When you find yourself making progress, embrace it! While this is not an invitation to stop practicing (far from it), it is an invitation to focus on your progress and enjoy the happiness that comes along with it. While there may still be days where you struggle, a great way to push through these times is to focus on your positive experiences. Anxiety is often difficult to get through and when we see that we can indeed get through it, we need to hold on to that truth. So when you feel good about getting through something that is usually difficult for you, take it all in! If you should come across an obstacle that seems hard to get over, remember how good it felt when you faced your anxiety the last time and got through it. Remind yourself that you CAN in fact get through your anxiety and that when you do, it will feel wonderful!
Thinking is highly essential and important. We need to think to stay alive, to make good decisions, and to challenge ourselves. However, when it comes to anxiety, it is possible to over think.
Yes, I’m speaking about obsessing. When we give into our sabotaging thoughts, we also give into our anxiety. I am not saying that all anxiety is caused by overthinking, but I do know that for some, it is where the problem lies. We get so worried about what might happen that we convince ourselves that something bad will happen before we can even try to prove to ourselves that we can get through our anxiety instead of giving into it.
While I know it is not always an easy task, I have witnessed the fact that sometimes, if you are concentrating on something other than your fears, you don’t even think about your anxieties and therefore, you can enjoy life without even thinking about the what-ifs. Again, I am not saying to abandon your thought process, but to try to make sure that your thought process does not sabotage your success and ability to get through your fears. Thinking positively is the key, not negatively.
As much as I had been preaching about practice, I hadn’t been practicing as much as I should have been. I let working hard in other areas come between me and my practicing in order to get over my fears. What I am saying is not to abandon other important tasks, but rather to realize that your health is even more important. For example, if you’re working really hard to get a job you want, that is a really important goal to reach, but you also need to concentrate on not letting your fears control you so that when you are ready to go out and look for that career, you don’t have to worry about unneccessary anxiety getting in the way of your dreams.
So what do you do? You practice whenever you can. I was often told that I kept coming up with excuses not to practice. While I don’t think they were exactly ‘excuses’, they were reasons. I honestly sometimes forgot to practice and sometimes I was busy or simply just lazy. The truth is though, that when it comes to overcoming one’s anxiety, laziness or forgetfulness is not an option. Also, always putting other things first isn’t always an option either. So, yes, continue to work hard in other areas but also remember that practicing in order to get through your anxiety is extremely important and should not be shrugged off.