
Also, thank you to everyone who supports me and is kind!