“You’re weird.” “You’re strange.” “Why are you like this?” “No one else acts this way!”
Chances are that if you deal with anxiety or some sort of mental health issue, you’ve heard some of these rude comments. As ironic as it is, after writing about how some people can be really kind, one of my own family members told me that I was “weird” while I was having an anxious moment. As many of you know, these comments, especially from those who we love, can really hurt.
As I was sitting where I was feeling anxious, I was trying to remember all of the progress I’ve made in general and as of late. I was starting to feel better but still felt stressed. Then, when my relative said what they did, I must admit that it just made me feel worse.
I know that not everyone suffers from anxiety. I know that the way I act due to my anxiety may not always be considered “normal”, but I struggle and I try very hard to get through this. While I try to focus on the fact that I’m trying really hard and that some people will simply never understand what I go through, it still doesn’t always make it easy to deal with people who are unkind.
I’d like to tell you all something. I know it’s difficult to see your friends and family (or maybe even others) put you down because of what you go through but please remember that the way they treat you is not your fault! Some people just don’t know how to act in certain situations. I’m not saying that it makes it okay, but sometimes it’s just how it is. Also, sometimes when someone doesn’t understand something, they tend to be rude instead of trying to understand or doing research. It’s unfortunate, but true.
To all of you who may be reading this and don’t struggle with a mental health issue but know someone who does, please try to be kind. If you don’t know what to say or do, ask the individual. If you don’t understand and can’t find it in your heart to care, then fine, but don’t be cruel. If you don’t understand but want to help, then try your hardest. Just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean you have to be cruel about it.
*If you’d like to hear a great song about the importance of sensitivity towards others’ feelings, please check out the following link. The second video under the comment section is I’m Sensitive by Jewel. Also, by clicking the link, you will be directed to Kaylaa’s blog over at CommonSenseGal.