We witness a lot of negativity in our lives. We see negative people, negative behaviors, and negative events. We cannot always control how negative people act or behave, but we can control how we deal with it.
If someone is putting you down, you can tell them kindly that you love them, but don’t wish to listen to their negative words. Then you need to walk away and practice facing your fears and practice making yourself a better person; a person filled with positivity and happiness. Take the negative words and actions of others and turn them into this: a lesson that you should be positive and happy instead of negative and miserable. Teach yourself to be kind and confident, along with strong. Remind yourself that negative people are unhappy and work on making yourself the opposite!
It can be difficult being in tense situations. What if someone is treating you poorly and you want to stand up for yourself, but remain kind and calm? What if you want to stand your ground without getting into an argument? Luckily, there is an answer! What is it? We calmly state that while we love the individual that we are having a disagreement with, we do not agree with them and that we do not wish to deal with their negativity. Now, the other person may not respond well to this, but that’s okay. All you have to do is keep repeating yourself and then just walk away. It is possible to be both kind and strong at the same time. All we have to do is put on our metaphorical bulletproof vests!
Along with dealing with those who are rude to us, we are sometimes put in situations when we see the ones we love treated with disrespect. Sometimes we should kindly stand up for these people, but sometimes because of the fact that unfortunately, arguments can be between two people we love, sometimes we just need to remove ourselves from the situation and let them handle it themselves. The same lesson applies here though: that while we cannot always control what goes on around us, we can deal with how we cope with it. When we see two or more people we love not getting along, we can step aside and practice making ourselves the kind of people who are respectful, kind, forgiving, and strong.
Here’s a song by No Doubt that I thought might be helpful in getting my point across. It shows that while you may be struggling or dealing with some issues (whether it be anxiety or something else), you can get through it!
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
WHAT’S YOUR 20 (DO YOU COPY?)
WHERE’S YOUR BRAIN (DO YOU COPY?)
CHECKING IN TO CHECK YOU OUT
CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR WHEREABOUTS
COPY THAT (DO YOU COPY?)
YOU’RE ACTING STRANGE (DO YOU COPY?)
SO TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON
IT’S SO HEAVY I BET
I’M FINE (NOTHING’S GONNA KNOCK THIS GIRL DOWN)
I’M HELLA POSITIVE FOR REAL I’M ALL GOOD
NO I’M FINE (NOTHING’S GONNA KNOCK THIS GIRL DOWN)
IT’S KINDA COMPLICATED THAT’S FOR SURE
BUT YOU CAN SEE IT IN MY EYES
YOU CAN READ IT ON MY LIPS
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
AND I REALLY MEAN IT THIS TIME
AND YOU KNOW IT’S SUCH A TRIP
DON’T GET ME STARTED
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
NO BIG DEAL (I CAN HANDLE IT)
IT’LL BOUNCE OFF ME (I CAN HANDLE IT)
BEEN AROUND THE BLOCK BEFORE
DOESN’T MATTER ANYMORE
HERE WE GO AGAIN (ARE YOU KIDDING ME?)
ARE YOU INSANE? (ARE YOU KIDDING ME?)
UNDERNEATH THE AVALANCHE
IT’S SO HEAVY AGAIN
I’M FINE (NOTHING’S GONNA KNOCK THIS GIRL DOWN)
I’M HELLA POSITIVE FOR REAL I’M ALL GOOD
NO I’M FINE (NOTHING’S GONNA KNOCK THIS GIRL DOWN)
IT’S KINDA COMPLICATED THAT’S FOR SURE
BUT YOU CAN SEE IT IN MY EYES
YOU CAN READ IT ON MY LIPS
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
AND I REALLY MEAN IT THIS TIME
AND YOU KNOW IT’S SUCH A TRIP
DON’T GET ME STARTED
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
GOT YOU 10-4 LOVER
I’M A ROUGH AND TOUGH, I’M A ROUGH AND TOUGH
NOTHING’S GONNA KNOCK THIS GIRL DOWN
BUT YOU CAN SEE IT IN MY EYES
YOU CAN READ IT ON MY LIPS
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
AND I REALLY MEAN IT THIS TIME
AND YOU KNOW IT’S SUCH A TRIP
DON’T GET ME STARTED
I’M TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
GOTTA GET A HOLD ON THIS
TRYING TO GET A HOLD ON THIS
DON’T GET ME STARTED
GOTTA GET A HOLD ON THIS
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
GET IN LINE AND SETTLE DOWN
*Lyrics found on http://www.nodoubt.com
**Some people have said this song is about drugs. Personally, I don’t think so. I think it’s about the fact that we’re all fighting to get through something and that while it may be hard, we can get through it. Please do not take me posting this song the wrong way. We all have different ideas behind the meaning of songs, and I believe this one has to do with having issues but being able to overcome them in healthy ways (so no, not by taking drugs not prescribed by a doctor!).
