A Special Message

So yesterday I was watching One Tree Hill. In one of the episodes a girl read some mean comments about her on the internet. In the show (and in real life actually), she played a girl who was just starting to enter the world of being a singer. While she was telling her friends about the mean comments, one of the characters said the following:

“It’s the easiest thing to tear down somebody’s work. The hard part is actually creating it. It’s criticism vs. creation.”

This made me think of something. There are so many people in the world that use the internet as a soap box for cruelty. Instead of taking the time to be kind, they are cruel. Instead of just keeping their mean comments to themselves, they feel the need to force them on others.

However, I have found that through blogging, there are so many of you out there that are kind. Instead of cruelty, you spread kindness. Even if you don’t agree with someone, you aren’t mean. For the most part, you share your opinions in a nice matter.

Now, I realize it isn’t always this way. There are tons of people who comment rude things on each others’ blogs and tons of individuals that in general, find things about others and their writing to pick apart. I find this horrible and quite frankly, pointless. What’s the point of tearing someone down? What’s the point in spreading your hatred? It’s one thing to have an opinion, it’s another to be cruel and hurt someone’s feelings.

I wanted to write this post as mainly a thank you. I want to thank all of you who go out of your way to be kind to me and others. So many of you inspire your readers in ways that you might not even realize. Not only do you inspire others with your posts, but also with your kind, thoughtful, and honest comments.

Please don’t ever doubt how much your kindness means to others. While we shouldn’t always depend on others to be happy, it certainly makes life better when we hear nice words about ourselves and what makes us most happy. So please, continue to spread kindness and please don’t ever doubt that your kind words make a difference!


22 Replies to “A Special Message”

  1. Wonderful post. I love your blog. You may not think so but you inspire with your pure thoughts. I will sound a little like Forrest Gump with this, but my Momma always told me if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything. This world has become so cruel and uncaring. The internet allows people to hide behind an avatar & say terrible things. TV shows like Amercian Idol with that talentless jerk Simon Cowell made it fashionable to criticize people’s talents and creativity. Such a shame. I will continue to be different. My messages will bore with their kindness. Imagine how the world would be if everyone tried to encourage, inspire, motivate, and love. Love your blog, adore your thoughts, and cherish your friendship.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind compliment and thoughtful words! You’re right, while it’s only TV, famous people have made it seem “fashionable” to be cruel which it’s really not. Constructive criticism is fine and good, but when cruelty enters the picture, it’s a whole different story. Thank you for being so inspiring and sharing your positivity!

  2. This is an amazing thought and gesture. I completely agree with every word of it! To be honest in my life it has never been those anonymous people who effect me so much in negativity. Although, I’ve barely been blogging and don’t put myself out there much on the internet to have any comments, its been the people closest to me who seem to bring me down. Whether it was my parents, romantic relationships, or work relationships those seem to be the most negative in my life. Its a shame that I was raised being teased and was told all my faults whenever they were mad at me. I do not understand where this venomous attitude comes from. I was raised around it but I did not cultivate it. Working with women seems to be the worst form of torture, because one minute they like you and the next they’re having an attitude and rolling their eyes at you because of a work situation. I wish people would just grow up. I do not if I would be classified as having social anxiety or not. Which is half the reason I was attracted to this blog but I get so stressed out by other people’s attitudes that I literally have pain in my shoulder muscles. Most of the time I feel that I am sensitive and that its a fault of mine. Why should it be that way? No one should be able to make me feel as if I’m not good enough simply because I am different from them. Its exhausting. So, in the end its people like you that give me hope and belief that the world is not a metaphorical rotting, chaotic place.

    1. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with so much negativity. No one deserves to be treated like that. Thank you for saying that it’s people like me who give you hope.

      I can definitely relate to the fact that it’s the ones closest to you who are rude who upset you the most. I think it affects us more than if strangers are mean because family and friends are the ones who are supposed to understand and respect us. Stay strong! There are people who love and care for you! If you need to talk, I’m here!

  3. I often wonder what possesses people to want to abuse and hurt others on social media. The rise of social media has provided so many wonderful benefits to people across the world, in fact I wouldn’t be writing this if it wasn’t for social media. However the one downside is it provides the ideal opportunity for bullies (and that’s what they are plain and simple) to hide behind their keyboards and spew out their trash and warped thinking. Small minded people with warped views on life. Keep the faith, as with many things, their is more good than bad in this world, despite what the media would like us to believe. Really enjoy reading your blogs, keep them coming!!!

    1. Thank you Steve! I too believe the world has more good people than bad. Unfortunately, there are negative people who find it easy to be cruel on the internet. We just have to be thankful for those who are kind. Thanks for stopping by!

  4. You inspire me with your kindness and positivity!
    This part rings particularly true for me: “While we shouldn’t always depend on others to be happy, it certainly makes life better when we hear nice words about ourselves and what makes us most happy.”

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