Being proud of our progress is essential. Each time we succeed at facing our anxiety, we give ourselves reason to believe that we can get through our fears. While there may be times when others will recognize how well we do, there might not always be people other than ourselves telling us how proud they are of us or how they noticed an improvement in our behavior. Just as we have to be the ones to motivate ourselves (although others can help), we need to be the ones to tell ourselves what a great job we are doing when we are successful.
While perhaps slightly unfortunate, the fact that others sometimes do not mention how well we are doing or how proud of us they are, can be a good thing. It is true that it would be nice if everybody showed kindness, but sometimes others not mentioning our success reminds us of the fact that we have to remind ourselves; we have to depend on our own self-esteem.
As I’ve mentioned previously, it is okay and good to have people who support you. However, not everyone will be so helpful and in those situations, you have to be prepared to help yourself. One example of helping yourself is that when you have a good day, or even a good moment, you have to congratulate yourself, tell yourself how proud you are that you were successful! Telling yourself that you did a wonderful job and that you got through something is a great way to boost your self-confidence and show yourself that your anxiety does not have to control you! Be proud of your progress and remind yourself that you can get through your anxiety!
Chances are that if you struggle with anxiety, you’ve felt guilty at some point in your life. Whether you’ve felt guilty because you had trouble doing something you felt should have been simpler or because you’ve asked others to help you in your struggles, there have probably been many times when you have felt like you’ve done something wrong. Sometimes we are responsible for making ourselves feel guilty while other times, it is due to the words of others.
Unfortunately, the fact is that due to not everyone understanding what suffering with anxiety is like, it can lead to some people being less than kind. In fact, some people may even make rude comments and may even say that they are disappointed in you or disappointed in the situation that you are going through. However, we cannot always concentrate on pleasing others.
While we should try our hardest not to make others suffer due to our struggling with anxiety, it is not always too much to ask that those who love us try their hardest to help. However, we cannot expect everyone to be understanding and helpful. Sometimes we need to learn that just because someone may be disappointed in us does not mean that we should be disappointed in ourselves. As long as we try our hardest and try to help ourselves, we will be able to be proud of ourselves.
Oftentimes, we tend to know that we have to practice and exercise in order to overcome our anxiety, but we still manage to find a way not to. Whether we purposely make excuses for ourselves not to practice or we simply forget to, it’s important that we avoid this trap. Instead, I recently learned that the best way to make sure that we are accountable for our own progress is to make a schedule.
For example, if you want to take certain steps in overcoming your anxiety or exercise a certain amount of times during the day, you should write down the specific times you want to do so and try your hardest to stick to these times. At the very least, you should make sure you practice or exercise a certain amount of time each day. This will help to both motivate you and remind you that you need to practice in order to get better. I wish you all the best of luck!