A Letter To Those Who Have Loved Ones With Mental Health Issues

Dear Whom It May Concern,

I know that this may be difficult for you to understand, to wrap your head around. You may be wondering how this happened, especially if we weren’t always like this. Maybe you think we do this for attention or out of immaturity. I assure you that this is not true. Going through this is not easy for us!

For each of us it’s different; something that somehow triggered this awful feeling – set things in motion. Most of us fight every day to get through this, even if it’s hard to see at times.

We are fighters. While you may think of us as weak and though we may occasionally feel that way, we are actually strong. Every day we get up and try. Even if our steps may appear small, they are important, vital, and significant.

Now, you may look at us and wonder, what’s wrong with them? You may see us struggling with the simplest of tasks and wonder why they seem so difficult to us. Trust me when I say, we wonder the same thing.

You may be wondering why I’m writing this letter. I’m writing it to raise awareness. I know that this won’t solve everything and I know that even after reading this, anxiety and other mental health issues may still seem impossible to understand. The truth is though that whether or not they are understood doesn’t make them any less real or any less scary.

So what can you do to help your loved ones? For starters, you can ask them. We all struggle with different issues, in different ways. Also, a great way to help is to listen and to respect the person who is struggling. You may not truly understand what they go through, but that doesn’t mean you can’t offer a listening ear or your simple respect. In addition, please understand that we are just like everyone else and many of us can function quite normally when our anxiety or other mental health issues aren’t active (what I mean by this is that they’re not currently overwhelming). I know for myself, there are many times when I’m quite fine and don’t feel anxious at all. There are other times when I get incredibly anxious.

The most important thing here is to know that even if you don’t experience the same feelings as your loved ones, that you can and should still try to help. Even if you don’t understand how something helps, if it’s not harmful to anybody, why not help? Also, it’s okay to motivate someone to do something on their own and to encourage them to do something without help, but it wouldn’t be giving in if you also helped them. We all need help sometimes, whether it’s because we struggle with mental health issues or not.

So please be kind. Please try to help one another. Please don’t judge what you don’t truly understand. Please, whether you understand what we go through or not, try your hardest to help in a positive way. Thank you!


20 Replies to “A Letter To Those Who Have Loved Ones With Mental Health Issues”

  1. really you had raised a very sensitive issue on this platform & I would say if everyone on this planet would have somewhat a similar perspective like you, no one around would feel uncomfortable with each other, rather the word ‘special people’ used for disabled ones would no more be special 😀 everyone will be on the same platform, EQUALITY!.. indeed a thought provoking & an inspiring post. Thansk for sharing it. 🙂

  2. B.G. This is a wonderful, informative letter. It’s helpful to explain to loved ones how they can help someone suffering with mental issues/illnesses. It isn’t easy. It can be incredibly overwhelming, but as long as the attempt of trying is there, it can become easier to understand. We are all very strong in our own ways. We strive and fight on the daily, to overcome our anxieties or other issues we may face. Having family and friends there who can help us along the way, and encourage us, is beneficial to say the least. Hope you don’t mind, I’m going to re-blog your post ☺️.

  3. Reblogged this on The Anxiety Chronicles and commented:
    This is a wonderful post to loved ones/caregivers. It helps them to understand how to deal with and helped their family members or friends who suffer from a mental issue/illness. Please if you have not checked out her blog site, head over to GetthingThroughAnxiety. B.G. Is very helpful and informative ☺️.

  4. For me this is your best post yet. Please keep telling us a family how we can help our loved ones with Mental Health issues. I can be lost at times. Thank you for you wonderful letter

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